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RE: My search for a female submissive for us.. - 10/11/2007 8:07:08 PM   
kitttty


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Master had me write this story about the issue-

http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/stories/story.php?storyid=5844


Finding someone as devoted as the fictional characters in the story is not a requirement. Finding someone who will simply suck Master's cock with me is the requirement.

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RE: My search for a female submissive for us.. - 10/11/2007 8:11:25 PM   
Kalista07


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quote:

ORIGINAL: kitttty

I accept the task. I do not accept the ramifications of failure. I failed once before and that resulted in Master not speaking or writing to me for a few weeks. It royally sucked. It's so frustrating. I just wish I knew how to find a willing woman.


Kitty,
i really am not trying to offend You here....However, this is one of the biggest reasons my previous D/s relationships didn't work.  The man i'm currently with and i have discussed punishments at great length.  We have, in fact, discussed my possible reaction to with holding contact and cutting off communication.  We have decided (okay, i gave my input and he decided... he he) that because we value communication and it's one of the tenets that our relationship is founded on this would be detrimental to our relationship.
Sorry, not trying to hi-jack Your thread...
Kali

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RE: My search for a female submissive for us.. - 10/11/2007 8:34:33 PM   
Missokyst


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Kyst
quote:

ORIGINAL: kitttty
. Finding someone who will simply suck Master's cock with me is the requirement.


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pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding ~Gibran, Kahlil

“The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you. You just got to find the ones worth suffering for.”
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RE: My search for a female submissive for us.. - 10/11/2007 8:49:34 PM   
chathamvahere


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Status: offline 		Finding a female hmmm, good luck, honestly it sounds like your Master just wants a threesome,you might want to try Swinglifestyle its free to couples and it may be easier to find what you seek,, but as stated above, couples looking for females are a dime a dozen, he really should be happy he has a sub willing to do his bidding, and he should at least ask you what you want in this relationship, anyway, good luck in your search.

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RE: My search for a female submissive for us.. - 10/11/2007 9:47:33 PM   
obis


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From: Austin, TX, USA
Status: offline 		The answer to your problem is just to hire a prostitute. You're not looking for a relationship, you don't care about her personal qualities, so get a pro -- she'll be young, pretty, willing to do whatever, friendly, outgoing, will laugh at all your jokes and compliment you both on how sexy you are, and will leave at the end of the session without causing any relationship drama. I can guarantee you this solution is 1000x better than any other option you're exploring -- everyone will leave happy.

I am willing to wager real cash money that one of the three of you will be unhappy at the end of the day if you follow any other method of finding a person to have a random threesome with.

And I say this as someone who HAS actually found the "one-night unicorn" in the past successfully. My best results in real life were going to clubs WITH my girl and picking up a girl TOGETHER. But we enjoyed the chase together, flirting with girls we met, and it was never any skin off our backs to go home with just each other.

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RE: My search for a female submissive for us.. - 10/11/2007 9:59:47 PM   
MissMagnolia


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Status: offline 		Hmmmm, just a suggestion, but maybe go to a BDSM club/meeting/whatever they're called, and find a Dom/me who loans out their subs for one nighters?

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RE: My search for a female submissive for us.. - 10/11/2007 11:30:37 PM   
LadyLynx


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Status: offline 		like the others said, it is extremely difficult for to find the right third. especially if it's a Master/sub dynamic. and I really think he should be putting in as much equal effort into this search.  check swingers groups, there are several yahoo groups in fact. not to mention the website someone listed above. connect with your local bdsm community, not just to find potential partners, but also to get to others that are poly/swingers. I am willing to bet that like most beginner poly/swingers, neither of you probably don't know much.  personally I would have to know the person/couple pretty well before loaning out my sub to them.  incase you hadn't gotten the idea, let me spell it out loud and clear: BOTH OF YOU NEED TO BE RESEARCHING THIS TOPIC!!! sorry for yelling, but I cannot stress enough how important this is.  And you my dear, need to be sure this is something you want for you, not just to please your Master.  I have heard of ALOT of stories about how this type of thing can blow apart relationships.  **hugs and good luck to you both**

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RE: My search for a female submissive for us.. - 10/12/2007 4:29:57 AM   
Sabella


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quote:

ORIGINAL: kitttty

These are my two 'easy' tasks this year for Master- 1) get another girl to play with. Doesnt matter if she is thin or fat or old or young. He will even accept a girl who isn't submissive but just wants a three some. She just has to want to play with us.

Another vote for a swinger's club. It'll cost you the price of admission *snorts*


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and that eye turned inward so that it looked into his mind and he died of what he saw there.”
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RE: My search for a female submissive for us.. - 10/12/2007 5:16:58 AM   
Celeste43


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Status: offline 		You are the failure if another female turns him down? Sorry, that's unacceptable. Call up the local escort services in your town and find out the costs. Then send the info to him. That way he can play with someone else as well. Couples have looked for years for a bi sub female without success.

This isn't an 'easy' task, it's damn near impossible. If you can't get anyone, you get punished because of something you have no control over? That's about as sensible as punishing you for 'allowing' it to rain when he wants to go to the lake. And as contemptible. And if this is his idea of how to run a healthy relationship, no wonder he has to hide behind your skirts while chasing other women; none of them will want him once they talk to him.

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RE: My search for a female submissive for us.. - 10/12/2007 5:51:38 AM   
GhitaAmati


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Status: offline 		Ive seen alot of votes for swingers clubs...but the elusive bi single female is well...just as elusive there...are you looking for someone to join your relationship? Or just to have kinky sex with occasionally?

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RE: My search for a female submissive for us.. - 10/12/2007 6:38:13 AM   
BeingChewsie


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quote:

ORIGINAL: kitttty

Finding someone as devoted as the fictional characters in the story is not a requirement. Finding someone who will simply suck Master's cock with me is the requirement.


If that is all he is after order out and pay for it. You'll get better service and and no after issues.You are competing with a large number of couples for that elusive third.

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RE: My search for a female submissive for us.. - 10/12/2007 7:09:44 AM   
Twicehappy2x


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quote:

ORIGINAL: kitttty

I failed once before and that resulted in Master not speaking or writing to me for a few weeks.


Considering that some couples look for years and years to find a suitable third, i hope that is not his plan if you fail this time.

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RE: My search for a female submissive for us.. - 10/12/2007 1:04:06 PM   
Prinsexx


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quote:

ORIGINAL: kitttty
This is really important to him, and therefore it is to me too. What should I do?

Try; craig's list

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RE: My search for a female submissive for us.. - 10/12/2007 1:14:16 PM   
mnottertail


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Aceton

Wow, sorry, but any man that sends his girl out to find a girl for him is such a royal pussy that I can't even begin to describe it. Any master that cuts his sub off for failing when she tried her best.... well, I don't know you from a hole in the wall, but I am going to assume that you're a decent person worthy of being treated well, so I'm going to tell you this even though I know you don't want to hear it and won't listen anyway. He's an asstard (IMNSHO). Forget finding another girl and find a guy who doesn't need his sub to pick up chicks for him.


LOL, you sure about that.......in my younger days I had four subs in the house...have you ever owned four cunts?  Let me tell you something, them women are vicious fuckin infighters.........you look around you here at all the women who come out here and say Master brought in this girl and she is fuckin----yadda yadda yadda ---------

The girl is sent, first she gotta be able to stand the other girl.......the man is secondary in this, believe me. Don't give a fuck Master or not.


Ron

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RE: My search for a female submissive for us.. - 10/12/2007 1:36:50 PM   
nyrisa


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Status: offline 		*L* I was all set to say that it makes no sense for the sub to try to recruit a female, when it is the Master's qualities that will decide whether the other female wishes to be involved with him or not.

But after reading your post, I do have to admit, you have a point. One that is very seldom ever acknowledged, but definitely present.

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The last thing I want to do is hurt you...but it is still on my list.

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RE: My search for a female submissive for us.. - 10/12/2007 1:51:04 PM   
Prinsexx


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RE: My search for a female submissive for us.. - 10/12/2007 2:36:56 PM   
DCroommate


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Status: offline 		This is Ann here,

You have some good advice,,  the idea of a joint profile,, with your Master taking the lead is a good idea.. with it outlined carefully what you both are looking for..  Hmm wonder where I got this idea from..  You can maintain the profile and check and answer most of the replys but it can show you both, and give potential subs the information they need to decide if they want to talk with you both.

Talk to your Master and make sure you understand what is wanted and what is expected and what the ramifications will be.
You do not live together.. so will this be for every face to face meeting. or for occassional extra play.  you should ask him..

We found a third at the local club, she wanted to play with Master, so I told him and they played, they hit it off and 2 months later she moved in as roommate.. the relationship took longer.. It is hard to just find someone to join in as third..ours is working out but poly is difficult at best.. it is a lot of work. is he ready for that?

~ann


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RE: My search for a female submissive for us.. - 10/12/2007 2:53:58 PM   
RapierFugue


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Missokyst

I never get why men get their women to find them another girlfriend.



Natural selection [1]
 
[1] In certain fundamentalist states this may also be called “intelligent decline”, where the poor girl concerned runs around, frantically trying to find a girl for her Neanderthal of a “Master”, until she finally exclaims “to hell with this shit!”

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RE: My search for a female submissive for us.. - 10/12/2007 3:01:54 PM   
completenz


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love this, thankyou
C & c

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RE: My search for a female submissive for us.. - 10/12/2007 3:13:07 PM   
RapierFugue


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quote:

ORIGINAL: completenz

 
love this, thankyou
C & c



You are most welcome.
 
These posts are only possible because of the unique way the BBC is funded.

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