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RE: My search for a female submissive for us.. - 10/13/2007 1:38:47 AM

Prinsexx

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But he can't be absent from the equation, no emotionally stable woman is going to sign up for a (non-paid) threesome not having any idea who the guy involved is.

I totally agree. nd in our situation I think He knows that it what I really desire. Bottom line is (scuse pun) that if he excludes MY pansexuality from the equarion I am going to go find a chick anyway. perhaps this is different from the OP.

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RE: My search for a female submissive for us.. - 10/13/2007 5:05:22 AM

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Hi Kittty

Having read through 5 pages of your comments, I am still not certain what you are seeking or how you feel about it. Your profile says "sister sub" which means someone to join the relationship, yet your posts indicate "just someone to play with, the person or their details unimportant to either of you" .... which is it?
Don't you ( both ) need to know this before you involve another person? They will certainly want to know what is required of them.

re: your feelings about this
In your posts I read sarcasm, indifference, distain, frustration, jealousy....and not a positive thought or comment was to be found.

what are you hoping to attract with that attitude?
would YOU be attracted to this scenario, given the above?
Granted this can be a weird medium and perhaps the way your word are coming across isn't how they are intended by you ......or maybe it's my perspective/interpretation that is the problem.

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He wants a 3rd to make you jealous? and "help" you know you are his #1 girl?

ya, that'll work....not!

Plllllllease tell me you are kidding with this.

Others have suggested hiring someone. good idea!
your master says "no thats cheating" what?? I don't understand how that is cheating.

On these boards we all go round and round about labels..good or bad idea? >
well, THIS might be a perfect example of why labels are necessary..
seeking sub ? seeking bottom? seeking masochist? seeking really strong, disengaged 3rd with a suit of emotional armour, because she will NEED it to deal with this situation ?

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RE: My search for a female submissive for us.. - 10/13/2007 7:57:41 AM

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He wants a 3rd to make you jealous? and "help" you know you are his #1 girl? ya, that'll work....not!

yeah, I don't know how that one got ascribed to me. No. That's someone else's issue. In my case the 2nd girl is not supposed to be there just to make me jealous.

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Having read through 5 pages of your comments, I am still not certain what you are seeking or how you feel about it. Your profile says "sister sub" which means someone to join the relationship, yet your posts indicate "just someone to play with, the person or their details unimportant to either of you" .... which is it?

Ok, the sister sub is ideal. It is not required...yet. Right now what is required is a playmate that will suck Master's cock with me.

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Others have suggested hiring someone. good idea!
your master says "no thats cheating" what?? I don't understand how that is cheating.

It's cheating- Like I said, the point of the task is not to have a threesome. The point of the task is to make me put effort into finding the woman and successfully bringing her to the Master.

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eeking really strong, disengaged 3rd with a suit of emotional armour, because she will NEED it to deal with this situation ?

Aint that the truth though if she is going to stick around as the additional sub. Which is why I am totally not worried about her taking my place. No seriously- for a girl to stick around she would just have to be into the somewhat unique appeal that the Master has.

And as for the STD comment, WTF? Apparently hiring someone was the way to go, but if I dont do this I somehow *increase* my liklihood of getting an STD?

Well, what else could I do? I could ditch the Master and find another partner of whatever sort- oh but wait that would mean exposing myself to an additional person, hence putting myself at the same STD risk as finding a third girl.

So, I will join a local group and try CL some more. I will take what I can get, but ideally this is what I want- an attractive woman to serve me as Master orders me to be served and as I order her to serve me. She will also have to serve Master with me. And maybe alone if he wants. But I want her to be submissive to both of us. Master thinks that would be good for me. But I know that this can be hard to come by, so we will settle for a one night stand or occaisional whatever with a chick that just wants a threesome without any D/s component.

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RE: My search for a female submissive for us.. - 10/13/2007 9:56:05 AM

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This situation just doesn't seem right to me. Whatever you do, just be careful that you don't get hurt.

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RE: My search for a female submissive for us.. - 10/13/2007 10:27:23 AM

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Well...ask for opinions, and you get opinions....plenty of them, all reflecting people's history and perspectives...so here is Mine, as a Man who once had (and found) the same fantasy as your Master:

"Couple Seeking Girl for Casual Sex" is perhaps the most common ad you will ever see, both on CM, Alt.com, and any swinger mag or website. This is the honest reflection of the common male fantasy of having two girls at once.
"Girl Seeking Couple for Casual Sex" is the least common ad. There are, on rare occasion, girls who get a thrill out of playing the role of "wanton slut" for one night, or a weekend, being the total slave slut to service a couple...but honestly, who is content with that for more than that? Few, who are emotionally healthy.
"Slave To Serve Dom-Dom Couple" is much more common...but this needs to be read carefully...a girl who is excited at the prospect of servicing a Dominant Man and Woman, wants, not surprisingly, a Dominant Man, and a Dominant Woman.....not a sister submissive who may, or may not, want to dominate the girl, or sorta top her...in My history and experience, slaves who seek a Dom-Dom couples are very intense, and demand a very strong hand. And just as surprisingly, even the most servile slave is a real person, with desires, dreams, needs and hopes, and after the thrill of being the Friday night fuckbuddy fades, she will want some sort of emotionally fulfilling relationship, that fits with her plans for a life.

So in order to find this girl you and Master must:
1. Outcompete the other 4,572 CouplesSeekingSlavegirl here;
2. Find a girl who is geographically compatible;
3. Find a girl who you find physically attractive;
4. Find a girl who finds you both physically attractive;
5. Find a girl who is emotionally stable;
6. Find a girl who is unencumbered by messy life stuff like children
7. Find a girl who is desiring to share a Man;
8. Find a girl who is bisexual;
9. Find a girl who enjoys being submissive to another submissive;
10 Find a girl who is not secretly looking to replace you;

Quite a tall order, just to fulfill a porn fantasy, don't you think?

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RE: My search for a female submissive for us.. - 10/13/2007 11:28:54 AM

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1. Outcompete the other 4,572 CouplesSeekingSlavegirl here;

Yes, I must do that.

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2. Find a girl who is geographically compatible;

It would be nice if she were close, but she doesn't have to be.

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3. Find a girl who you find physically attractive;

yeah although I am not picky. Master might be.

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4. Find a girl who finds you both physically attractive;

Right. As a submissive, I have broad physical appeal. As a domme, I have less. I think Master is handsome at least. What do most submissive females like in dominant men?

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5. Find a girl who is emotionally stable;

Not required.

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6. Find a girl who is unencumbered by messy life stuff like children

I dont care if she is married or has kids or anything.

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7. Find a girl who is desiring to share a Man;

Right.

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8. Find a girl who is bisexual;

Right.

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9. Find a girl who enjoys being submissive to another submissive;

Doesn't anyone think that is hot? I do.

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10 Find a girl who is not secretly looking to replace you;

If wanting to replace me makes her want to play, Im fine with it. Actually, now that I think about that it seems to turn me on. hmm.

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RE: My search for a female submissive for us.. - 10/13/2007 11:30:31 AM

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Wow!!!
Talk about a needle in a haystack!

To kitttty : as they say "good luck with that"

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RE: My search for a female submissive for us.. - 10/13/2007 2:00:38 PM

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ORIGINAL: RapierFugue

Natural selection [1]

[1] In certain fundamentalist states this may also be called “intelligent decline”, where the poor girl concerned runs around, frantically trying to find a girl for her Neanderthal of a “Master”,

Aren't all dominant males Neanderthals...thank goodness...how else do they come pre-prgrammed to drag one round by one's hair?

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RE: My search for a female submissive for us.. - 10/13/2007 2:03:02 PM

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So in order to find this girl you and Master must:

6. Find a girl who is unencumbered by messy life stuff like children

Now that's impossible....kids are not messy life stuff......

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RE: My search for a female submissive for us.. - 10/13/2007 2:05:15 PM

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My Master has ordered me to find a submissive partner for us. I

I have been thinking about this....better that he let you have any say in it at all eh?
I did tell Mine today that had he not asked me to I would have felt a sense of rejection.....

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RE: My search for a female submissive for us.. - 10/13/2007 2:13:31 PM

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ORIGINAL: kitttty

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1. Outcompete the other 4,572 CouplesSeekingSlavegirl here;

Yes, I must do that.

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2. Find a girl who is geographically compatible;

It would be nice if she were close, but she doesn't have to be.

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3. Find a girl who you find physically attractive;

yeah although I am not picky. Master might be.

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4. Find a girl who finds you both physically attractive;

Right. As a submissive, I have broad physical appeal. As a domme, I have less. I think Master is handsome at least. What do most submissive females like in dominant men?

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5. Find a girl who is emotionally stable;

Not required.

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6. Find a girl who is unencumbered by messy life stuff like children

I dont care if she is married or has kids or anything.

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7. Find a girl who is desiring to share a Man;

Right.

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8. Find a girl who is bisexual;

Right.

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9. Find a girl who enjoys being submissive to another submissive;

Doesn't anyone think that is hot? I do.

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10 Find a girl who is not secretly looking to replace you;

If wanting to replace me makes her want to play, Im fine with it. Actually, now that I think about that it seems to turn me on. hmm.

RE #3--You aren't picky? At all? So if the girl you found who was willing to subject herself to this farce was someone who only bathed once a week and smelled of rotten fish, you'd fuck her anyway? Everyone is picky, its just a matter of degree...deluding yourself into thinking that you can just roll in the sack with anyone who shows up says more about your naivete than anything else.

RE #4--It varies based on the submissive. But I can tell you one thing I think most of them don't find attractive, a man who finds it necessary to hide behind the skirts of a woman, and who sends his woman out to fish for his next catch.

RE#5-- If you think emotional stability isn't required, I wish you all the luck in the world. Once again, your naivete is showing. Why on earth would you want to bring someone into your relationship who wasn't emotionally stable? Think about it. You say you aren't worried about these sorts of things, but what happens if you find "the one" and she turns out to be a manic depressive with borderline personality disorder, and she starts emotionally manipulating one or the other or both of you, with behaviors like suicide attempts, lying, being emotionally needy and clingy, and on and on...

Really, think about what you are saying here. Because it sounds to me as if you aren't, and your master certainly is thinking with the wrong head if this is all the more guideline he has given you.

There are other points that could be made here (like the fact that most of the submissives I know, including myself, wouldn't see any point in submitting to a submissive...why would they when there are Doms just waiting to be had?) but I'll leave them alone.

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RE: My search for a female submissive for us.. - 10/13/2007 3:24:20 PM

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ORIGINAL: Prinsexx

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ORIGINAL: RapierFugue

Natural selection [1]

[1] In certain fundamentalist states this may also be called “intelligent decline”, where the poor girl concerned runs around, frantically trying to find a girl for her Neanderthal of a “Master”,

Aren't all dominant males Neanderthals...thank goodness...how else do they come pre-prgrammed to drag one round by one's hair?

Thankfully, no they aren’t. At least, not all of them.

Ne·an·der·thal
n.

An extinct human species (Homo neanderthalensis) or subspecies (Homo sapiens neanderthalensis) living during the late Pleistocene Epoch throughout most of Europe and parts of Asia and northern Africa and associated with Middle Paleolithic tools.

An individual belonging to this species or subspecies.

Slang A crude, boorish, or slow-witted person. HTH.

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RE: My search for a female submissive for us.. - 10/13/2007 3:28:46 PM

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I got your point

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RE: My search for a female submissive for us.. - 10/13/2007 3:38:44 PM

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I have been thinking about this....better that he let you have any say in it at all eh?

I dont know if I had any say in it, but I suppose since I have never objected to this this isn't an order against my will.

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RE #3--You aren't picky? At all? So if the girl you found who was willing to subject herself to this farce was someone who only bathed once a week and smelled of rotten fish, you'd fuck her anyway? Everyone is picky, its just a matter of degree...deluding yourself into thinking that you can just roll in the sack with anyone who shows up says more about your naivete than anything else.

I am not picky in that i will not reject anyone that Master accepts.

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RE#5-- If you think emotional stability isn't required, I wish you all the luck in the world. Once again, your naivete is showing. Why on earth would you want to bring someone into your relationship who wasn't emotionally stable? Think about it. You say you aren't worried about these sorts of things, but what happens if you find "the one" and she turns out to be a manic depressive with borderline personality disorder, and she starts emotionally manipulating one or the other or both of you, with behaviors like suicide attempts, lying, being emotionally needy and clingy, and on and on...

I am sure that Master will not take any of this shit from her and wont be scarred by thwarting her headcase aims. I am also sure that he will not let me be hurt by her.

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There are other points that could be made here (like the fact that most of the submissives I know, including myself, wouldn't see any point in submitting to a submissive...why would they when there are Doms just waiting to be had?) but I'll leave them alone.

Actually, female dominants completely revolt me. I do not mind acting as a female dominant because I have no need to be sexually attracted to myself. When I am the Domme, I see the sexuality of whoever is submitting to me and both submissive men and women are enticing to me (women more than men). But I can say that I would never enjoy submitting to a female Domme, but I would enjoy submitting to a female submissive because to me female submissives are soooo much sexier. In erotica, i rarely come across female submissives submitting to other female submissives so i do suppose it is an unusual taste.

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RE: My search for a female submissive for us.. - 10/13/2007 3:43:20 PM

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I thought Neanderthals are suspected to have been a less agressive species than homo sapiens sapien. It was our ancestors that did the dragging cavewomen by the hair thing.

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