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RE: What were you missing in life? - 10/14/2007 5:37:45 PM   
Celeste43


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ORIGINAL: velvetears

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ORIGINAL: mistoferin

I'm like I am because I didn't get a pony.



i was raised a city kid and i wanted a pony too lol.... my parents pointed out we'd have to tether him to a parking meter and he'd have no grass to eat - what bubble bursters!  Probably why i am the way i am



That's it. Another city girl who couldn't have a pony. Although I made up for it by moving upstate a couple of hours and buying them for my daughter. I don't ride horses, I just feed them treats!

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RE: What were you missing in life? - 10/14/2007 6:29:35 PM   
Maya2001


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Status: offline 		HMMM  I took a look at the your profile(OP)    and noticed you are curious about CBT, whipping and Humiliation, I could ask a similiar type about your having and interest in the sadistic , does that make you abusive , mentally ill for having an interest in?  Most start off like yourself with curiousity and start off with the light stuff and later finding that it gives them a high  but eventually they have to start pushing the limits a bit  more inorder to achieve the same high but I think one has to remember that most often it involve mutual consent  in what activities will be done, and the more extreme stuff in not what beginner starts with  as they grow they find partners who fit their needs or have partners that start them off slow and overtime the limits are pushed to where they are comfortable and enjoy the more extreme activities. Part of the role of the dom is learning to judge when the sub is ready to have the limits pushed , if they push too soon the relationship and trust can becomes irrepairably damaged , nor is every sub able to be pushed to the same limits or will have  the same interests as another sub.

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RE: What were you missing in life? - 10/14/2007 7:06:18 PM   
unsung


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Status: offline 		Woodhunter, I was provided for in my youth; had shelter, medical care, food, and all the subsistant ingrediants to sustain life.  In admission though that although it looked from the outside as if I had the best of everything in comparision to the norm, sacrafices had to be made.  A single mother raising children in the 60/70's was not so much a norm and to prove ones standing the burden of keeping up with the boys that hold the seats in the corporate ladder took alot of effort and personal sacrafice hence alot of my youth I learnt on the street so to speak.  With a non-existing father, and over worked mother, it is difficult to feel protected or to feel the love.  And further our irrational youthful thinking has a way of making some of us feel insecure within our own worlds.

In many instances I seek the security of a relationship that I know is attainable within the vanilla realm, however I also have darker thoughts of submission that have gone unfilled in the vanilla realm due to excessive moral values that have not been proven etched in stone.

In relation to your question, I am at this point not an extreme player or edge player and don't know if I ever will be, but I have desires that turn me on in thought that I would like to explore rather than laying around masturbating at their thought, and I seek the compatibility in a partner that I can trust enough that has similiar interest in which we can go there, and I can feel secure enough in the journey to have no remorse in doing so.

Hope this helps you out a bit.

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RE: What were you missing in life? - 10/14/2007 7:21:16 PM   
Imajican


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I'm very accomodating with fulfilling all those dreams and wishes that people have from childhood that resulted in a slighted psyche, you see. *nodnod*

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RE: What were you missing in life? - 10/14/2007 9:47:13 PM   
Woodhunter


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Status: offline 		Thank you LuckyAlbatross, Neala and hisannabelle for your reply. So this is what turn's you on and makes you "feel good," or joy in pleasing another.
 
So in the beginning no one told you you're nothing but a slave and no event transpired in your life that led you to that conclusion. You were just "born that way".
 
When I first started this post I understand I may have gotten a bit emotional. If I have stepped on anyone's toe's I apologize. What had prompted me to start this thread was a young man I had met in a chat room whose Master had him to find men to have unprotected sex with. My concern was that in doing so he could acquire HIV as well as pass it along to every male he has intercourse with. I he and I could have chatted longer for it was obvious he had no value on his life and I wanted to know why? I now understand that this is what he wanted...and receive he shall. I feel that had he been mine then his Health/Medical requirements would be my responsibility.

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RE: What were you missing in life? - 10/14/2007 9:54:59 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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ORIGINAL: Woodhunter
Thank you LuckyAlbatross, Neala and hisannabelle for your reply. So this is what turn's you on and makes you "feel good," or joy in pleasing another.

Actually personally I'm not a masochist, I don't enjoy pain.

But I do enjoy fear and adrenaline highs, and I am a sadist.
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So in the beginning no one told you you're nothing but a slave and no event transpired in your life that led you to that conclusion. You were just "born that way".

Pretty much.  I actually fought against being "a slave" for awhile, but eventually it felt right for me to be there, that way. 

Although there's "nothing but" about being a slave, or any other orientation.

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 I he and I could have chatted longer for it was obvious he had no value on his life and I wanted to know why? I now understand that this is what he wanted...and receive he shall. I feel that had he been mine then his Health/Medical requirements would be my responsibility.

You took a cyber slave trolling so seriously that it worked you up to start a whole thread to try and rant against the stupidity and wrongness of slavery?

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RE: What were you missing in life? - 10/14/2007 10:21:52 PM   
Woodhunter


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And assuming that someone didn't have the best experiences as a child and may seek fulfillment through a relationship dynamic that is not mainstream, why is that a concern of yours unless you're being paid for counseling sessions?
 
Well I agree that it is none of my business I was just trying to figure out the "why" part of it. If a sub/slave is born that way or was it an event that happened to them that lead them in that direction. I am finding that many feel it is so natural to them that there is no other way to explain it.
 
Do you pose the same questions to persons in relationships that you deem unhealthy, or is this simply up for grabs merely because you lack understanding for certain behaviors or they go beyond your tolerance threshold?
 
Lacking understanding...but please be patient I'm getting there.
 
By the way, your light bondage can be very offputting to many people. Are you willing to step under the microscope for your own desires? While you may feel that your fetishes are not 'that' bad, I can assure you that those who are opposed to such actions view them all under the same narrow glance. The pointed finger and questioning tone have a nifty way of circling back. I wonder how you'd respond.
 
If you feel I have put you under a microscope or pointed a finger at you I apologize. Thank you for your reply porcelaine.

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RE: What were you missing in life? - 10/15/2007 1:09:08 AM   
spanklette


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RE: What were you missing in life? - 10/15/2007 1:47:55 AM   
obis


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Status: offline 		Shit, I haven't beaten anyone unconscious or performed a ritual murder this week, and my Master license is due for renewal! Time really flies when you're spreading AIDS!

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RE: What were you missing in life? - 10/15/2007 2:01:57 AM   
MissMagnolia


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ORIGINAL: Woodhunter

 If you are a Master/Mistress/Dom/mme reading this post do not answer I will not respond...these questions are being directed to sub's/slave's.
 

I'm a Domme and responding. I don't care if you respond to my response. I'm just responding because I don't like being told not to respond. So there.

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RE: What were you missing in life? - 10/15/2007 2:07:44 AM   
DiurnalVampire


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ORIGINAL: Woodhunter

I ask this question to find out a sub/slave's point of view. If you are a Master/Mistress/Dom/mme reading this post do not answer I will not respond...these questions are being directed to sub's/slave's.


My boys answers could have been very helpful, but since as a Domme, you have chosen to disregard my replies.... it wont matter now will it.

You might want to remember not all of our subs maintain their own accounts, and we speak for them on occasion.

DV


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RE: What were you missing in life? - 10/15/2007 2:11:14 AM   
MissHarlet


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Status: offline 		Yes ... what she said !!! I respond to what I feel like responding to .. and do not deal well with being told NOT to do something ... lol


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RE: What were you missing in life? - 10/15/2007 2:18:44 AM   
SeeksOnlyOne


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ORIGINAL: Decimus

*sigh* I did always want a Oscar Meyer Weenie whistle! And when I didn't get it I just didnt' believe in Santa any more.........


Wait this was about my completely non existant torment and mentally abused affliction as a child that caused me to be a sub.......

*Humor aside I agree with LA!*


oh ohh oh the wienermobile came to the school i work at last year and i got a whistle-my kid decided i am insane because i was so happy....

i guess i am fulfilled now so do i have to give up kink?

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RE: What were you missing in life? - 10/15/2007 2:59:48 AM   
julietsierra


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ORIGINAL: chiaThePet

Well, I never got that Daisy BB Gun, 


Well, "YOU COULD PUT AN EYE OUT" y'know.

juliet

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RE: What were you missing in life? - 10/15/2007 3:21:24 AM   
Decimus


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Status: offline 		*gasps* NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! SO cruel the weiner mobile!

Congrats on being fufilled now!

< Message edited by Decimus -- 10/15/2007 3:22:06 AM >

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RE: What were you missing in life? - 10/15/2007 4:12:42 AM   
Mercnbeth


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ORIGINAL: Woodhunter

What make's you feel you need to be controlled, beaten, humiliated or abused?
 

 
Not sure.  but there is a switch inside of this slave that turns "on" when it happens.
 
quote:
 
Did you have a parent that was abusive?
 


from the perspective that spanking/slapping a replicant is considered abusive...yes.
 
quote:
 
Where you molested when you were younger?
 

 
no
 
quote:

Where you neglected emotionaly by a family member or some one you deeply loved?

 
no.  both parents were fully present and madly in love with each other until death parted them, 30 years after this slave was born.
 
quote:

What void in your life are you trying to fill by seeking out a Master or Mistress to dominate every aspect of your life?
 
the one Master fills.

quote:

I am a Dom that's new to BDSM and have a fetish for light bondage and find there are some very sadistic Master's/Dom's out there that you sub's/slave's seem to gravitate to and I don't know why.
 
because they like it?
 
quote:

Fisting, mutilation, beaten unconscious, ritual murder, choking, male sub's forced into unprotected sex with other men for no other reason than their Master/Mistress said so. Why???
 
so far, Master hasn't indicated that he enjoys or will have this slave participate in the activities you mentioned above.
 
quote:

When you acquire AID's and your Master/Mistress/Dom/Domme kick's you out the door because he/she has used you all up, then what are you going to do?
this slave would cross that bridge if/when she comes to it

quote:

What have you missed out of in life that has led you down this path?
 
not enough social conditioning?
not enough religious indoctrination?
"normal" wiring?
 
quote:

Do you love pain and suffering? Does it feel THAT good?

 
it has a certain appeal...

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RE: What were you missing in life? - 10/15/2007 6:06:18 AM   
Woodhunter


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Status: offline 		My parents are people I'd genuinely like even if they weren't my parents. The trauma of living right and coming from a loving home have contributed immensely to the person I've become as an adult. I presume this also means this lifestyle.

You see, to me, this isn't an abberation. This is how I live my life. It's what makes me happy. It's what fulfills me. I've spent my entire life being excited to run to get my father a cup of coffee when he wanted one. I've spent my entire childhood in idyllic pleasure. I simply see no reason for having to live my adult life without idyllic pleasure as well. This does it for me.

And while the "trauma" I've experienced does not fit into your idealized view of bdsm as somehow being the fare of the broken people out there, it does fit my views of people being who they are without someone else making them out to be somehow in need of "fixing."
 
Thanks for the reply juliet.....I got your point.

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RE: What were you missing in life? - 10/15/2007 6:13:32 AM   
Woodhunter


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Status: offline 		As you say you are new to BDSM and your fetish is for light bondage. There are many subs out there who will have the same fetish. But there are a whole lot of other people out there who have a whole lot of other fetishes. Don't expect everyone to be the same. I for one do not like pain but I am in a relationship with someone who would probably be described as sadistic. For me it is not the pain that I love it is the fact that I am pleasing him by taking the pain he loves to inflict.

So there are all shades of relationships in BDSM. Take the one you are happy with and leave the rest.
 
In my rush to judgement I thought all bdsm relationship's were the same but after reading replies like your's, LuckyAlbatross, juliet and others I see they are not that it is catered to your need's and interests. Thank you for the information susie.

< Message edited by Woodhunter -- 10/15/2007 6:14:40 AM >

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RE: What were you missing in life? - 10/15/2007 6:24:39 AM   
adoracat


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ORIGINAL: julietsierra

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ORIGINAL: chiaThePet

Well, I never got that Daisy BB Gun, 


Well, "YOU COULD PUT AN EYE OUT" y'know.

juliet


oh gods.....that idiot movie....

HARD LIMIT!!!!  HARD LIMIT!!!!!!

kitten, curled up in a little ball under the desk and shuddering...

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RE: What were you missing in life? - 10/15/2007 6:50:23 AM   
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ORIGINAL: julietsierra

quote:

ORIGINAL: chiaThePet

Well, I never got that Daisy BB Gun, 


Well, "YOU COULD PUT AN EYE OUT" y'know.

juliet


Anything to add to my suffering, that I might be made complete.

"Look Mom, I'm a pirate"!

chia* (the pet)

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