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RE: A theoretical question... - 10/15/2007 7:26:39 PM

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What I can say is; My son knows he can come talk to me
about anything anytime, and he does.

He also knows I will be totally honest in my thoughts, but also supportive and offer my guidance to him no matter what his decisions.

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RE: A theoretical question... - 10/15/2007 7:33:51 PM

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It may be genetic or it may be how you are brought up, My Mother, was very much submissive to my Dad, I didn't realise this of course, but Mum was very much your stay at home, the Husbands word is law, and he shall be treated like a King in his own house, and he had the final say in everything.. This is how I grew up, and now I find myself drawn to exactly THAT same lifestyle, I wish nothing more than to find someone that I can treat as King, in exactly the same manner.

Alas my ex husband did not like it that I wanted to do things for him, make him comfortable, as it went agaisnt all the feminist thinking his own Mother had instilled in him.

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RE: A theoretical question... - 10/15/2007 8:06:03 PM

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My son is 27 it would not bother me as long as he understood the principles of and understood like another person said the difference between abuse and BDSM, and would likely direct to info and maybe directly to people he can talk to inorder to learn from inorder to ensure he gets a good start
as it is my son know he can talk to me about anything , growing up as a child with 150 IQ very observant and highly curious he was questioning me quite early about all sorts of things that most kids would never think of asking and I answered his questions as honestly as I could trying to keep in mind his maturity level but going slightly more in depth to satisfy his intellectual level

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RE: A theoretical question... - 10/15/2007 8:17:34 PM

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OK, well I will probaly get a ass chewing for this one. I journal alot on collar me , and left a tribute to my son in regards to what he meant to me. Needless I say I got a ass ripping from a Dom in MA. I am not trying to corrupt my son but I will not lie to him. I inform him that certain people are not into what I am so therefore I do things in private. I also do not do anything when my son is home or in the house. As far as sex is concered he is very well educated, not shallow to vanilla sex, which I think we should school our kids in that aspect. OH yes and my parents were swinger, out and proud all the years I was growing up. NAKED. everyone in the house. My dad was a abusive asshole, my mother on the other hand was a truly Dominate women by heart, buy allowed my father the reigns until she had enough money and eduction to make her get away. (ducks in a line)

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RE: A theoretical question... - 10/16/2007 4:21:44 AM

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I have what some "normal" people would call a dysfunctional family...and it's so great!
Daughter - 18 - bi - sub - not into heavy pain - searching for a Master and has been talking online for awhile now. It's awesome to be able to talk with her openly about the lifestyle and help her in whatever way I can. Taught her about safe calls and stuff.

Son - 20 - straight - vanilla - kinda into kinky sex, a little bondage on his gf but no SM other than a light spanking. Very tolerant though coz his gf (20) is bi and very kinky and into bdsm if he would be. He is even open to giving her a mmf which is cool. She knows about me too and we talk a lot. I wish I was a fly on the wall when she goes home to my son with all kinds of new ideas but can't tell him where she got them...lol.

So....is kink genetic? In my family it seems to be, on the maternal side at least ;) Or is it that sex was never a taboo subject in my house and they were taught to be tolerant of differences in people whether colour, race or sexual predilection?

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RE: A theoretical question... - 10/16/2007 4:57:32 AM

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Well, I can offer a bit of an opinion from the other side of the question. My mom and I are both in the lifestyle, me a lot more than her, and we're both pretty open with each other about it. Growing up she never TOLD me she liked any of that, but she didn't hide it either. One of the first times I realized other people were into the stuff I'd always thought about was when I took Beauty's Punishment from her shelf thinking it was just another vampire story. I think she also knew I had submissive tendencies when I was around 14 or so. I was always a lot more mature than other kids my age, and maybe it helped that I was already out of the house around that time and so it seemed like I was more of an adult to her. But she's never been creeped out by it, she's been open and honest with me and helpful in more than one occasion when I needed advice. It's also nice knowing when I do find my perfect dom there won't be any pressure to explain to her why he's so much older than me. In fact I'm dodging quite a few embarassing conversations that could pop up.

(I know, I'm not 21 yet, but I am legally an adult)

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