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RE: Can a Nice Guy be a Dom? - 11/8/2007 9:28:18 AM

DarkDaddyZ

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I missed this thread. Am I a nice man? I can be, I try to treat everyone with kindness but I also know that I can be a dick.

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RE: Can a Nice Guy be a Dom? - 11/17/2007 3:58:44 PM

SrMichael

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In My opinion, being a "nice guy" is a requirement of being a Dom or Master.
We accept responcibility for Our subs/slaves. We have to treat them with kindness. That does not mean that We are wimps, weak, or anything else along those lines.
can be VERY demanding and strict, and severe in my punishments when required. That hin no way precludes being a "nice guy". Indeed, meeting the needs of My sub, michaelsangel (a necessary ingrediant to being a "nice guy") includes training and teaching her to be the best she can be, including the necessary punishments as a reminder, and being strict with her when stretching her limits.
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RE: Can a Nice Guy be a Dom? - 11/17/2007 4:07:33 PM

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If my Dominant had not been a nice guy id have never even spoken to Him. i LOVE the fact that He is a gentleman. He is tasteful, cultured and kind to everyone. And there is never a doubt in my mind that He is Dominant. He is completely self assured in Who He is. i LOVE that..
Now, when alone?...*giggles ..Sometimes, the kid gloves come off so to speak and He can be just as Nasty as the next, taking care of business..*wink.
So, im glad You are nice. That's a good thing!

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RE: Can a Nice Guy be a Dom? - 11/17/2007 4:09:54 PM

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I think being a nice guy is exactly what makes a truly great Dom/Master. I think many subs/slaves don't only want a kind loving Dom/Master, they need it to thrive. I know that is exactly what I need. This doesn't mean I don't need discipline and punishment. It just means I need lots of love and understanding too.

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RE: Can a Nice Guy be a Dom? - 11/17/2007 4:16:04 PM

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The first night i met my Dom, He took me by the hand and walked me into the restaurant guiding me along the way and chatting. He opened the door and smiled. (*whispers..He doesnt know this, but He had me already)
Good manners and respect are sooooo HOT! Because i now know what i had suspected that evening~that He can be also just as Nasty and In Control as He is kind and compassionate. i dont get this thing about just being hateful and rude when meeting someone the first time. That's a turn off to me..yet, i know for others THAT makes them hot...*smiles

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RE: Can a Nice Guy be a Dom? - 11/17/2007 4:45:30 PM

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For my part, I see myself as a nice guy yet dominant.

I can be both tender and loving and yet commanding.

I posed myself a similiar question in my intro, about love and whether my need to be loved and to give love lessens me as a Dom.

I left the answer open, for others to respond to.

Yet I feel in my heart that love is a necessary part of relationships, what ever those relationships are.

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RE: Can a Nice Guy be a Dom? - 11/21/2007 5:51:09 AM

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well, every one pretty much said what i had on my mind.

Nice guys can make great Doms. i wouldn't want an ass as a Dom. Besides being nice, i want one who is considerate, courtious, caring, have empathy, be a good conversationalst, have a sence of humor all the while with me wondering when the dark side will emerge and grab me by my hair and not be so nice!! WHAT A RUSH!
IMO, i think nice guys have more of a dark side and they give better spankings!!

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