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Wishlists? - 10/15/2007 6:40:37 PM

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So I've seen many of them on many doms, and prodoms profiles. I myself have no problem with the idea of them becuase I have one slave who loves blackmail fetish and loves trying to "treat" me so I don't reveal his dirty side to his girlfriend and coworkers. This though is not my usual thing as Im not a Pro though have been on the rail of being one or not, I figured I'd get a little more experince before trying to do something dom if ever at all.

Im a happy Mistress at the moment. I have one solid new slave and one under consideration who's an adorable future pet. But I've rambled again. I've wanted everyone eles's thoughts on wishlists becuase I can understand it'd be like money doms and slaves discussion even though Im neither I do consider the optinion of little 3 dollar candy gifts a good way to get my attention and seperates someone who's willing to put the time and effort of sticking around verses a wana be sub who just wants thier kinky answers to fap off to.

Your thoughts on wishlists?

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RE: Wishlists? - 10/15/2007 7:10:21 PM

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Oh gods, where do I even begin?!

hmm.........

Variety of floggers,(different materials and sizes.)
TENS Unit
Humbler
Strap-on
Sex Swing
A very good vibrator
St.Andrews Cross (not to mention a place to put it!)
Pair of breast pump cylinders
Rosebud Anal suction cylinder
Vibrating nipple clamps

just for starters!

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RE: Wishlists? - 10/15/2007 7:28:16 PM

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No the thread is about weather you condone amazon.com sort of wishlists. Not what the actual wishlist is.

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RE: Wishlists? - 10/15/2007 8:19:01 PM

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No the thread is about weather you condone amazon.com sort of wishlists. Not what the actual wishlist is.

Although I liked the vibrating nipple clamps. Damn! I learned something new!

"Tribute" can be symbolic as well as monetary. I'll never forget the Mistress who wanted me to find her one smooth oval-shaped rock of a certain size and patina.

It took many hours along a river bank to even come close. Did I spend those long hours thinking of her? Yes, I did. I think that was her point.

I have also been involved by another Domme in a "scavenger hunt" to collect several not-too-easily found items before being allowed to see her.

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RE: Wishlists? - 10/15/2007 8:36:17 PM

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wishlists are fantastic, it's a great tool for finding out who and what you're dealing with, regardless of whether or not you get the stuff.

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RE: Wishlists? - 10/15/2007 8:41:00 PM

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Thats a wonderfull Idea, I'll have to keep that one in mind one day, it is more then just the items for me. I usualy ask for one selfish item so they know its about serving me, and one personal item so I can learn more about them.

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RE: Wishlists? - 10/15/2007 8:56:52 PM

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exactly.

For instance, just today i had one man claiming to make 1200 a week, this that and the other, stock bonds poperty, etc.

I asked him what his email address was to send him my wishlist, and Poof! he's gone.

Which is what I expcted to happen.

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RE: Wishlists? - 10/15/2007 9:30:00 PM

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Yah thats one of the reasons I ask for something very out there and random for them to get me, something selfish but at the same time a token item. My previous reply was to Aflyinyourweb about the stone gathering project.

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RE: Wishlists? - 10/15/2007 10:12:08 PM

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Actually, I don't really have a 'wish' list. Sounds more like something of the bridal registry.

Now, that's not saying that My husband and My boy have not purchased Me gifts. Believe Me, when there is something I really want, they know it. I'm usually spoiled enough to receive it. <wink>

Still, it's usually from something that has been discussed. Not something I've jotted out on some kind of 'get this for Me' list. They are a part of My life, not some random hope on a screen. In this, I usually find it better. It means there gifts come from the heart, rather than some sort of directive I've given. That makes Me appreciate them all the more.

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RE: Wishlists? - 10/15/2007 10:18:47 PM

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Actually, I don't really have a 'wish' list. Sounds more like something of the bridal registry.

Now, that's not saying that My husband and My boy have not purchased Me gifts. Believe Me, when there is something I really want, they know it. I'm usually spoiled enough to receive it. <wink>

Still, it's usually from something that has been discussed. Not something I've jotted out on some kind of 'get this for Me' list. They are a part of My life, not some random hope on a screen. In this, I usually find it better. It means there gifts come from the heart, rather than some sort of directive I've given. That makes Me appreciate them all the more.

Oh trust me my hubby and my regular slave know when I want something. My hubby usualy makes a point to have a once a month shopping day to go out and get the things I want, or I just whine at him about some new thing I found for my various collections.

Thats not what my amazon wishlist is used for, I use it for potential slaves. Those that talk big get silenced and disappear pretty quick when they fail to produce a cheap little bag of candy for my please. Yet they swear to kneel and scrap and off thier lives to me? No thats a good sign of lack of seriouness and someone who just wants his jolies with no effort.

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RE: Wishlists? - 10/15/2007 11:10:54 PM

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Honestly I have always usually given a gift to my dominants kinda as a thankyou/use this on me. Wishlist make my purchasing easier

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RE: Wishlists? - 10/15/2007 11:21:18 PM

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Please send me a private message where I would find these things...
Thanks>

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RE: Wishlists? - 10/15/2007 11:58:56 PM

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Honestly I have always usually given a gift to my dominants kinda as a thankyou/use this on me. Wishlist make my purchasing easier

That too is a great idea. I wish amazon had larger kinkier source of toys to add to my wishlist. But as it goes I'd just have to link to alot of site for that. Im working on my various dildos for my strap on collection and my usual collars.

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RE: Wishlists? - 10/16/2007 12:14:53 AM

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I don't see any issue, no one's forced to do anything and a LOT of profile sites now include an arrangement for it. It doesn't really have to even be associated with D/s or kink... it's just another form of online inter-relations.

I'm on several profile sites that either have this thing as rather normal or are coded with specific profile lines for people to add their wishlist links, and none of those are kink oriented sites. I'm planning to add my own wishlists to all of them when I they are ready to be shown.

Why? Because it's fun to get stuff from people that is unexpected or not necessary. I know I've bought things for people using their wishlists a number of times for a variety of reasons... birthday or other such coming up, I knew they were going through some tough things and wanted to give them a quick smile when they opened their mailbox one day, and sometimes I've just had a little extra cash for a change and wanted to share my good luck with someone who I thought well of online.

Note, none of these were people I knew in meatlife, these are just examples of folks I'd been acquainted with online.

It's nice to give gifts when you can, it's nice to get gifts. No one has to buy anyone anything ever if they don't want to, so I give it a big thumbs up!

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RE: Wishlists? - 10/16/2007 12:16:55 AM

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wishlists are fantastic, it's a great tool for finding out who and what you're dealing with, regardless of whether or not you get the stuff.

And that's an excellent point that I forgot to mention. I've also often used viewing someone's wishlist as a way to get to know them and others being able to do so with me is a big part of my motivation to get my lists up and shown about.

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RE: Wishlists? - 10/16/2007 12:26:11 AM

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Im a little strange, but the wishlist varies by person. There are things Id love Angel to think about getting that would have no meaning from anyone else. Same with Fox. I would have a very hard time putting together a generic wishlist. It would wind up being all camera or photo accessories. BDSM wise, I dont know that I could do it.

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RE: Wishlists? - 10/16/2007 5:07:12 AM

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I really like the idea of "If I decide to play with you...bring any of the following toys......,......, and I will use that toy on you first." I've been doing that a little bit and it's really fun.

I also love the 'hunt for this particular kind of smooth pebble and then bring it to me.' Anything that makes the sub think of his Domme like that is a great idea, in my book. Also, the sub bringing something personal that gives me more insight into who they are, what makes them tick, a sweet idea.

Wishlists? I haven't even seen these as links on any profiles on other sites, so maybe my brain is befuddled and I have 'CRS' this early in the morning?

Have links? I enjoy things freely given without ever being asked for, so having a wishlist is a good idea for this as it gives a sub the opportunity to provide something I would really enjoy and use.

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RE: Wishlists? - 10/16/2007 5:23:55 AM

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"Tribute" can be symbolic as well as monetary. I'll never forget the Mistress who wanted me to find her one smooth oval-shaped rock of a certain size and patina.

It took many hours along a river bank to even come close. Did I spend those long hours thinking of her? Yes, I did. I think that was her point.

That's very clever!

Personally, as a sub who's very touchy about the whole gimme-yo-dolla thang, i find wishlists fairly repugnant... but then i've always been around people who take the stance that if you don't know someone well enough to know what they like, then why bother getting a gift for them?

One odd side effect of this is that when my wife's mother wants to know what to get her for Christmas, she asks me for a list

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RE: Wishlists? - 10/16/2007 7:29:46 AM

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I have a wish list on Amazon.com.

I've had former partners or even folks I've just talk to send me something from it -- I guess they looked up my name and figured out it was me cause I never mentioned it to anyone.

My wish list serves two purposed. First it keeps track of things I see on Amazon that I might want. Second it's a good way to tell family and friends when they ask what I want. Beyond that I don't see it in any Ds or BDSM fashion at all.

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RE: Wishlists? - 10/16/2007 9:46:00 AM

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quote:

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quote:

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Honestly I have always usually given a gift to my dominants kinda as a thankyou/use this on me. Wishlist make my purchasing easier

That too is a great idea. I wish amazon had larger kinkier source of toys to add to my wishlist. But as it goes I'd just have to link to alot of site for that. Im working on my various dildos for my strap on collection and my usual collars.

I think Extreme Restraints has a Wishlist feature....I know JT Stockroom has a wishlist feature just like Amazon

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