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ORIGINAL: MidnightMaiden

Imagine your Master takes you to a swingers club, or a public dungeon or some similar venue where sex is relatively open, or at the very least done in semi-private rooms.  His pleasure is to watch you submit to another person (either male or female).  How would you feel about that?  Is it a common practice for Masters/Doms to want to "show off and share" their subs/slaves?

It's not something I have done, but its a concept we have discussed, and I would love to hear others thoughts/experiences on this.

Fortunately for me  Chairman is very possesive of me and does not share me with anyone. i'm VERY happy about this as it would be an extremely difficult challenge if He desired this. i did ask Him about it one night though, as i wonder why Owners find pleasure in sharing their subs/slaves. His thought - perhaps it's just a test of her/his obedience. Now i know for me it would definitely be as i'm so very monogomous.

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How would you feel about that?

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Is it a common practice for Masters/Doms to want to "show off and share" their subs/slaves?

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ORIGINAL: MidnightMaiden

Imagine your Master takes you to a swingers club, or a public dungeon or some similar venue where sex is relatively open, or at the very least done in semi-private rooms.  His pleasure is to watch you submit to another person (either male or female).  How would you feel about that? 

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ORIGINAL: daddyncherry

This is definitely a part of our relationship, although slowly starting, it was an intention from almost day 1.

We have been to swinger's clubs, and as juliettesierra said, you are submitting to your Master in that situation and not to someone else.

We have so far only played with one couple...and honestly, the vanillaness of it all was very difficult for me...but even though i didn't enjoy what was done to me i accepted it for my Daddy's pleasure, just being a sexual object for him to share.

While we were in the room (and all we did was oral stuff, i just HATE receiving oral) a zillion thoughts were racing through my head, it was hard to take my mind out of the situation while i was being "given to"..all i could think of at the time is how much i hate that part...and how i had to be good and accept it and not throw a monkey wrench into the situation....i was wishing and praying that it was an M/s couple or D/s couple who atleast could wrap their heads around the whole thing.

After we left i told my Daddy that last part and he explained to me...something that i couldn't see in the midst of it all, but understood later....that no matter what, since i am his slave, then it is always in context of an M/s relationship....i was there to be a sex object, to make him happy and to lern to deal with an uncomfortble situation.

He was very pleased with me at how i handled it...kept it all flowing and everything. (deep inside the guy made me cringe though-because there wasn't a thimble full of dominance in him)

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ORIGINAL: charlotte12

This is my main fear about being with another to please my Master, which i know i will be expected to do at some point. I keep telling him, " i would feel fine if i was chained up and not expected to be expressing enjoyment." Of course this would not be a fun mood nor would it probably be healthy for me but he is slowly helping me come to relax and recognize the enjoyment i get out of it as well by constantly reminding me that i will be doing it for him as a service. Sometimes i have to be forced to do something and allowed to simply view it as a service before my mind will release the blocks it has placed on itself and allow myself to enjoy it.

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ORIGINAL: charlotte12

I know what you mean cherry. The only thing i have found that helps so far when being made to do something that to me feels ...well...not so submissive is to literally say over and over in my head "not for me, for him." I used to have trouble cumming because somehow the idea of receiving pleasure did not equate with being "taken" in my mind (so glad i have been moving beyond that.) When i would say that little phrase in my head i would almost always be able to get past it.

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ORIGINAL: daddyncherry

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ORIGINAL: charlotte12

I know what you mean cherry. The only thing i have found that helps so far when being made to do something that to me feels ...well...not so submissive is to literally say over and over in my head "not for me, for him." I used to have trouble cumming because somehow the idea of receiving pleasure did not equate with being "taken" in my mind (so glad i have been moving beyond that.) When i would say that little phrase in my head i would almost always be able to get past it.

i have to do mantras sometimes too...i am big at chantting in my mind anyway (esp during sex)....one thing that does it for me is the dirtiness...or nastiness of something and knowing that i like it or liking it because i don't like it and it pleases him anyway.

Such as anal sex...sometimes it hurts soo badly...and yet he takes it anyway...i struggle and finally give in to it...and then i get off on the fact that i really didn't have a choice...that i was being taken for his pleasure and this is where my multi orgasms begin. :) Somewhere between the struggle and the surrender it happens and aides in surrender.