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RRafe -> RE: Dom to release a sub.........(your thoughts) (10/25/2007 7:07:19 PM)

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ORIGINAL: corsetgirl

You wish!


LOL.  and then do the dishes-some people have WAY too much of a fantasy life-but not a life. These forums never cease to amaze me.



RosesHaveThorns -> RE: Dom to release a sub.........(your thoughts) (10/25/2007 7:07:21 PM)

To Rrafe: Just try turning one on with that attitude, I doubt it will work.

To the topic at hand: But seriously...Has the OP even talked to the sub about what she is okay with and needs? I'm starting to suspect no, but it's just a guess.



apiercedkitty -> RE: Dom to release a sub.........(your thoughts) (10/25/2007 7:09:21 PM)

~FR~
 
i can't help but notice that the OP doesn't bother replying to anyone that doesn't give Him the answers He's looking for...



corsetgirl -> RE: Dom to release a sub.........(your thoughts) (10/25/2007 7:09:40 PM)

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ORIGINAL: RRafe

quote:

ORIGINAL: corsetgirl

You wish!


LOL.  and then do the dishes-some people have WAY too much of a fantasy life-but not a life. These forums never cease to amaze me.


I do have a life and I have already done my dishes, thank you!  But wait, I don't post as often as you do....hmmm....



RRafe -> RE: Dom to release a sub.........(your thoughts) (10/25/2007 7:11:34 PM)

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ORIGINAL: RosesHaveThorns

To Rrafe: Just try turning one on with that attitude, I doubt it will work.

To the topic at hand: But seriously...Has the OP even talked to the sub about what she is okay with and needs? I'm starting to suspect no, but it's just a guess.


I was trying to be funny-no sense of humor ladies?

Do you think the op would be here whining if he actually had something of value to offer the lady in question? It's pretty sad to come to places like this-making excuses to strangers.........

To try and feel better about something you want to validate-especially when it is NOT working.

"Because I'm the Dom." is about the lamest excuse I ever hear.

You don't say it-you show it. Words without deeds are dead.



laurell3 -> RE: Dom to release a sub.........(your thoughts) (10/25/2007 7:12:03 PM)

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ORIGINAL: RosesHaveThorns

To Rrafe: Just try turning one on with that attitude, I doubt it will work.

To the topic at hand: But seriously...Has the OP even talked to the sub about what she is okay with and needs? I'm starting to suspect no, but it's just a guess.


You're kidding right?  You think Rrafe has a bad attitude? haha you ain't seen nothing yet.  You're barking at one of the good guys there.



RosesHaveThorns -> RE: Dom to release a sub.........(your thoughts) (10/25/2007 7:14:16 PM)

I was also trying to have a sense of humor, that comment was made in jest. I am sorry if I did nto get that across.



corsetgirl -> RE: Dom to release a sub.........(your thoughts) (10/25/2007 7:17:41 PM)

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ORIGINAL: RRafe

I was trying to be funny-no sense of humor ladies?

Do you think the op would be here whining if he actually had something of value to offer the lady in question? It's pretty sad to come to places like this-making excuses to strangers.........

To try and feel better about something you want to validate-especially when it is NOT working.

"Because I'm the Dom." is about the lamest excuse I ever hear.

You don't say it-you show it. Words without deeds are dead.


My bad....mea culpa, mea culpa, mea culpa!  You are right in that observation.  I do get tired of the "I am the Dom, because I make the decisions" excuse, also known as "I am the Dom, because I can."  The thing is he should be communicating with his sub.



laurell3 -> RE: Dom to release a sub.........(your thoughts) (10/25/2007 7:22:10 PM)

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ORIGINAL: RosesHaveThorns

I was also trying to have a sense of humor, that comment was made in jest. I am sorry if I did nto get that across.


I wasn't sure, which is why I asked.  No big deal and my apologies.
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RRafe -> RE: Dom to release a sub.........(your thoughts) (10/25/2007 7:23:14 PM)

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ORIGINAL: corsetgirl

quote:

ORIGINAL: RRafe

I was trying to be funny-no sense of humor ladies?

Do you think the op would be here whining if he actually had something of value to offer the lady in question? It's pretty sad to come to places like this-making excuses to strangers.........

To try and feel better about something you want to validate-especially when it is NOT working.

"Because I'm the Dom." is about the lamest excuse I ever hear.

You don't say it-you show it. Words without deeds are dead.


My bad....mea culpa, mea culpa, mea culpa!  You are so dead on...I do get tired of the "I am the Dom, because I make the decisions" excuse.  The thing is he should be communicating with his sub and not airing the laundry.


Hey-it's ok.[:)]

I try to lighten things up with some humor at times-I fall on my face trying too.

What really pissed me off was-during all that this woman is going through he still has the gall to say something as assinine as "But I'm the DOM, I require her service!!!"  (shades of a tarzan yell in the background)

I'm proud of her for bouncing him to the curb-no sympathy fopr the op-he won't even answer us-I see him as just another weakling, hiding behind a mask. And evidently-so has she.

Saying that you are a thing-does not MAKE it so.



RosesHaveThorns -> RE: Dom to release a sub.........(your thoughts) (10/25/2007 7:24:22 PM)

To lighten the mood, I remember once on an airplane, a pilot said: "Pushing the button with a picture of a light bulb will turn on the light. Pushing the button with the picture of the Flight Attendant will not necessarily turn them on"

And I am still wondering where the OP ran off to.



RRafe -> RE: Dom to release a sub.........(your thoughts) (10/25/2007 7:26:50 PM)

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ORIGINAL: RosesHaveThorns

To lighten the mood, I remember once on an airplane, a pilot said: "Pushing the button with a picture of a light bulb will turn on the light. Pushing the button with the picture of the Flight Attendant will not necessarily turn them on"

And I am still wondering where the OP ran off to.



Mom's basement.[;)]



corsetgirl -> RE: Dom to release a sub.........(your thoughts) (10/25/2007 7:30:34 PM)

I agree and she is not settling for someone who just wants to have his needs satisfied and that he wants another sub because the one going through the divorce is not going to serve him. 

Sometimes, the truth hurts when the OP has seen the answers.



apiercedkitty -> RE: Dom to release a sub.........(your thoughts) (10/25/2007 7:30:49 PM)

i think i saw him a while ago on a "Ask a Master" topic...



RRafe -> RE: Dom to release a sub.........(your thoughts) (10/25/2007 7:38:42 PM)

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ORIGINAL: corsetgirl

I agree and she is not settling for someone who just wants to have his needs satisfied and that he wants another sub because the one going through the divorce is not going to serve him. 

Sometimes, the truth hurts when the OP has seen the answers.


I'm not impressed with the emotional maturity level he's shown here. He's shooting himself in the feet.



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Dom to release a sub.........(your thoughts) (10/25/2007 8:21:56 PM)

I defer to Ownedgirlie in this, she understands this situation more intimately than I ever could. 

This isn't about who gets to make the final choice- it's about what everyone needs/wants to be fulfilled in who they are.  What is the problem with her wanting to date?  It sounds like you both feel you NEED to be monogamous in order for it to be "real" and yet neither of you honestly wants monogamy.



dc0785 -> RE: Dom to release a sub.........(your thoughts) (10/25/2007 8:46:05 PM)

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ORIGINAL: apiercedkitty

~FR~
 
i can't help but notice that the OP doesn't bother replying to anyone that doesn't give Him the answers He's looking for...

First off...I don't answer all the questions because I have other responsibilities.  My 2 boys take my priority.  I will say, I want to date her.  However, with work travel and other obligations, maybe I am feeling like I can't provide her with what she needs.



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Dom to release a sub.........(your thoughts) (10/25/2007 10:24:36 PM)

Well you need to make that 'maybe' into a yes or no BEFORE you start thinking of her motivations and foisting ending the relationship on HER lack of commitment.



laurell3 -> RE: Dom to release a sub.........(your thoughts) (10/26/2007 4:46:42 AM)

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ORIGINAL: dc0785

quote:

ORIGINAL: apiercedkitty

~FR~
 
i can't help but notice that the OP doesn't bother replying to anyone that doesn't give Him the answers He's looking for...

First off...I don't answer all the questions because I have other responsibilities.  My 2 boys take my priority.  I will say, I want to date her.  However, with work travel and other obligations, maybe I am feeling like I can't provide her with what she needs.



You could provide her what she wanted before, but now that she's getting divorced you can't?  How does that work?



AquaticSub -> RE: Dom to release a sub.........(your thoughts) (10/26/2007 4:54:55 AM)

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ORIGINAL: laurell3

quote:

ORIGINAL: dc0785

First off...I don't answer all the questions because I have other responsibilities.  My 2 boys take my priority.  I will say, I want to date her.  However, with work travel and other obligations, maybe I am feeling like I can't provide her with what she needs.



You could provide her what she wanted before, but now that she's getting divorced you can't?  How does that work?


I don't understand that either. Try asking her what her needs actually are and then if she thinks what you can give her would be enough instead of guessing.



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