|
Noah -> RE: slavegirl222 (10/26/2007 9:26:00 PM)
|
quote:
ORIGINAL: useme323
This girlas been an owned collared, slave for almost 1 yr, my Master finds it unecessary to talkon weekends, sometimes, this girl needs constint reinforcement, we live seperately but close by, both are in family relationships. What does this girl do to overcome weekend depression? Thank you for reading tis SlavegirlMaryanne
If he becomes incapacitated by illness or injury and can't reinforce you every day--for a whole week or two, let's say--what will you do? Fall apart? Run away and find someone else to fill your emotional holes?
One choice you could make would be to recognize that you don't need reinforcement every day but rather that you desire reinforcement every day because the lack of it is difficult or uncomfortable.
Do you feel that a submissive should never be asked to do anything difficult or uncomfortable for her dominant?
Whose desires do you feel should be considered first, his or yours?
Once you've answered these questions to your own satisfaction you can fit those answers in with the other factors which which make relationships so complex and rich, and choose a course of action for yourself.
Maybe you'll throw this guy under the bus because he isn't willing to submit to your emotional demands. If that's what you feel like doing it would probably be a gift to him as well as you. Maybe then you could go and find a guy who'll dom you according to your specifications, subjugating his own desires to yours. Whatever works for you and your partner is okay with me.
One other possible course of action would be to offer up your weekend discomfort as an aspect of your devotion to him.
In doing this for a while you might become the sort of mature, grounded person who can be comfortable in her own skin for 72 hours without daily inflicting her neediness on someone she wants to serve.
It would probably be hard and take some time. Some people would rather abandon a relationship than spend some time and effort on it when things get a little tough. See some of the posts above. Suit yourself.
I think growing beyond the personal limitations you posted about would be pretty impressive if you pulled it off, something for you to be justly proud of which could help you in all aspects of your life.
Your partner may be the simple, opportunistic bastard some of the posters above assume he is. I don't know. He might also be someone who recognizes this area of emotional immaturity in you and rather than throw you under the bus because of it is sticking with you and providing you with an opportunity, in a D and S context, to fulfill your potential.
The next time you see him you might tell him that there is something you'd like to say which you feel is important, that it is hard for you on the weekends, and it hurts, but since it is what he has asked of you, you are working through it as best you can as one more offering of submission to him. You could tell him that every time it seems to be too hard or to hurt too much, you think of him, and his desires, and your desire to please and serve him, and then you strive to obey him with no destructive thoughts or bitterness.
(If it turns out that you can do it, for him, then the fact is that you can do it, period. You will have found, under his guidance, a lovely and powerful capacity in yourself that you didn't know you had.)
I'd be curious to know what sort of response you evoked if you did tell him these things. If he is the kind of guy who can't appreciate the kind of devotion you'd be displaying then mabe he belongs under the bus. Again, I don't know. Either way I wish you both luck.
|
|
|
|
