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kitttty -> Ok. This might just be the limit. (10/26/2007 7:32:44 PM)
So, Master has done something which really pushes me. It's not the first time but Ive always been able to stomach it better. He took my emails and training pics and pxelated the eyes and made a blog. He showed me and he will not take it down. I feel that I am recognizable- in some photos extremely so. He will not take it down. I have not exactly insisted that he does. I dont know if I should. Is this a reasonable thing to get used to? It bothers me a lot.

BlisteringBlonde -> RE: Ok. This might just be the limit. (10/26/2007 7:36:01 PM)
I hope he realizes that its EXTREMELY easy for any with photo shop to remove that pxelated mark on your eyes and expose your real photo .i would ask for their removal .and insist it be done .he just placed you on line for any to see with a little know how.

Rover -> RE: Ok. This might just be the limit. (10/26/2007 7:37:23 PM)
"Reasonable" is a relative term. No one can know your limits, except you. And no one can express them to your owner, except you. I'd suggest a long, open and honest talk. John

kitttty -> RE: Ok. This might just be the limit. (10/26/2007 7:37:47 PM)
He says he pixelated them in a way that is hard to unjumble and this implies that I should trust his judgement. He isn't a dummy to computer graphics and all but still. It bothers me.

Rose4Mistress -> RE: Ok. This might just be the limit. (10/26/2007 7:38:17 PM)
I feel that if it something that really does bother you, or threaten your sense of security, you need to tell him. Express that you are not comfortable, and that you do not like the fact that he put you out there so much. He might have been doing it to push your limits, but if it is something that you are really not comfortable with, he ought to take it down.

apiercedkitty -> RE: Ok. This might just be the limit. (10/26/2007 7:38:50 PM)
That would be a huge problem for me... i don't know, however, what you agreed to in regards to pics. If you have ever expressed a concern about pics posted on the net, then i'd say He's broken trust. If you never discussed it, i'd say that was a big mistake on your part when you allowed Him to take pics in the first place and you should IMMEDIATELY let Him know in no uncertain terms that it's unacceptable to you. Good luck! edited to add... it doesn't matter WHO took the pics... just that He has possession of them...

darchChylde -> RE: Ok. This might just be the limit. (10/26/2007 7:39:45 PM)
no, this directly violates your own privacy and ability to maintain in normal society... any posting of images should be discussed and agreed upon by both parties, unless it was something negotiated as a condition of ownership

sexyred1 -> RE: Ok. This might just be the limit. (10/26/2007 7:41:07 PM)
It is completely unreasonable if YOU deem it so. Tell him that has become a hard limit and remove them. With internet security and certain job situations, this could be a problem for you. I know I would be infuriated.

MissMagnolia -> RE: Ok. This might just be the limit. (10/26/2007 7:42:20 PM)
It doesn't matter what we think, it's bothering you a lot, so pretty important obviously. You profile has a link to your erotic stories, you love writing, are you both into blogging? I'm just thinking maybe he doesn't view the blog he's made as seriously offensive to you? If there are pics though, that could be bad, if family or friends came across it. Is it on a site where it's likely people you know would see it (like myspace)? If it's bothering you enough to make a thread about it, I think you should be really letting him know why you want it removed. You could insist, he'll either ignore you or remove it. Good luck!

Focus50 -> RE: Ok. This might just be the limit. (10/26/2007 7:42:22 PM)
Personally, I don't think it reasonable to publically "out" anything about personal and private relationships. That would definitely include putting up otherwise innocent or everyday pics that identify who you are! I would regard such a betrayal as terminal to any relationship I'm in. Up to you what it means to you, though.... I'd start with a serious heart to heart. Focus.

Rover -> RE: Ok. This might just be the limit. (10/26/2007 7:44:15 PM)
I wanted to add that simply telling him that you're "uncomfortable" with this isn't very helpful. Lots of things in a power exchange relationship can be uncomfortable from time to time. We Dominants are not bound by people's comfort levels, or we'd be pelting you with pussy willows and marshmallows. We're bound by limits and limitations. So this is either a limit for you, or it's not. If it's a limit then tell him and work it out between you. If it's not a limit, then he may be more likely to simply help you work to get beyond it. John

BlisteringBlonde -> RE: Ok. This might just be the limit. (10/26/2007 7:44:45 PM)
He may think this ...however ...recently in the news it was proved that its easy to reverse the marks ..thats how they caught that pedophile ...its not worth the risk ...and if you have tattoos or other markings he is diffidently identifying you ..nope ..breeches a trust there .get him to remove them ... i once removed a black out bar when i had photoshop ....and I am barely able to turn the computer on ..any can do it ....

kitttty -> RE: Ok. This might just be the limit. (10/26/2007 7:52:27 PM)
It really sucks that I love him. Because I am so fucking pissed about this.

BlisteringBlonde -> RE: Ok. This might just be the limit. (10/26/2007 7:54:24 PM)
You REALLY need to tell him then ....

kitttty -> RE: Ok. This might just be the limit. (10/26/2007 7:56:12 PM)
quote: You profile has a link to your erotic stories, you love writing, are you both into blogging? I'm just thinking maybe he doesn't view the blog he's made as seriously offensive to you? I have a completely anonymous non sexual blog, yes. He does not view the blog as something meant to be offensive to me. But it is because I feel recognizable. All he has to do is take the pics of my face off- he can keep all the body part pics up there. He can keep my most intimate thoughts up there- anonymously. But I cant stand my face and my room and my headband in pics on the internet. He has made me so angry. In theory though, we have a 'TPE' no limi relationship, whic sort of complicates how I discuss this matter.

kitttty -> RE: Ok. This might just be the limit. (10/26/2007 7:57:46 PM)
Oh I told him. He has not spoken to me yet.

Kirata -> RE: Ok. This might just be the limit. (10/26/2007 8:00:37 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kitttty It really sucks that I love him. Because I am so fucking pissed about this. I can't help observing, if it sheds any light, that you could have said, "I really love him. It sucks that I'm so fucking pissed about this." Maybe you've already decided. K.

kitttty -> RE: Ok. This might just be the limit. (10/26/2007 8:07:56 PM)
quote: I really love him. It sucks that I'm so fucking pissed about this." I didn't say that because I feel that I am rightfully pissed.

BlisteringBlonde -> RE: Ok. This might just be the limit. (10/26/2007 8:11:24 PM)
ok if he is good with computer get him to crop your head out and change the back ground to the room .....thats easily done

LotusSong -> RE: Ok. This might just be the limit. (10/26/2007 8:14:19 PM)
Whenever anyone allows themselves to be photographed or taped.. they run the risk of this sort of thing. If you feel uncomfortable, I would expect your dom to respect that.

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