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laurell3 -> RE: Dominas all looking for the exact same guy. (10/27/2007 7:39:14 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Politesub53 quote: ORIGINAL: MissMagnolia I refer you to the title of the thread, cut and pasted, so no mistakes: Ask a Mistress >> Dominas all looking for the exact same guy. OMG i never realised this..... The queue forms to the right [sm=banana.gif] lol man I had to have read this three times before I got it...I need more caffeine. You crack me up politesub, too bad you're a zillion miles away. l

MISTRESSKUMA -> RE: Dominas all looking for the exact same guy. (10/27/2007 9:12:27 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MissMagnolia Hmmmmmmmmmmm and yet all Dommes on here are inundated with emails from subs/slaves every day. I hate to be the one to tell you this, Ladies, but of all the submissive men I know, only one even comes close to this. And he’s already taken. You must be very popular, to know so many submissive men. Almost all of them in fact. Lucky you. [8\|] Your reply is hilarious especially the - You must be very popular to know so many sub men. Almost all of them. Lucky you. [:D][:D][:D]

MISTRESSKUMA -> RE: Dominas all looking for the exact same guy. (10/27/2007 9:14:28 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: laurell3 quote: ORIGINAL: HarryVanWinkle So that maybe some will realize how unrealistic their expatations are. Thanks, but I have zero faith that your premise is even remotely true for all Dommes and would seriously ponder why I would take advice from someone who's sole purpose in posting is to spread their bitterness. This is so very true what you write that his purpose is to spread bitterness towards women who know what they want and deserve and the men that want to give it. He's more like a guy who hasnt found anything yet and is disgruntled. And blames the objects of his desire for it. Go figure.

MISTRESSKUMA -> RE: Dominas all looking for the exact same guy. (10/27/2007 9:16:35 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TNstepsout hmmm Ok, let me see if I understand this. You enter the Ask a Mistress forum and make a blanket statement about ALL Dominant women that is unflattering and then are baffled as to why they would be offended. Perhaps you are not as bright as you think. That and YAH, it's bitterness.

MISTRESSKUMA -> RE: Dominas all looking for the exact same guy. (10/27/2007 9:21:26 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: laurell3 quote: ORIGINAL: HarryVanWinkle So that maybe some will realize how unrealistic their expatations are. Thanks, but I have zero faith that your premise is even remotely true for all Dommes and would seriously ponder why I would take advice from someone who's sole purpose in posting is to spread their bitterness. And I dont know why there seems to be a lot of men with chips on their shoulders against dommes around here. Its like they are unlucky in their lives and come under here under "submissive" (wink wink) just to use you try and belittle or degrade you. Men if you dont like and adore women, drop the "submisisve" label and get the hell out of here. Go start a website called Bottom Boys for crying out load. Thank you,

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Dominas all looking for the exact same guy. (10/27/2007 10:14:15 AM)
Thanks for the monster giggle!

rubberpet -> RE: Dominas all looking for the exact same guy. (10/27/2007 10:29:41 AM)
After reading this thread and following it for a bit, I felt compelled to put my two-cents in. I don't know who the specific ladies Mr. Winkle is speaking about, but the nerve of these ladies is appalling. How dare they want handsome, experienced, selfless, considerate, successful submissives to dedicate themselves to serving a dominant woman! These dommes should just reduce themselves to fulfilling all the wishes and desires of these lazy bums that sit in front of a computer and jerk off. So, with all due respect, Mr. Winkle, your post is nothing more that a whining bitch fit. Domme or sub, who doesn't want an attractive partner to share this lifestyle with? For a sub, is it so wrong to want a domme with lots of equipment, kinky outfits, experience, a creative mind, and who is accepting of your submissive nature? No, it's not wrong...it's human nature. Just like dommes wanting experienced, attractive, financially set subs, it is just like vanilla dating. They want someone who is responsible with their life and choices...they want a mature adult they can click with for a partner. Yes, some dommes out there seem like they're all about the money with tribute requests and the "Me, Me, Me" attitude, but that's because they've probably been dicked over in the past and that's their way to weed out the fakes and flakes. Some believe in a more regal style of dominance and submission with the slave existing for the comfort and pleasure of his Mistress. After all, what is the true definition of a slave? Hmmmmm? So it is unrealistic to make such a generalized statement on such a vast number of people. There are more selfish subs out their than dommes, believe me. They think the domme should do all the work while they just lay back and experience being played with for hours on end. Dommes want to be pampered, they want to be served, they want their needs put first. If their sub does a good enough job, they are rewarded. Isn't that how it should be, rewarded for a job well done? Think about things, my friend.....

darchChylde -> RE: Dominas all looking for the exact same guy. (10/27/2007 10:33:38 AM)
while i agree with the OP that there happens to be a common theme in many Dominant women's profiles; and those things listed are quite often seen, and usually together... i have a minor statement to make regarding his post -handsome -healthy -successful -absolutely submissive -wholly dedicated -not demanding -not a SAM -strong -secure in himself -intelligent -has a sense of humor -able to support her WELL FREAKING DUH!!! this is like saying that guys like tits, beer and sports... much of what you have listed is an ideal that most women would like in a man, not just a Domme for a submissive... as far as the rest about messages and profiles, again... DUH!!! Collarme is pure supply-and-demand; there are many male subs and few female Doms; if you want to be noticed, you have to stand out. to show you are exceptional and if you are naming yourself as "only one even comes close to this"... be glad you are taken; worship and adore her and give her no reason to ever consider releasing you; because no matter your other great qualities, your attitude will leave you lonely if ever you have to search again

RigelTheRed -> RE: Dominas all looking for the exact same guy. (10/27/2007 11:02:03 AM)
darchChylde beat me to the punch. With the ratio of submissie males to Dominant females, they can afford to be picky. And if you think you're the only one out of thousands who comes close to those standards; you are one of the most vain people I have ever come in contact with.

laurell3 -> RE: Dominas all looking for the exact same guy. (10/27/2007 11:05:37 AM)
Actually OP I can tell you honestly your post compared to some of the other male subs that post here often (who may not be rich, or models or all that other garbage you quoted), pales in comparison. I know for a fact that I'm not alone, based on another post running here now, that many of the Dommes here would jump at the chance to meet many of these posters despite the lack of the superficial qualifications you listed if they had the opportunity. So, I guess maybe you are posting in the wrong forum or looking at the wrong profiles, or just flat out wrong period. Everyone has an "ideal" of what they want from a prospective partner and many state that in their profile, does this mean they aren't human and don't recognize others' humanity? Of course not. Unless you're following them around reading their emails and IM's you can't possibly have any idea one way or the other.

HarryVanWinkle -> RE: Dominas all looking for the exact same guy. (10/27/2007 11:19:50 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KaramelGoddess Perved My profile lately? There are thousands of profiles on collarme...you can not simply make assumptions from a few. And how long did it take you to perv "hundreds"??? And besides...so what if a Domina has expectations, if that's what She wants then darn it, that's what She wants! ~Kara Edited cuz I can't spell on Saturday mornings! Yes I have perved your profile. Under this name, I've been on this site for nearly a year and a half, and I've had several previous profiles which I deleted because my email wouldn't work. So, I probably have perved not hundreds but thousands women's profiles. There's nothing wrong with a domina (or a submissive or a bottom in fact) having expectations. My point was that when maybe 50% of the domina's expectations describe maybe 1% the submissive men, those expectations have a high likelihood of being unrealizable.

HarryVanWinkle -> RE: Dominas all looking for the exact same guy. (10/27/2007 11:25:23 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LotusSong Oh, I didn't take it as bitterness, I was chuckling right along with him :) Actually, he left out the part for those looking for a free live in handy man or care giver. I forgot to mention free butler, chauffer and chef as well. I also find it amusing how many dominas complain about men who don't read past the word "dominant" in their profiles before writing them, yet pick nits about one word in the subject line of a post here. The very first actual sentence of the OP clearly EXCLUDES at least half of the dominant women on Collarme. It's been my experience in life that when a person makes a public statement and then is bitterly denounced for it, it's often because the statement struck too close to home.

RigelTheRed -> RE: Dominas all looking for the exact same guy. (10/27/2007 11:29:13 AM)
quote: they seek a guy who’s handsome, healthy and successful in vanilla life, yet is absolutely submissive behind closed doors. quote: I hate to be the one to tell you this, Ladies, but of all the submissive men I know, only one even comes close to this. And he’s already taken. "In fact, while I greatly like being of service, I don't think I'm even much of a submissive" - Copied from HarryVanWinkle's profile "I also like serving individuals, although I don't have much of a submissive demeanor."- Copied from HarryVanWinkle's profile So where is this wonderfully submissive man. Can we meet him?

MiladyElaine -> RE: Dominas all looking for the exact same guy. (10/27/2007 11:42:46 AM)
" It's been my experience in life that when a person makes a public statement and then is bitterly denounced for it, it's often because the statement struck too close to home." he has a come back for everything said. Ignore....

RosesHaveThorns -> RE: Dominas all looking for the exact same guy. (10/27/2007 11:51:46 AM)
So if I say something like, all men should be burnt alive, and then people complain about it, it's actually true?

DrkJourney -> RE: Dominas all looking for the exact same guy. (10/27/2007 11:58:53 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: HarryVanWinkle Having read hundreds of profiles belonging to dominant women here, it seems like half of them have been copied and pasted from one another. They seek a guy who’s handsome, healthy and successful in vanilla life, yet is absolutely submissive behind closed doors. He will dedicate his body, mind and soul to her pleasure, comfort and happiness and make absolutely no demands, have no expectations, no specific desires of his own. Yet he’s not a doormat. He’s strong, secure in himself, intelligent and has a sense of humor, yet is not a SAM and he knows his place at her feet. And he never "tops from the bottom." He’s able and eager to support her in the lifestyle to which she is or wishes to become accustomed. He has pictures on his profile, or sends them in his first letter, even though many of them don’t. He writes a detailed, non copy/pasted letter of introduction to each domina he contacts, even though most of them never respond. He never mentions what his kinks are in this letter, because he knows it’s “all about her” even though he has no clue as to what hers are from her profile. Where he finds the time to do this while being successful and driven in his business life, I don’t know. I hate to be the one to tell you this, Ladies, but of all the submissive men I know, only one even comes close to this. And he’s already taken. hmmm...so being wanted to be treated like a human being and not some "insta-domme" that just lives on the net is unrealistic?.....interesting If someone says they want someone that is attractive, doesn't mean "chippendales" to her could be a 300lb man...you want someone that you are attracted to don't you? I don't need anyone to take care of me...if you saw this in a profile, it might simply mean that she wants someone who can take care of himself. I at least want someone on the same level, financially, as I am. I am not here to take care of anyone in that way. I don't know how many emails I get from guys wanting to be a "houseboy" and live off me for free with absolutely no financial contributions from them at all...I'm not taking any one to raise. The healthy part....well that's just a big "duh" I"m a Domme, why would I want someone that tops from the bottom? Kind of silly don't you think? And the other things you mentioned...well isn't that what a strong proud submissive/slave is.....one that caters's to his Domme, but is not someone that thinks he's a "nobody", "whimp", a "nothing"? why would I want someone with that opinion of himself? And as far as him cutting and pasting and a pic...If you read my profile, you would see I want someone who will be a companion, which means he saw something special in my words enough to write to "me".....why would I want someone that is cutting and pasting the same thing to a mass amount of Dommes? I write personal emails and I have a pic, why shouldn't I expect the same? I'm not asking anything of him that I haven't supplied. so this "one" Domme already has this "one" guy with these qualities....so I guess what you are saying that the rest of us should just take the crap now? we just just be resigned to helping the wankers get off, because since this "one" is already taken there is no hope what-so-ever? Not trying to flame...I'm honestly trying to understand

Petronius -> RE: Dominas all looking for the exact same guy. (10/27/2007 12:25:18 PM)
Lots of people, Dom and sub both, have their dungeons located in NeverNeverLand.

CdnExplorer -> RE: Dominas all looking for the exact same guy. (10/27/2007 1:06:50 PM)
Did anyone else see the thread title and imagine something like Running Man? One guy running for his life because he's been a jerk and ticked off all the dominas? Or am I just twisted? [:D]

Action -> RE: Dominas all looking for the exact same guy. (10/27/2007 1:55:31 PM)
All I have to say on the subject Im quiet disappointed how quickly all the Ladies here went to arms rather then just relizing if your not one of the ones that is looking for that sort of slave. Then why does it bother you so much? Call me an opptomist but I just never saw the reason to assume the worst rather then just taking the topic for what it is.

RaynaSub -> RE: Dominas all looking for the exact same guy. (10/27/2007 2:13:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Petronius Lots of people, Dom and sub both, have their dungeons located in NeverNeverLand. I agree with Petronius on this one. Reality is not what many people seek around here.

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