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RE: submissive Sadist? - 10/28/2007 3:26:38 PM

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I'm naturally Dominant... highly sadistic... barely masochistic... not owned... but belong to my Daddy, and I'm submissive to him.... some how I feel I just can't be alone in this one LOL.

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RE: submissive Sadist? - 10/28/2007 6:33:11 PM

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Is it possible for one to be both an owned submissive AND a Sadist at heart?

Is it a complete contridiction in terms, or is this somewhat common?

I haver had girls who were switches, and loved to top. But were deeply submissive to me. I'm not a masochist, and they didn't view me as a bottom. But they had no problem giving me a hand-when a friend would stop by. Kind of fun, having a beta sadist working with you.

Rrafe do you have subs "stopping by" often? Are you sure you don't live in a commune?

Not these days, I live out in the sticks-and work weekends-not much chance to get to the club any more.

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RE: submissive Sadist? - 10/29/2007 4:57:17 PM

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It is completely possible to be both an ownded submissive and a Sadist at heart.

To find it exciting to scratch, to bite, to kick and fight, and hear that hard grunt and feel the retaliation, the coil in the other persons body, the flash of energy and heat and struggle. For hurting someone else, to make something hotter, is not territory that is inhabited by Dominants and Switches only. If you are struggling in rough play with someone and sink your teeth into them and it only makes them harder and more excited, for some of us, that is some tasty goodness.

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RE: submissive Sadist? - 10/29/2007 5:21:45 PM

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Absolutly it's possible. I would classify a submissive sadist as someone who likes to be told how to hurt people. Sounds like a job description of a pro Top to me and I'm sure most of them enjoy what they do.

The broader point in all of this is not to peigon hole yourself (to say if I'm this I also have to be that.) Just be you, and have fun!!

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RE: submissive Sadist? - 10/30/2007 1:41:42 AM

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There's a school of thought that a lot of us follow:

A Top/bottom relationship is physical.
A Dom/sub relationship is mental.
A Master/slave relationship is spiritual.

And they can intermix. I know many Masters who are masochists...and many slaves who are excellent Tops or sadists. One of the hottest scenes I've seen involved a naked slave beating a shirtless Master. she walked around the front of the cross and asked, "Can I hurt you some more, Master?" Lord, that was hot!!!

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RE: submissive Sadist? - 10/30/2007 5:48:40 AM

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When i first read this yesterday i thought yes it's entirely possible but i'm not sadist in the slightest!
Then last night i was having a discussion with Sir and he showed me a pic of a woman in a certain position. I had all these thoughts about how her position could be made worse, more fun for the Dom / top etc. Some of it was pretty sadistic and sick (blushes) i might add. Sir called me sadistic.
The thing is though i could never do all the things i thought of to this woman, or anyone for that matter. I think maybe i just have a sadistic mind.

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RE: submissive Sadist? - 10/30/2007 5:56:03 AM

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ORIGINAL: missturbation

When i first read this yesterday i thought yes it's entirely possible but i'm not sadist in the slightest!
Then last night i was having a discussion with Sir and he showed me a pic of a woman in a certain position. I had all these thoughts about how her position could be made worse, more fun for the Dom / top etc. Some of it was pretty sadistic and sick (blushes) i might add. Sir called me sadistic.
The thing is though i could never do all the things i thought of to this woman, or anyone for that matter. I think maybe i just have a sadistic mind.

Misst... I just wanted to touch on something that you said here; that you are not sadistic, but you must have a sadistic mind.

I guess my question to that would be 'why would that make you sadistic or not sadistic?"

Some of the most sadistic people I have ever come into contact with are not 'physically sadistic'; instead they use the mental aspect... the imagination and the idea of 'hmm, I wonder what would happen if I said that I was going to do this" . Much like your observation of the lady in the picture.

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RE: submissive Sadist? - 10/30/2007 6:02:30 AM

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I just meant that whilst i may imagine it, fantasise about it, i would never actually practice it. Of course i would allow some of the stuff i come up with to be done to me, but i couldn't do it to others.
So i guess for clarity of how my sadisticness tends to work, i say i have a sadistic mind.

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RE: submissive Sadist? - 10/30/2007 6:06:24 AM

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ORIGINAL: missturbation

I just meant that whilst i may imagine it, fantasise about it, i would never actually practice it. Of course i would allow some of the stuff i come up with to be done to me, but i couldn't do it to others.
So i guess for clarity of how my sadisticness tends to work, i say i have a sadistic mind.

Ok, I can understand that. Let me ask another please lol?

If you were in the same room with two others, and were asked how you would best apply that sadistic mind... would you be able to give the direction for it to be played out, even though you are not taking a physical hand in it being done?

Just curious... not picking... actually really curious about your answer lol.

Let me edit this to say that in my question, I am not refering to being asked by your owner to do this because different rules would apply... simply generally asking if you would be able to.

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RE: submissive Sadist? - 10/30/2007 6:22:45 AM

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If you were in the same room with two others, and were asked how you would best apply that sadistic mind... would you be able to give the direction for it to be played out, even though you are not taking a physical hand in it being done?

Yes i could.
I just don't want to inflict the pain or discomfort on others.
Weird i know as by default i would be but not actually, if that makes sense.

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RE: submissive Sadist? - 10/30/2007 6:29:15 AM

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ORIGINAL: missturbation

If you were in the same room with two others, and were asked how you would best apply that sadistic mind... would you be able to give the direction for it to be played out, even though you are not taking a physical hand in it being done?

Yes i could.
I just don't want to inflict the pain or discomfort on others.
Weird i know as by default i would be but not actually, if that makes sense.

Ahh, ok... thanks

It's interesting because I have always viewed sadism as more than just a physical manifestation of a mindset. Meaning that if you can think it, imagine it, and smile about it with enthusiasm; that to me was a person who exhibited tendencies towards being sadistic. I have never thought of it in terms only as one who could carry it out physically.

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RE: submissive Sadist? - 10/30/2007 6:39:45 AM

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I'm not sure i think of it in those terms either. Sadistic is sadistic but i personally wouldn't wish my sadisticness to be anything other than fantasy or carried out on myself.
Maybe its more levels of sadisticness, i don't know

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RE: submissive Sadist? - 10/30/2007 6:44:21 AM

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Maybe its more levels of sadisticness, i don't know

Now that is an interesting thought. Never thought about the possibility that there are 'levels' to sadism.
Dayum LOL

/scratches head and walks away to think about this

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RE: submissive Sadist? - 10/30/2007 6:49:27 AM

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I think i need to think on this one too.
Meet you back here wednesday night to discuss what we came up with lol.
Would do it sooner but im going to Sirs today for some sweet torture - yay

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RE: submissive Sadist? - 10/30/2007 8:02:19 AM

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Sadism and masochism are not synonymous with dominance and submission. These are two different categories and topics. Being a sadist does not equal dominant and being masochist does not equal submissive. This is a big misconception. Being a submissive does not mean you are automatically a masochist.

There are plenty dominants that enjoy pain and submissives who enjoy giving pain. Don't get caught in what peoples definitions mean. Do what works for you. You can be a sub and a sadist.

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RE: submissive Sadist? - 10/30/2007 11:25:18 AM

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ORIGINAL: thedictatorslove

Is it possible for one to be both an owned submissive AND a Sadist at heart?

Is it a complete contridiction in terms, or is this somewhat common?

I am submissive to my Sir, but to His/our other submissive, i am ridiculously sadistic in theory - i like coming up with new ways to fuck with her mind, or creative ways He can keep her on her toes while she's 1000 miles away. I like to call it third person sadism - While I'd be OK with being wicked to someone, I much more prefer being in the wings, coming up with things for Him to do & me to watch. (hell, sometimes I say something, and He gets this gleam in His eye that it's for me... lol, you think i'd learn)

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RE: submissive Sadist? - 10/30/2007 11:55:30 AM

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Is it possible for one to be both an owned submissive AND a Sadist at heart?

Is it a complete contridiction in terms, or is this somewhat common?

Oh yes, very possible. i'm permitted to bite and scratch Master, even to struggle to make things more fun and interesting. However, i am always His, so with one signal i stop. Although i am far more masochistic, i do have a bit of a sadistic streak as well -

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RE: submissive Sadist? - 10/30/2007 12:15:12 PM

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I am an owned slave and definitely not sadistic. But like missturbation said, yes, I could come up with all sorts of ideas on how to torment someone..... but only because I have a very wild and creative imagination. I could not act upon the ideas that I might come up with.

I go out of my way not to cause pain or discomfort to others, often bringing those very things onto myself in the process.

A month ago, I caught the tail end of a scene where a femdom ripped a clothespin zipper off of her male slaves chest, after they had been there for a while. He went to his knees and screamed in pain, and I thought I was gonna go to my knees too and hurl right there.

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