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Calling Sir or Master mean - 10/28/2007 8:56:45 PM

energymuse

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I like to call Sir mean. It is not that he is truly mean, but has anyone else found it is easier to accept the pain, the mental pushing, and limit pushing when you can just say Sir or Master is mean. It sort of takes the pressure off of admitting you enjoyed it even though it made you cry, pout, whimper, whine or left a mark.

He placed the pads of my index finger between his teeth and bit down till I begged him to stop. My poor finger turned white and was sore for the rest of the day.

I drink about a gallon of water a day and when I am at his house I must ask permission to pee. Well when I spent the night I asked to pee in the morning and he made me sit on the toilet first and not go, then he told me I could begin but had to stop when he said so. I literally couldn’t start for few of not being able to stop. I finally did relax enough to begin and then I was able to stop, but I was terrified of not being able to do what he requested. It was a struggle and of course I called him mean.

This weekend I had to call or text him each time I masturbated. This is a struggle for me since for me it is a very private and inmate thing with myself. I know some may think oh you are lucky that this weekend you could masturbate whenever you wanted, but just having to telling him I even did it was difficult and made him mean.
Whenever I struggle with doing something, be it taking his pain or even if it just mentally hard for me I call him mean, but is it really wrong to call him mean. I do not think he minds it, but then again I am not sure. Then what is really mean?

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RE: Calling Sir or Master mean - 10/28/2007 9:07:05 PM

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I like this guy!

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RE: Calling Sir or Master mean - 10/28/2007 9:08:10 PM

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well it is a bit subjective.. I think you need to ask yourself, is he to strict with you. If you answear yes, then you should talk to him. None of us on here can answear your question for you. only you can. One thing you can do, is practice kegals. (stop/start the flow of your pee.) And on the plus side, it helps with orgasms.(since I started doing them, my orgasms are alot more intense and longer.

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RE: Calling Sir or Master mean - 10/28/2007 9:09:20 PM

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Ask him if he minds it so you can be sure. Most sadists relish being able to be openly mean and might find it both amusing to know they have that effect on you and easier to BE mean because it's so open and honest between you both.

It can also be a form of intimacy with you- name calling is something held special, so calling him means denotes a particular level of intimacy that you are comfortable enough with eachother that you know "mean" really means "I'm not enjoying this and get to call you a name as a way of trying to mitigate my circumstances, but we both know we're both really good people enjoying a good relationship together."

However, you will have to be careful in the future to signal when mean means "cute mean" and when it means "seriously, this isn't right for me" and not use it against him when things don't work well.

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RE: Calling Sir or Master mean - 10/28/2007 9:17:50 PM

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Being called mean just makes me laugh evily. Mwhahahahaha!

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RE: Calling Sir or Master mean - 10/28/2007 9:17:50 PM

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I see a couple of things. I am not judging because I do not know you, but can only wonder why you are writing to a very large site about a matter that is this private.
I hope you realize that prolong urinary punishments like he is administring can cause permanet damage to your urniary track system. I am no doctor, but common sence tells me this.
Also, you are pouting by calling him mean. You need to talk with him about your conserns, and if he is unreasonable, you should look for an alternate solution in your Dominant. I listen to my slave's concerns.
Best of luck, and I hope you really consider getting out of this relationship for your own health.

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RE: Calling Sir or Master mean - 10/28/2007 9:23:06 PM

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It seems like you have inadvertantly through a very real need established a safety signal for him to stop. It is something you should discuss - there are limits to what you can accept and you are the one to communicate that. It is the part of establishing your relationship.

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RE: Calling Sir or Master mean - 10/28/2007 10:33:03 PM

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Respectfully, I think the reaction from MissSCD is a huge over reaction. I sit on the toilet of my own volition and stop and start my urinary flow. It is an excellent way to practise my kegel exercises and keep my perineum tight. I dont see anything in the OP's thread about her Master physically blocking the urinary tract with objects or by closing it off, which means she will only hold it for as long as her muscles can bear the contraction.

When my Master commands me to do something that I dont want to do I call him a meanie ... he chuckles because he knows that his word is law and I will do his bidding anyway. I pretend to pout and he smiles. He may give me a short slap for it, call me an attention seeking whore, but typically when I play pout he recognizes that as a signal that he has found a boundary that he can explore. It's a source of humour between us.

Ask your Master how he feels about it, if he doesnt mind, then why worry? Every M/s relationship is (or at least should be) unique.

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RE: Calling Sir or Master mean - 10/28/2007 11:31:22 PM

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When I tell my Master that He is mean, it usually gets a chuckle.

In fact, there are times He waits for me to go "You're MEAN!!"

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RE: Calling Sir or Master mean - 10/28/2007 11:37:54 PM

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I call mine a fuckin' asshole, a twat monkey, and a bastard. He laughs and tells me to go his food already, and adds some pet names of his own. I don't think he would care about me telling him he is mean.

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RE: Calling Sir or Master mean - 10/28/2007 11:37:55 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SixFootMaster

Being called mean just makes me laugh evily. Mwhahahahaha!

i loved your quote i just had to repost it!! i currently have a Dom in my life and He is the exact same way. Calling Him mean just makes Him more evil!! And as for the question on whether or not if he likes it?? If he is a real dom he will definitely let you know and correct you if he does not want you to say it, so don't worry about it until he does. Then you can tremble and be very afraid

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RE: Calling Sir or Master mean - 10/29/2007 1:14:07 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: energymuse

I like to call Sir mean. It is not that he is truly mean, but has anyone else found it is easier to accept the pain, the mental pushing, and limit pushing when you can just say Sir or Master is mean. It sort of takes the pressure off of admitting you enjoyed it even though it made you cry, pout, whimper, whine or left a mark.

I got to here and then your post got into very intimate stuff. I am not squeamish but I really think it was the play you wanted to share.
I would have called him a dominant bastard straight to his face. but them I like fall-ouit rather than pout.

He's a toughie isn't he? But at least it's you that you know he's a toughie with you and not someone else.

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RE: Calling Sir or Master mean - 10/29/2007 2:44:14 AM

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heh I've said much worse things than "mean" as a sub. I've never been with a Dom/me that didn't see that as a compliment. I've been called an evil bitch a few times as well and find it humorous from someone in a precarious position. As long as you both understand you don't really mean anything negative by it, I don't see it as a problem.

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RE: Calling Sir or Master mean - 10/29/2007 3:43:01 AM

CelticPrince

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muse,

He is simply taking the control issue to a whole new level and for my part, his right may be there but he is over using it.

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RE: Calling Sir or Master mean - 10/29/2007 4:45:01 AM

IrishMist

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quote:

It sort of takes the pressure off of admitting you enjoyed it even though it made you cry, pout, whimper, whine or left a mark.

This right here kind of confused me. It almost sounds as if you are ashamed of your own desires so in order to accept them, you are instead 'placing blame' on him.

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RE: Calling Sir or Master mean - 10/29/2007 4:54:18 AM

Phoenixandnika

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When I have called Phoenix mean, he simply looks at me with a glint in his eyes and says "Oh you think I am mean" then he does something even worse.
~ laughs~

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Nika

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RE: Calling Sir or Master mean - 10/29/2007 4:56:03 AM

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quote:

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I call mine a fuckin' asshole, a twat monkey

HahahahahahHAHAHAHAHAAAAAAAAAAAAA. How much do I love 'twat monkey'??? Swearing is off-limits with Aba (unless it is private dirty swearing) but I think I'll add it to my "In Emergency Break Glass" repetoire.

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RE: Calling Sir or Master mean - 10/29/2007 5:02:22 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: IrishMist

quote:

It sort of takes the pressure off of admitting you enjoyed it even though it made you cry, pout, whimper, whine or left a mark.

This right here kind of confused me. It almost sounds as if you are ashamed of your own desires so in order to accept them, you are instead 'placing blame' on him.

It wouldn't be unheard of, eh?

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RE: Calling Sir or Master mean - 10/29/2007 5:11:48 AM

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LOL no, it would not be unheard of. I think though that the OP did not mean it to sound like it did, which is why I asked for clarification

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RE: Calling Sir or Master mean - 10/29/2007 5:12:37 AM

Dari

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Personally, I prefer being called evil myself, but mean leaves a nice warm glow, too.

I bet if your Master had a problem with it, he'd "discuss" it with you.

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