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RE: S&M - 10/31/2007 5:46:48 PM   
missturbation


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Please can i call you fluffy though, pretty please?

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RE: S&M - 10/31/2007 5:48:54 PM   
RRafe


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ORIGINAL: missturbation

Hmm i dunno lol.
Please can i call you fluffy though, pretty please?


Sure, but can I write your Dom with "suggestions"?

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RE: S&M - 10/31/2007 5:50:25 PM   
missturbation


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Status: offline 		Sure, butttttttt for your convenience you could just tell me and i'll pass them on

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If it fit's in a toaster, i can cook it.

Buying 10 item's or less is not shopping !!

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RE: S&M - 10/31/2007 5:52:04 PM   
RRafe


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Sure, butttttttt for your convenience you could just tell me and i'll pass them on


No, no, no, that simply won't do-we must collaborate. I have so many WONDERFUL things I would like to share-they must be first hand!

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RE: S&M - 10/31/2007 5:55:08 PM   
missturbation


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Status: offline 		Shucks i've got amnesia and can't remember his contact info lol

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If it fit's in a toaster, i can cook it.

Buying 10 item's or less is not shopping !!

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RE: S&M - 10/31/2007 5:58:06 PM   
RRafe


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ORIGINAL: missturbation

Shucks i've got amnesia and can't remember his contact info lol


I loved the DeSade quotes from "Justine". One of my favorites-along with 'philosophy in the bedroom"

Time will tell-I am very patient-and I never forget.

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RE: S&M - 10/31/2007 6:00:17 PM   
subtee


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~wonders if her Sir might want to "talk" to RRafe too, after this~

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RE: S&M - 10/31/2007 6:02:28 PM   
RRafe


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ORIGINAL: subtee

~bites her lip~

~wonders if her Sir might want to "talk" to RRafe too, after this~


I'm a veritable fountain of creativity-especially when motivated. You might be surpised at how "'special" my imaginings can become-for the people I SO adore. I will await thier pleasure.

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RE: S&M - 10/31/2007 6:03:42 PM   
subtee


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RE: S&M - 10/31/2007 6:03:49 PM   
ELUSIVE1


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ORIGINAL: missturbation

Hmm i dunno lol.
Please can i call you fluffy though, pretty please?

funny--I once called the biggest, cruelest dungeon master I had ever met fluffly--and wow was my butt tanned good after that......just sayin...


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RE: S&M - 10/31/2007 6:06:20 PM   
RRafe


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ORIGINAL: ELUSIVE1

quote:

ORIGINAL: missturbation

Hmm i dunno lol.
Please can i call you fluffy though, pretty please?

funny--I once called the biggest, cruelest dungeon master I had ever met fluffly--and wow was my butt tanned good after that......just sayin...



You mean when they repeat it like so? laughing evilly? Fluffy.....WHACK!!!!

fluuuufeeeee..... SLAP !!!!!!!

I'm soooo fluffy fluffy fluuuufuffeeeeeeeee!

Goes so nicely with the screaming.......

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RE: S&M - 10/31/2007 6:10:46 PM   
perfectparadox


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I came across this quote awhile back and for the most part it  is true for me as well.. Although i realise not for everyone. I think part of the  reason it works that way for me is that i was introduced to BDSM by a sadist who only truly enjoyed it when he took me past the point of erotic pain to pain-pain and never provided aftercare. When  i expressed to him my need for physical affection after the intensity of the pain-play and he didn't provide it eventually i decided to walk away.
It left me feeling very torn. One the one hand i knew i would never be truly satisfied with plain old vanilla sex again and yet i wasn't ok with  how it made me feel afterwards.
I am thankful for the  kind D-types i met later in  chatrooms online who explained aftercare, the importance of educating myself and becoming involved in the local community. Without them i doubt i would have ever continued my jouney into all this .

< Message edited by perfectparadox -- 10/31/2007 6:15:33 PM >

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RE: S&M - 10/31/2007 6:11:23 PM   
ELUSIVE1


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ORIGINAL: RRafe

quote:

ORIGINAL: ELUSIVE1

quote:

ORIGINAL: missturbation

Hmm i dunno lol.
Please can i call you fluffy though, pretty please?

funny--I once called the biggest, cruelest dungeon master I had ever met fluffly--and wow was my butt tanned good after that......just sayin...



You mean when they repeat it like so? laughing evilly? Fluffy.....WHACK!!!!

fluuuufeeeee..... SLAP !!!!!!!

I'm soooo fluffy fluffy fluuuufuffeeeeeeeee!

Goes so nicely with the screaming.......
yes...and all he used was his hands--so SO glad he didnt have a real wood school house paddle in his reach

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http://alt.com/blog/ELUSIVE1NC
http://users.adultspace.com/ELUSIVE1NC/


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RE: S&M - 10/31/2007 6:14:21 PM   
RRafe


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ORIGINAL: ELUSIVE1

quote:

ORIGINAL: RRafe

quote:

ORIGINAL: ELUSIVE1

quote:

ORIGINAL: missturbation

Hmm i dunno lol.
Please can i call you fluffy though, pretty please?

funny--I once called the biggest, cruelest dungeon master I had ever met fluffly--and wow was my butt tanned good after that......just sayin...



You mean when they repeat it like so? laughing evilly? Fluffy.....WHACK!!!!

fluuuufeeeee..... SLAP !!!!!!!

I'm soooo fluffy fluffy fluuuufuffeeeeeeeee!

Goes so nicely with the screaming.......
yes...and all he used was his hands--so SO glad he didnt have a real wood school house paddle in his reach


I have hands like vice grips-from 25 years of metal working.

No competent sadist ever needs more than those-and the ability to grok.

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RE: S&M - 10/31/2007 6:18:49 PM   
ELUSIVE1


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ORIGINAL: RRafe

quote:

ORIGINAL: ELUSIVE1

quote:

ORIGINAL: RRafe

quote:

ORIGINAL: ELUSIVE1

quote:

ORIGINAL: missturbation

Hmm i dunno lol.
Please can i call you fluffy though, pretty please?

funny--I once called the biggest, cruelest dungeon master I had ever met fluffly--and wow was my butt tanned good after that......just sayin...



You mean when they repeat it like so? laughing evilly? Fluffy.....WHACK!!!!

fluuuufeeeee..... SLAP !!!!!!!

I'm soooo fluffy fluffy fluuuufuffeeeeeeeee!

Goes so nicely with the screaming.......
yes...and all he used was his hands--so SO glad he didnt have a real wood school house paddle in his reach


I have hands like vice grips-from 25 years of metal working.

No competent sadist ever needs more than those-and the ability to grok.
grok???

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http://alt.com/blog/ELUSIVE1NC
http://users.adultspace.com/ELUSIVE1NC/


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RE: S&M - 10/31/2007 6:19:14 PM   
RRafe


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ORIGINAL: perfectparadox

To the OP:
I came across this quote awhile back and for the most part it  is true for me as well.. Although i realise not for everyone. I think part of the  reason it works that way for me is that i was introduced to BDSM by a sadist who only truly enjoyed it when he took me past the point of erotic pain to pain-pain and never provided aftercare. When  i expressed to him my need for physical affection after the intensity of the pain-play and he didn't provide it eventually i decided to walk away.
It left me feeling very torn. One the one hand i knew i would never be truly satisfied with plain old vanilla sex again and yet i wasn't ok with  how it made me feel afterwards.
I am thankful for the  kind D-types i met later in  chatrooms online who explained aftercare, the importance of educating myself and becoming involved in the local community. Without them i doubt i would have ever continued my jouney into all this .


Aftercare is something you do-because you care. I won't play if a bottom doesn't have time for it. Iv'e had ones rush out the door-and almost get into car wrecks on the freeway-they were still so stoned on endorphins. Pissed me off-them taking chances like that. Pissed *me off AT me*  that I allowed it.

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RE: S&M - 10/31/2007 6:20:15 PM   
RRafe


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ORIGINAL: ELUSIVE1

quote:

ORIGINAL: RRafe

quote:

ORIGINAL: ELUSIVE1

quote:

ORIGINAL: RRafe

quote:

ORIGINAL: ELUSIVE1

quote:

ORIGINAL: missturbation

Hmm i dunno lol.
Please can i call you fluffy though, pretty please?

funny--I once called the biggest, cruelest dungeon master I had ever met fluffly--and wow was my butt tanned good after that......just sayin...



You mean when they repeat it like so? laughing evilly? Fluffy.....WHACK!!!!

fluuuufeeeee..... SLAP !!!!!!!

I'm soooo fluffy fluffy fluuuufuffeeeeeeeee!

Goes so nicely with the screaming.......
yes...and all he used was his hands--so SO glad he didnt have a real wood school house paddle in his reach


I have hands like vice grips-from 25 years of metal working.

No competent sadist ever needs more than those-and the ability to grok.
grok???


Drink in the situation, be perceptive to the moments. Make the flow happen in an organic way-some call it reading.

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RE: S&M - 10/31/2007 6:43:20 PM   
bipolarber


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Status: offline 		In response to the OP:

I think that's a perfectly valid point of view... but only on the lighter end of the S&M spectrum. Also valid are the folks who play specifically to surf a tsunami of pain, and whom I've seen come down off a cross black and blue, and bleeding from lacerations... and, I might add, smiling from ear to ear! That's the other end of the spectrum. As you can imagine, there's room for a whole lot of "in-betweeners." 

There are people into kink just for the feeling of "belonging" to someone else. Some are into service. Others like the restriction of bondage, like a big hug that never lets up. And yes, there are plenty who are into the intense sensations of pain and punishment too. We are legion, we contain multitudes.

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RE: S&M - 11/1/2007 1:55:41 PM   
CreativeDominant


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ORIGINAL: ELUSIVE1

'"The essence of sadomasochism is not so much "pain" as the overwhelming of one's senses - emotionally more than physically. Active sexual masochism has little to do with pain and everything to do with the search for emotional pleasure. When we understand that it is pain only, and not cruelty, that is the essential in this group of manifestations, we begin to come nearer to their explanation. The masochist desires to experience pain, but she generally desires that it should be inflicted in love; the sadist desires to inflict pain, but he desires that it should be felt as love...."

This was sent to me in an email here on c/m--any thoughts on this??? I to agree with most of  this...
 
Except for the overdone hearts and flowers, I can agree...from my point here on the plains.
 
I much prefer to have a mental and emotional connection with anyone I play with.  As I stated on another thread, I have reached the point in my life where I prefer to deal with people that I would enjoy with or without the D/s and BDSM present.  Because of that, bringing in the intangible differences that come about in getting to know someone from their D/s and BDSM stance amps it up more.  This is why I have so rarely scened with anyone that I have just met at a club with no email, phone calls, conversations in person...I like to know what the person thinks about outside of D/s and BDSM and what they think about when they do think about D/s and BDSM.  I like to listen...listen...listen and learn where their triggers are, where their fears lie and, most important for the mental aspects of sadism that I like to bring into play, what terrifies and yet excites them at the same time.
 
Knowing that she cares about you and thinks you are sweet is great and really helps when you shove her over a truck seat, yank her dress up and begin to beat her ass (knowing that she loves having her ass beat) while all the while reminding her just "how sweet you are" is better because of that connection.  But does it have to be love?  No.  Can that mental and emotional connecton that IS there help to make love begin with a good beating...and/or begging to cum while you keep saying "mmmmmmm...not just yet...but soon...I PROMMMMMMMMMISE, ~grins~"...along with a host of other things (before someone jumps me about love coming from a beating alone)?  I believe it can. 

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RE: S&M - 11/1/2007 6:06:47 PM   
batshalom


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I love you.

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