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What can a submissive do to please/serve A Dom? - 10/31/2007 5:35:51 PM

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soulful was wondering on some erotic, unique ideas on ways/things she can do to please/serve her Sir better?

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RE: What can a submissive do to please/serve A Dom? - 10/31/2007 6:37:17 PM

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Obey? Who knows what he likes.... not me.

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RE: What can a submissive do to please/serve A Dom? - 10/31/2007 6:59:21 PM

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She can get off her butt and quit watching Dr. Quinn Medicine Woman.

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RE: What can a submissive do to please/serve A Dom? - 10/31/2007 8:07:56 PM

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Well who knows your Sir better than you?..what are his likes?? what brings a special light to his eyes? Is he Sadistic? Is he "Daddy"?.I guess you may try to wear a particular outfit that you know he finds pleasing..maybe you try something he has wanted you to try, but you have been hesitant to do so? The unique part of this is what is "his" preference..I am sure his preferences are unique unto him, correct?..Do not try to do something he has never expressed a desire for..do something he has expressed interest, liking or desire for...there is where you will find your answer...Tempting

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RE: What can a submissive do to please/serve A Dom? - 10/31/2007 8:20:53 PM

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What he tells you to...
If only all questions were answered that easily.
Or perhaps that was the question asked, not the one for which an answer was sought?

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RE: What can a submissive do to please/serve A Dom? - 10/31/2007 9:01:15 PM

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1. Take lessons from a homosexual on sucking cock.

2. Learn how to cook all his favoriate foods.

3. Be good at giving massages

4. Rather than pulling out a spontanious supprise again and again, I suggest that you get a list of what you are always expected to do. After knowning your minimum resposiblity, up the bar on a case by case basis. Going overboard can ruin the effect you where going for.

When it comes to pleasing, they say the Truth can be a double edge sword. I recomend that Honesty is the best policy. Choosing to do things you don't like is okay. I only encourage for you to tell him what you like and don't like. It's important to be yourself and decide if the two of you are really meant to be.

Always communicate with each other.

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RE: What can a submissive do to please/serve A Dom? - 10/31/2007 9:01:21 PM

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She can get off her butt and quit watching Dr. Quinn Medicine Woman.

Oh my god this made me laugh til i choked

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RE: What can a submissive do to please/serve A Dom? - 10/31/2007 9:03:24 PM

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damn, massage school is always a winner

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RE: What can a submissive do to please/serve A Dom? - 10/31/2007 9:03:49 PM

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She can get off her butt and quit watching Dr. Quinn Medicine Woman.

Oh my god this made me laugh til i choked

I didn't get it.

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RE: What can a submissive do to please/serve A Dom? - 10/31/2007 10:19:42 PM

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why is it that people have to reply with childish, idiotic answers...you would think that adults in their 40's-50's would act appropriately!

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RE: What can a submissive do to please/serve A Dom? - 10/31/2007 10:29:44 PM

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Well wouldn't adults in their 40s-50s know how to think of ideas and/or ask their partners directly?

Your question is not a bad one, simply sounds too much like you need to review the sexuality section of Barnes & Nobles more than a forum.

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RE: What can a submissive do to please/serve A Dom? - 10/31/2007 10:35:04 PM

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asking peoples advice isnt that what a forum is for??? and to share things? i was clearly just asking ideas from people..that they enjoyed or used...

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RE: What can a submissive do to please/serve A Dom? - 10/31/2007 10:51:18 PM

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better yourself. find out what pleases Him then do it.

also check the thread i started the other day in 'Ask a submissive' about what have you done to please your Dom.... might get a few ideas there.

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RE: What can a submissive do to please/serve A Dom? - 10/31/2007 11:26:28 PM

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What he tells you to...

Health,
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This is it. Basically it is our place to serve our Dom/Master/Domme/Mistress by being obedient first and foremost. Aside from that, as has already been mentioned here by others, study your Master and learn what pleases Him specifically.

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RE: What can a submissive do to please/serve A Dom? - 11/1/2007 4:08:08 AM

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I appreciate that you are looking for more ideas, the thing is, the little things I do to please my Master, your's may find at the least rediculous and at the worst offensive... or you may find them yourself to be rediculous or offensive.

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RE: What can a submissive do to please/serve A Dom? - 11/1/2007 7:37:39 AM

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why is it that people have to reply with childish, idiotic answers...you would think that adults in their 40's-50's would act appropriately!

Hey, I'm sorry that I upset you. I didn't mean to. I'm old, but it is true that I don't always act appropriately.
So. A thoughtful response:

I would find a quiet place and think/write about Him. I would reflect not only on the more obvious, larger ways in which I give him pleasure, obedience and attentiveness as givens, but also on the more subtle, including those ways in which He enjoys the world. I would try to find methods and means to bring that same enjoyment to Him. For example, He may love maple syrup. (I can't stand it, yuk.) However, knowing that He loves it, he may find me on the kitchen table smeared all over with maple syrup.
Honestly, I would make a list.

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RE: What can a submissive do to please/serve A Dom? - 11/1/2007 8:05:54 AM

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What he wants the most-that you desire to give, the least.

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RE: What can a submissive do to please/serve A Dom? - 11/1/2007 8:23:40 AM

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great reply, Rafe. There can be a whole long list there in itself!

Edit: Oops! What I'd add is, make sure you screw up your determination that you will enjoy is as well. It's amazing what a little change of perspective can do when viewing something you feel might be unpleasant.

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RE: What can a submissive do to please/serve A Dom? - 11/1/2007 8:25:28 AM

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great reply, Rafe. There can be a whole long list there in itself!

And the expressions that cross a girl's face when I say something like that-priceless.

Be careful what you ask for-especially with me.

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RE: What can a submissive do to please/serve A Dom? - 11/1/2007 10:13:14 AM

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why is it that people have to reply with childish, idiotic answers...you would think that adults in their 40's-50's would act appropriately!

heh if you're looking for the bdsm d/s well-adjusted, sane, politically correct, not into humor, overly sensitive to other's needs section I think you might have gone a few aisles too far.

I would suggest one of the most important things anyone can do in a relationship with another is learn to laugh and even laugh at themselves and not personalize things that aren't personal. I'm honestly not picking on you, it's something I need to work on myself and I tend to have rather literal thinking. Laughter and even joint laughter is incredibly cathartic and bonding.

Other than that, as people have said, it's really individual. Find out what makes the guy tick and expound on it. Learn to anticipate his needs. Give of yourself. Do something that's uncomfortable, unpleasant or something you would not ordinarily do (I don't mean hard limits) merely because it's what he desires. Support him, be his sounding board when he's upset...yeah yeah even domly doms need support and have emotions.

You get the picture. There's no list of answers people here can think of for your guy as we don't know him, or you.

good luck to you,
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Edited to add: by the way welcome to the forums. It's a zoo, but if you stick around, you'll find some great people here and get some good advice as....well...you know...always remember you know what's good for you before anyone else.

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