Noah
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think about it---it was sort of an idiotic question. We do not know your Dom. Maybe had you asked the question differently, you would have gotten a different response. Such as what are things you have done to please your Dom? And ask the submissive's not the Dominant's how would they know what pleases a Dom other than themselves and Dom's a pretty unique in what they like. What applies to them probably will not apply to yours. And if you have to ask in the Dom section how about what has your submissive done to please you?
Squeaker:
No. It wasn't an idiotic question. It was perfectly sensible as being equivalent the the other recent thread topic you allude to, which asked what one had done to please one's dominant.
To the original poster:
I'd like to apologize for all of the unhelpful, gratuitous and beside-the-point crap so many people have offered.
One doesn't have to know you or your partner in order to offer the sort of suggestions you asked for. Magazine racks and bookseller's shelves around the world are filled with chapters and articles suggesting ways to richen or deepen relationships, vanilla and otherwise.
These authors don't "know you or your dom" either, but millions of people read what these authors have to offer. The readers pick and choose what seems promising from among the offerings and life is good.
You and I uderstand this. I'm not sure about half of the people who responded above.
Squeaker suggests that doms are unique in what they like and that what applies to them will probably not apply to your partner. If there is a dominant somewhere in the world who likes oral sex, for instance, it will be very difficult, almost impossible I suppose, to find another one who does.
Personally I like to touch my partners in various ways, both phyical and emotional (some of them noted below), and to be touched by them as well.
Until hearing from Squeakers today I didn't know how tremendously rare that is. (Thanks squeakers.)
Relying upon Squeakers' logic I offer you these snippets from another thread. If squeakers is correct it will be a lovely compendium of things never, ever to do for your partner.
Good luck!
unsureslave
~~greatly added to my lingerie, shoe, & lipstick collection
~~set-up a website with my thoughts, pictures, videos, etc as tribute
~~was learning a foreign language
~~had nipple & clit pierced
~~made humiliating videos that repulsed me because He found it erotic and enjoyed them
~~set up a security cam that only He had access to so He could watch at any time whether i knew it or not
~~got large tattoo in His honor on my lower back
writergirl
... bought Him small (and sometimes helped with large) ticket items (sometimes as a surprise, sometimes at His request). I've cooked Him breakfast in bed (His request). I've done household chores without being asked. I read to Him before bed ...
Willowmoon
Got my nipples pierced
Learnt to sleep naked
Learnt to make his perfect coffee and present it to him
Learnt to make his fav dinner so that I can cook it for him
Worn a gstring when I hate them
Got matching Bras to the gstrings
Given him long massages
Used my 'allowance' to buy him a present
batshalom
... Grew my hair, didn't get another tattoo, took karate, got in better shape, got more rest, did girlie stuff for myself ..., stopped drinking, saw a therapist, learned to answer questions directly (still have trouble with this sometimes). ...
... Learning to speak Hebrew with an Israeli accent. Learning to write and read Hebrew letters. Still learning to answer questions directly. Learning to ask questions without qualifying them (i.e. "If you don't want to answer, or if it's too personal then you don't have to answer, but ..."), trying to figure out how to stay in Israel longer than 90 days at a time, learning to l-o-v-e pain, learning that I am perfectly acceptable ...
LuckyAlbatross
cook most of his meals, give him tons of snuggles, occasionally gather up the trash, laugh a lot, watch tv and read the paper together on the couch, be his gym buddy, enjoy spending time with his friends and family.
baked him a special pumpkin pie.
TakenPet
cooking better/healthier meals, following instructions including learning to not question Master, and answering his questions promptly and directly, piercing my tongue, writing a daily diary, growing my hair out, play games with him, sleep naked,
BBWnNC72
i am finding furniture for Him, .... i also do other things, He loves for me to bathe Him and shave Him, rub his feet, legs and back.
handsoverhead
cook all his meals
pack his lunch for work
make his morning coffee
learnt to embrace recycling & water conservation
changed television viewing habits
changed the type of soap & shampoo I use
changed the type of cleaning products I use
decreased alcohol intake
increased exercise
gave up smoking
I leave the bed when I wake up so I do not disturb him while he sleeps in.
...
learn to embrace silence
learn to respond and not react
wisteriaV
I have: cooked his favorite meal, bought his favorite cheese ( limburger), baked fresh bread or breakfast muffins so when he woke up he could smell it cooking.. Grown out my hair, giving up the choice of hair color I prefer to his choice, shaving all my body hair off except my head
tearfulsurrender
...like clean his house, cook His meals and do His laundry. I love and care for His children when they come to visit. ... . give up wearing pants.\
Tannie
refraining from shaving my head,
crocheting a gigantic (and hideous) blanket ...
grooming his dog;
don't eat garlic around him ...
lay on his side of the bed for a minute or two to warm it up before he lays down (it's starting to get cold here)
Celeste43
...the first time he came here, he brought this special brand of mint tea with him. I didn't mention it, but the next time he was here I had a box in the cabinet.
... he had this giant mug that held about 24 oz. He broke it a couple of weeks ago so I went online and found another one. I bought him two, one for here and one for work.
littleone35
give him all the love in my heart. Lots of kissing and hugging an cuddling. Back rubs. Make his coffee the way he likes it and make sure i have the kinda of soda he likes. Mad her brownies quite a few time ( he loves brownies) bought him cream puffs for his birthday last year.
YourhandMyAss
...bought him a replacement cthulu,
michelleryder
Took on his limits...
Shawn1066
I've learned to make her coffee properly.
I've learned how to paint her nails.
I've helped her in the shower.
I've become a -very- willing model for her photos, even if the idea wasn't pleasant at all in the first place.
I'll massage her back when it needs it, even though my technique needs a little work.
I'll brush her hair once she's out of the shower.
I help her with cleaning whenever I can, and I especially enjoy vacuuming for her.
I write a journal for her.
I've learned to become very comfortable naked, which used to be completely outside of my comfort zone.
Also, I snuggle quite nicely. :-p
MidnightMaiden
... I put my breast in his hand and told him to ahead and squeeze, pretend it was a stress ball.
goodgirl08
... rearranging my life so that I can be available to please him as much as possible. I cut down on unnecessary hours at my part time job ... I have been wearing my hair down every day because he likes that, and wearing skirts/dresses for his pleasure too. I am also working to overcome my natural shyness with him and others that I talk to, I still get really shy and bashful talking to him sometimes
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RE: What can a submissive do to please/serve A Dom? - 
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) do all of the legwork and bring the results back to him so that it can happen 
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