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RE: dress code for subs - 6/12/2009 6:30:46 PM

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I was just thinking: I could meet up with a Domme dressed in a 'sub' outfit. That is, a submarine, painted grey, complete with turret - maybe made out of cardboard. She'd be well impressed at my sense of style and imagination. However, I probably wouldn't do that because it would be silly.

I can be absolutely certain....if I met a Domme for the very first time, and she was in a battleship gray outfit, complete with turret....maybe made out of cardboard......

We would never be a couple.

Well, she wouldn't be dressed that way, would she, Lookie? That's a sub outfit, not a Domina's. I think you're being rather silly here. As a Domina, she'd have a cardboard outfit that looks like a domino chip, only with pink dots instead of white.

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RE: dress code for subs - 6/12/2009 6:37:51 PM

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Hi, Peon----
I think any man looks more attractive in a suit, so an attractive man in a suit, even better.
That having said, I think your submarine idea has flair, lol! :>
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RE: dress code for subs - 6/12/2009 7:07:27 PM

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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

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I was just thinking: I could meet up with a Domme dressed in a 'sub' outfit. That is, a submarine, painted grey, complete with turret - maybe made out of cardboard. She'd be well impressed at my sense of style and imagination. However, I probably wouldn't do that because it would be silly.

I can be absolutely certain....if I met a Domme for the very first time, and she was in a battleship gray outfit, complete with turret....maybe made out of cardboard......

We would never be a couple.

Well, she wouldn't be dressed that way, would she, Lookie? That's a sub outfit, not a Domina's. I think you're being rather silly here. As a Domina, she'd have a cardboard outfit that looks like a domino chip, only with pink dots instead of white.

(A truly superb point. I sit corrected).

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RE: dress code for subs - 6/12/2009 9:31:28 PM

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< thinking that Peon's askin' for it by bringing up pink again > Lol! :>
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RE: dress code for subs - 6/12/2009 9:37:43 PM

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He's always asking for it; however, he's given me the impression from some of his posts that no one ever gives it to him.

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RE: dress code for subs - 6/13/2009 8:14:19 AM

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I'm not at home when Mistress Sauce comes a-sauntering to my door, Venatrix.

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RE: dress code for subs - 6/13/2009 8:54:50 AM

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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer
I was just thinking: I could meet up with a Domme dressed in a 'sub' outfit. That is, a submarine, painted grey, complete with turret - maybe made out of cardboard. She'd be well impressed at my sense of style and imagination. However, I probably wouldn't do that because it would be silly.

I applaud your creativity, both with this idea and the domino idea ;-)

Dommes are always saying something about trying to stand out from other subs. If you opt for grey, you will be like any other sub. If you opt for yellow, you would definitely stand out from all the other subs.

Also, there is opportunity to tie music to this theme if you have some Beatles. You could have an Ipod and portable speaker inside the cardboard costume. You could then play the song, shrug and say they live inside you and like to sing from time to time about how happy they are to live inside you. She'll be packing her bags and wanting to move in also in no time.

Cheers,

Sea

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RE: dress code for subs - 6/13/2009 9:13:28 AM

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It's not acid you're always on, is it? Its that stuff you get from the cacti down your way, isn't it?

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RE: dress code for subs - 6/13/2009 9:20:31 AM

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Ordering someone what to wear on a first date, before either of you really have enough information to consent to a power exchange, seems like a potential setup for failure due to unrealistic expectations.

Don't get me wrong; with some couples and in some situations this kind of early flirting could be hot, and it could work. But in a lot of cases I think you'd just be operating based on a fantasy of a power exchange that didn't actually exist at the time, and that would end up not existing because the fantasy crap got in the way of realistic negotiations and figuring out whether or not you actually liked each other as people.

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RE: dress code for subs - 6/13/2009 9:28:27 AM

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It's not acid you're always on, is it? Its that stuff you get from the cacti down your way, isn't it?

That tequila is made from cacti is a myth; it is made from a particular type of agave plant.

;-)

I have never had acid in my life. What you see is spontaneous silliness. Perhaps I should try acid just to see what comes out of my mouth then.

Cheers,

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RE: dress code for subs - 6/13/2009 10:30:08 AM

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Well, you've already heard it: Different women like different things.
When in doubt, ask.

So, I'll just say for my part, that by the time a guy is taking off his clothes in front of me, I think it'd be kinda hot, if he didn't have any underwear on. (Assuming it didn't ruin the line of his pants when they were on, and that he wasn't all linty, hahaha.)

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RE: dress code for subs - 6/13/2009 11:42:33 AM

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: LadyNTrainer

Ordering someone what to wear on a first date, before either of you really have enough information to consent to a power exchange, seems like a potential setup for failure due to unrealistic expectations.

Don't get me wrong; with some couples and in some situations this kind of early flirting could be hot, and it could work. But in a lot of cases I think you'd just be operating based on a fantasy of a power exchange that didn't actually exist at the time, and that would end up not existing because the fantasy crap got in the way of realistic negotiations and figuring out whether or not you actually liked each other as people.

Well said, LNT. I've come to a similar conclusion. Mind you, I do love those initial D/s flirts. Kept small and subtle, they can help warm things up nicely for the first meeting. ;-)

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RE: dress code for subs - 6/13/2009 11:51:07 AM

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Well, you've already heard it: Different women like different things.
When in doubt, ask.

So, I'll just say for my part, that by the time a guy is taking off his clothes in front of me, I think it'd be kinda hot, if he didn't have any underwear on. (Assuming it didn't ruin the line of his pants when they were on, and that he wasn't all linty, hahaha.)

MM, if a dominant were to tell me whether or not to put on underwear before meeting her I'd be happy to go along with it. But there's no way I'm going to ask her first. *Wince*! Not unless we knew each other pretty damned well anyway, that is.

"All linty". Oh hell, that's something I wouldn't have thought about. Urgh.

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RE: dress code for subs - 6/13/2009 1:12:02 PM

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I have never had acid in my life. What you see is spontaneous silliness. Perhaps I should try acid just to see what comes out of my mouth then.

Cheers,

Sea

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RE: dress code for subs - 6/13/2009 8:45:11 PM

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IMHO. First meeting? Show her it means that this is something special. Get a haircut, shave and wear a nice suit and tie. Be a gentleman. “Every girl is crazy about a sharp dressed man” ZZ-Top

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RE: dress code for subs - 6/13/2009 9:00:37 PM

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IMHO. First meeting? Show her it means that this is something special. Get a haircut, shave and wear a nice suit and tie. Be a gentleman. “Every girl is crazy about a sharp dressed man” ZZ-Top

Absolutely!
I tell prospective pups to dress like it's an interview for their dream job. one came in his dress blues [uniform] [drool], and one in his tux, but usually it's a suit or dress jacket.

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RE: dress code for subs - 6/13/2009 11:33:29 PM

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IMHO. First meeting? Show her it means that this is something special. Get a haircut, shave and wear a nice suit and tie. Be a gentleman. “Every girl is crazy about a sharp dressed man” ZZ-Top

I agree grooming is important. While for some circumstances the attire suggested above might be a good choice, for others it would be not. How one dresses speaks for taste and judgment one has, which means neither to underdress nor to overdress. In my opinion, showing up in a suit for a casual meet at a coffeehouse or at a munch would be overdressed.

How much the first meeting is like an interview or not also depends on the dynamic being sought. For some dynamics, it is not an interview but a first date and what one would wear on a date is more appropriate.

Cheers,

Sea

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RE: dress code for subs - 6/14/2009 12:08:28 AM

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"Yes, I -am- like this on room air!

That is correct! Here is what I am imagining...all from a few breaths of room air ;-)

<camera pans and comes to focus on Sea sitting at a computer>

Sea: <typing away> Man, that is so frekin silly. Everyone's gonna think I'm on acid again.
Sea: <slapping his leg and laughing> OMG! Silly, silly, silly!
Sea: <turns to look at camera> Oh, hey there. Glad you could join me. My name is Sea. And I am here to tell all you high school students that you don't need any chemicals to get high. All you need is a few deep breaths of room air. Yes. That's right. That's the natural high. Room air. Here, watch.

<takes several deep breaths> Wow. That was so good. I'm feeling like all trippy and stuff. You don't need acid to get silly, or some kind of a scapegoat to pretend the silliness came from some chemical. Embrace your inner silliness. Be proud of it. Tell people, hey, I don't need tablets. My mind is whacked out as is.

You don't have to do acid to be cool. Breathe room air and all your friends will think you're cool. Not just that, it's a lot more economical. Think of all the money you'll have left over to buy cigarettes and make your friends think you're even more cool.

So now. Do it with me. Take some deep breaths. One. Two. Three. Four. Five. There you go. Don't you feel better? Aren't you just having the craziest ideas pop in your mind?

<turning back to computer> There we go. Oh man, Peon's gonna think I did five tablets of acid! Or maybe even six! He's gonna flip over this one so much he'll be like a gymnast or something. Peon Lou Retton! Har, Har, Har! <in a Russian accent> You can do it, Peon! You can do it!

Oh that's so silly! HAR HAR HAR!

Ok, enough silliness. Now I think I'm gonna turn on my webcam and cyber.

<camcorder comes on and shows Sea looking into it> Live from CollarMe, it's Saturday night!

Cheers,

Sea

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RE: dress code for subs - 6/14/2009 5:20:14 AM

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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

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ORIGINAL: MadameMarque

Well, you've already heard it: Different women like different things.
When in doubt, ask.

So, I'll just say for my part, that by the time a guy is taking off his clothes in front of me, I think it'd be kinda hot, if he didn't have any underwear on. (Assuming it didn't ruin the line of his pants when they were on, and that he wasn't all linty, hahaha.)

MM, if a dominant were to tell me whether or not to put on underwear before meeting her I'd be happy to go along with it. But there's no way I'm going to ask her first. *Wince*! Not unless we knew each other pretty damned well anyway, that is.
...

As the OP is inquiring about this very matter: if one were in doubt about whether the lady had a preference as to his dress, he might ask, “Do you have a preference as to how I’m dressed?” If he expects to be taking his clothes off, then I’m supposing she’s expecting it, too, so then is the moment for her to issue any preferences as to what’s under his clothes.

He doesn’t have to say anything that would cause wincing, such as, “And shall I wear underwear?,” if the prospect of her even seeing his underwear hasn’t remotely been suggested. I think the advice, “When in doubt, ask,” leaves room for discretion.

What’s more likely, seems to me, is that the subject wouldn’t come up, because
a. they hadn’t acknowledged that he might be shedding his clothes, at this early stage, so it wouldn’t have been a topic beforehand,
b. it didn’t occur to her that he wouldn’t have on underwear,
c. among his many considerations in seeing her, asking whether he should wear underwear wouldn’t make the top two dozen,
d. (my personal favourite for what actually did happen) if it hadn’t been the underwear, it would have been something else. The dominant would have used anything about his dress, grooming, or comportment as a handle for exhibiting her dominance, making it the excuse for discipline and establishing a dominant/submissive status.

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RE: dress code for subs - 6/14/2009 7:24:23 AM

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d. (my personal favourite for what actually did happen) if it hadn’t been the underwear, it would have been something else. The dominant would have used anything about his dress, grooming, or comportment as a handle for exhibiting her dominance, making it the excuse for discipline and establishing a dominant/submissive status.

I've just had this weird vision: of receiving a text that reads, "Meet me outside opera house at 10 pm. Wear nothing." Ulp!

Seriously, your (d) would be my favourite, too. Hmm. It'd still feel a bit 'sub-pushy' to ask "have you any preference about the way I should dress?' but maybe that's just me being a touch too edgy.

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