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GoddessDustyGold -> RE: Sissies' Acceptance Problem (11/4/2007 11:22:44 AM)
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ORIGINAL: Morsigil
On that note, I think a lot of guys who have closests full of outfits and come dressed to the nines (in their party dresses or what have you) are topping from the bottom by taking an active hand in their fetish without your consent, and that, to me, is not attractive even as someone who wouldn't be in the top position to begin with.
I want to go back to the original OP and this statement made in post#2.
Bolded above...this is where the CD conundrum kills it for Me. I have a good friend who is a CD and is an absolute delight. He knows how to dress, and thoroughly enjoys it. I gave him his "breasts" as a surpsie, and we spent time laughing and practicing "the walk". He is submissive and we have played. I am comfortable with him/her, and have no problem with his love of cross dressing.
He has a love of cross dressing and he is honest about it. He is also a good bottom, and, at times, can be quite submissive. But he would never be a 24/7 boy for Me.
Where I run into a problem is those that try to force their fetish on Me. It is not only enough that I can accept it and tolerate it, but I have to actively participate in it. If I don't do certain things, demand certain things, show obvious enjoyment in his situation (often it is a matter of humiliation for him) and actively take him to new and higher levels, and this is all he really wants btw, then he pouts and is unhappy and unfulfilled.
I don't mind cross dressing in its place. But My personal experience has been that 99 out of 100 boys who are into this fetish only want to show off, have the thrill and/or cannot feel submissive unless they are dressed up.
Perhaps some of it comes from a need to be recognized and accepted. So it is forced down My throat until I am either perceived as unfair or bigoted or I will do it their way.
I really don't mind CDs, and I have no problem with them in the lifestyle, or at events, munches, etc. But I do feel that there are many (most?) who are not really the full package, and they are simply looking for a safe place to act out their fantasies and gain acceptance. There are other places. When they run into a lack of interest it is mainly because this is what their entire interest in the lifestyle is based upon. They are not well rounded in any sense. It is the same as "bottoms" who are only interested in hooking up for a good session of what they want, be it CBT (thread about that right now), bondage or a golden shower. They don't know where else to find it, so they come into this sub-culture to get their itch scratched. It makes sense until they get all bent out of shape because everyone doesn't want to be considered available for this sort of play/activity at the drop of a hat just because it is something they might have an interest in under certain circumstances.
And I have to agree with Francine. The one thing that really frosts Me is the need to be feminized in order to feel submissive. They can't do it as a man. But they can as a "woman"?
I am not opposed to CDs at all. I am opposed to being forced into accepting them as more than a bottom with a fetish who might work out fine for occasionally serving at a luncheon or getting together for an afternoon of shopping and gossip, until I get to know if they have more to offer than a good wardrobe. So far, I haven't had any success in that area.
Well, I broke My toe last night and I am in pain, so I am probably not making a lot of sense! *Smile*
But I do wish everyone a great day! (That means you too, cloudboy!)
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