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RE: meeting. what safety measures do you take - 12/6/2007 4:18:20 AM

charlestonscmilk

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A "helpful" man from this site, wrote me this week warning me to be careful and not fall for the things many men told women. He said he knew 2 subs here who had been victimized by men from this site.This is the reply I wrote to him, with some edits...
Dear Sir,
Thanks for the warning. I am exceedingly careful and I check a man out completely, including a police check before I meet with him, even for coffee. A "vanilla" woman at a local Barnes and Noble was kidnaped here and raped, meeting a man from the internet for the first time. He had walked her out to her car, which was parked under a street lamp, but they had talked until the store closed, so no one was around to witness him pushing her into his car.
If a man will not give me his full name and it does not check out to be his real name I do not meet with him. I never go to the home city or state of a man. He comes to me where I have friends on the police force. I also look up a man's divorce decree, surprisingly lots of men who say they are divorced are not and their homes are in their wive's names. I have had 3 men from this site who contacted me turn up on the sex offender registry. This registry is available nationwide... Any woman who does not do simple things to protect herself is a fool. I have had plenty of men tell me, "you are not a sub, you are a BITCH!", because I question them... and want to know more about them before I get naked, let them blindfold me, and tie me up...Well I love my life and have a brain. I will not date a man who does not have at least a master's degree either. It is another way of checking out who they are. Your master's thesis from most universities is now online or can be requested from the school you claim to have graduated from. I have not and will not ever be taken advantage of. Simple percautions are easy to do. If a woman does not do them perhaps she is not a sub, but the doormat so many talk about? Sir most women are so needy and desparate they will not wait a while to make sure the man they want is legitimate. I am a pearl of great price and I know it. And because I do not cast my pearls before swine, my Daddy/Dom knows it too. Ladies, wake up! there are a lot more men on this site than women... we have the upper hand, at least at first, until we choose to safely and sanely relinquish it...

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RE: meeting. what safety measures do you take - 12/6/2007 10:14:51 AM

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Charlestonscmilk, do you have to pay to get a divorce decree?

Alot of any information you get online you have to pay for.. and as a poor college student I can't be shelling out 50 bucks per person I meet online. Although usually if you're a good google detective you'll find the information you need.

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RE: meeting. what safety measures do you take - 12/6/2007 10:57:52 AM

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a local group in akron ohio has a safe call list,for first meets with persons that someone like subs dont know,its a cross check from that first public meeting to making a leap of faith in someones Dungeon.i am found of first contact coffee meetings even more so of first contact a a local play party where there are a lot of people,if someone gets the vibes this persons a baddy there are of lot of controls on that person in defense of the sub1i think first contacts public are necessaary as part of the lets see if this works !thoughts?

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RE: meeting. what safety measures do you take - 12/8/2007 5:37:02 AM

TheEvilBstardsMo

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Always get their license plate number. Although not completely fool proof, most of the time someone can be tracked down, even if they borrowed the car, etc.

Meet in a mall in the food court. If having coffee, etc., get your own to be sure that nothing is put in the liquid.

If possible, have a friend come with you. Let the person know that someone is there.

References are a total waste of time.

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RE: meeting. what safety measures do you take - 12/8/2007 7:22:22 PM

charlestonscmilk

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Dear Kitty in Pink,
in most states and counties in the USA you can search the bereau of vital statistics or you can go to county clerk records or something like that. All court records are in the public domain. Now some time the reason for the divorce can be sealed but not the record of it happening.
It is different in every state... in some backwards states like mine, (South Carolina) there are still a very few counties whose court records are not online yet. In that case call the clerk of courts office.
Best of luck and be safe....
CW in Charleston

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