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Slave
Gender: The term slave is gender-independent: slaves can be male or female and of any sexual orientation. In English, if a slave's gender must be indicated, use a phrase like "female slave" or "male slave", or the common compound terms slave-girl or slave-boy. Some male slaves are 'sissified' - i.e., they prefer to be treated in a traditionally feminine manner. Being Owned Slave is a term often used to connote a submissive or servile partner in a Mistress/Master-Slave relationship. Such a person could also be a masochist or "bottom" but this is not always the case. The slave has usually given the right for their owner to exercise authority over them in some sense, within a relationship that may extend to a full time, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Connotatively it refers to a person who has surrendered their personal property and freedoms and become the property or chattel of their owner or Master. Strictly speaking, to be a slave, one must be owned but many people searching for an owner will call themselves "slave" as an indication of the position they are hoping to eventually have. It should be noted that the relationship is strictly consensual, and whether purely symbolic or due to a state of psychological Enslavement, no legal ownership is involved. Casual Usage and Variation Some people in a relationship enjoy the psychological impact of calling their partner "slave" or having their partner call them "slave". Such usage is not by itself an indication that they are a slave any more than calling a partner 'bitch' indicates that they are a female dog. Many matchmaking web sites will encourage the usage of the term 'slave' for someone who is currently single and looking for a partner. Strictly speaking, this is an indication that the person has the orientation of a slave and is interested in being enslaved, or in acting the role of slave and is not an indication that they are currently owned. The term "slave" is widely used, as it has a certain self-affirming weight. The difference between submissive and slave is the degree of submission. There is considerable debate over the exact definition of ""slave"". Contracts Some people draw up "slave contracts" that define the relationship, but these usually have no legal weight and are not intended to be used in court. After signing a slave contract, many people celebrate the commitment with a "collaring ceremony", which can be simple or elaborate and friends are usually invited. The slave then wears a "collar", which symbolizes their status. The collar may be an actual piece of neckwear, or may be a bracelet or other piece of jewelry that symbolizes their slavery. Some collars are not removed until the relationship is disolved, although some slaves have a "formal" and a "subdued" collar for work and vanilla situations.
Submissive
Adjective "Being" submissive is wanting to or being willing to submit to orders or wishes of another. Showing an inclination in this way. An overriding desire to be pleasing. Willingly submitting without resistance to authority. Being subservient or servile. Enjoying erotic activities in feeling powerlessness or under the control of another. Noun In BDSM, "a" submissive refers to the person who takes on the submissive role for the duration of a scene or is a submissive partner within a power exchange relationship. They are not necessarily submissive generally. This term can be associated with being on the receiving end of bondage, discipline or sadism but need not necessarily be any of these. The term submissive as a noun is mostly synonymous with sub but some people use it more widely to denote anyone disposed to be submissive and would therefore say that a submissive might be a bottom, a sub or a slave. Not all slaves feel themselves to be submissive, however and not all bottoms are submissive. Note that it is not uncommon for two partners to switch roles from one encounter to the other, or even during a single encounter, depending on mood and preference.
Submissive behavior A submissive person submits of their own free will and seeks to submit to another, or consents to another's dominance. Submissives vary in how seriously they take their position, training, and situation. Motivations for engaging in submissive behavior may include relief from responsibility, being the object of attention and affection, gaining a sense of security, showing off endurance, and working through issues of shame. Others simply enjoy a 'natural' feeling when they are in the presence of their more dominant partner. What are known as service-oriented submissive may also have a deep seated desire to be "of use". Submissives also vary in the extent to which they engage in play, in how often they play, and even in whether they consider their role "play" at all. Within a S&M-only context particularly, submissive is often considered synonymous with bottom while others opine that a submissive is specifically pursuing a D/s power exchange as a key element, whereas a 'bottom' may or may not be interested (or even willing) to engage in a power exchange relationship. Some have proposed the "pitcher" and "catcher" (borrowed from baseball terminology) as more neutral terminology, with the "pitcher" delivering the sensation, the instruction, etc; and the "catcher" receiving what is "pitched."
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