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RE: Sex and the Sub - 11/15/2007 10:57:54 AM

lateralist1

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Thankyou for posting such a difficult controversial subject joanus.
I think it is worth repeating without consent, penetration either way is rape.
BDSM is my sexuality. I expect to be dominant sexually with my submissive.
I make that absolutely clear on my profile.I've been called all kinds of names by purists in the lifestyle but I have no problem with that.
BDSM is quite simply for me a different kind of loving and one of the physical expressions of love is sex. A lot of men and some women can seperate sex from love. I can. Play is not about love for me but ownership is. I no longer play.

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RE: Sex and the Sub - 11/15/2007 11:23:31 AM

MistressRouge

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quote:

ORIGINAL: joanus

This weekend was my birthday and so a Domme I had been talking to and I hooked up for my birthday spanking and more. Anywho I sunday morning she was wrestling with the moral desision of where or not to bone me.(I am very cute) I did not show up expecting to get laid nor was I hopeing to, as I know sex and submission are two different things.

Anywho Now we all agree that a Domme is nothing like a hooker.

So my Question is if and when should you or should you not fuck a sub?

This does not include the domme doing a male sub with a strapon in the ass this means male to female sex.
Oh and for the curious I did NOT get laid, nor was I dispointed to not get laid.

Let Me clarify, was it the Domme boning you, as in shafting you with a strap on?

OR

You penetrating the Domme?

Oops just re-read, your comment "boning you" threw Me lol.

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RE: Sex and the Sub - 11/15/2007 11:26:33 AM

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Sex and the Sub.... Interesting. Honestly, this hasn't been something I've given much thought to until I joined CM. Personally for Me, there hasn't been a submissive that I was feeling enough to want to "do" until recently. Like others have stated I need to feel some type of emotional connection---a sexual chemistry so to speak. It wasn't until recently that I've had My first sexual pull from a submissive. Whether or not I go there with him or not remains to be seen but the way things are looking, I will be taking him soon, probably against his shocked will.

To do or not to do... Interesting thoughts and opinions. I enjoyed reading this thread to say the least. I've posted the question on Dark Connections to see what debates transpire there.

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RE: Sex and the Sub - 11/15/2007 11:37:17 AM

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I don't think I could be in a non-sexual relationship. That wouldn't be the right thing for me, personally.

And that's a very important thing for you to know.

However, while I never told Fox we would have sex, in fact, my rule is absolutely no sex during training, we have a very active and loving sexual relationship but I've owned him for 8+ years. It takes time.

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RE: Sex and the Sub - 11/15/2007 12:25:13 PM

LadyHibiscus

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Reading this thread, and the other one on sex with subs has made me look at my own ways, and I am still in the camp of no subs getting their hands on me. I cannot imagine allowing a submissive or slave to give me an orgasm. I will cheerfully take care of them, of course! It's a matter of displaying the wrong kind of vulnerability. That, and sexual tastes that don't generally match a submissive male's attitude toward me.

I *have* tried to have sexual relationships with submissives in the past, and if the wheel spins that way, I will try it again, but I will stick with other dominants and "vanillas" for my personal amusement.

And anyone who calls me a MILF or offers to "bone" is going to get his face slapped off. Just sayin'.

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