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petdave -> RE: "Extreme" turn ons... (11/13/2007 7:44:34 PM)

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ORIGINAL: lockmeupplease
I am a male sub, but my favorite website of all time was Insex.  For the unfamiliar, Insex featured an expert sadist who called himself PD torturing women and forcing orgasms.  His techniques would often include needles, breath play and electrical torture.  These are things I don't wish for myself, but I sure enjoyed watching the reactions of his victims.


Aww, Insex wasn't that extreme... the girls always survived (lucky little sluts)



Aswad -> RE: "Extreme" turn ons... (11/13/2007 7:54:08 PM)

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ORIGINAL: heartfeltsub

Yes, it is typically how one's limits expand over time.


Or, perhaps, it's simply a way to discover things you didn't know about yourself.

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Things that were once in the i'll NEVER do that category are now things that i routinely do and greatly enjoy.


For some of us, pursuing things in that category (turn-on that one will not be pursuing) on a routine basis would have the local PD throwing hysterical fits... which isn't exactly a brilliant move in any department. So it's probably a good idea to leave certain things in the "look, don't touch" category (assuming "look" is legal).

Health,
al-Aswad.



petdave -> RE: "Extreme" turn ons... (11/14/2007 5:27:44 AM)

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ORIGINAL: heartfeltsub
Things that were once in the i'll NEVER do that category are now things that i routinely do and greatly enjoy.


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ORIGINAL: Aswad
For some of us, pursuing things in that category (turn-on that one will not be pursuing) on a routine basis would have the local PD throwing hysterical fits... which isn't exactly a brilliant move in any department. So it's probably a good idea to leave certain things in the "look, don't touch" category (assuming "look" is legal).


And of course from the bottom's point of view, there can be things in that category that you only get to do ONCE [&:]



breatheasone -> RE: "Extreme" turn ons... (11/14/2007 7:08:05 AM)

Since I have been with my Master I have left behind several limits.....but I also have picked one up. I feel REALLY guilty about having added a limit, but I know that if I do that thing it will harm me, and possibly end my relationship with my Master. So therefore I have picked up a limit I didnt have before.



BoundDragon -> RE: "Extreme" turn ons... (11/18/2007 2:22:08 PM)

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ORIGINAL: breatheasone

*nods to LA* I also think rape is hot. I also have no desire to actually be raped(although a rape "scene" would be cool) I'm also liking the whole extreme torture while in bondage thing, that really trips my trigger.


I couldnt agree more.... these things are especially hot to me.... if I am helpless & unable to control the situation that gets every switch flipped.... so what is done to me will just heighten it further.



Celeste43 -> RE: "Extreme" turn ons... (11/18/2007 3:55:55 PM)

Isn't that why we call them fantasy and not goals? Because we know they're only hot in our dreams?



missturbation -> RE: "Extreme" turn ons... (11/18/2007 4:09:27 PM)

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Has anyone else here ever watched a video clip or read a story and become turned on by something they consider so "extreme" that they are fairly certain they'd never really want to have the experience happen to themselves in real time...yet after viewing and/or reading it are left totally turned on (and wondering why)???


Yes virtually every time i see someone get stabbed in a drama on tv.
Never thought i would want it to happen to me until it did and it was yummy [:D]



laurell3 -> RE: "Extreme" turn ons... (11/18/2007 5:50:51 PM)

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ORIGINAL: shellzbythesea

Has anyone else here ever watched a video clip or read a story and become turned on by something they consider so "extreme" that they are fairly certain they'd never really want to have the experience happen to themselves in real time...yet after viewing and/or reading it are left totally turned on (and wondering why)???
 
And before i get the "what does it matters" and "why ask whys", i'm really just wondering if this is a fairly regular experience for other people...? 
 
 
Oh, and it just dawned on me that what i said could be perceived in any number of ways.  What i'm specifically referring to is "extreme" torture/pain or things that may be "unsafe."


Yes, watching extreme things in porn or others do that I know I will never do can be a huge turn-on for me.  It has nothing for me to do with expanding my limits, I know it's somewhere I will never go.  I used to ponder it, now I just enjoy it.



windchymes -> RE: "Extreme" turn ons... (11/18/2007 6:10:45 PM)

Definitely.  Watching a rape is a big turn-on, as is watching someone getting a hard paddling or caning.  Thing is, they have to be either be role-playing and/or consentual.  Watching an innocent person be hurt makes me nauseous.



LaMspeach -> RE: "Extreme" turn ons... (11/18/2007 6:44:05 PM)

In  the begining i was so scared of even thinking about  the Extreme, i mean after all what would "they" think . Hell, i couldnt get past why women wanted beatings and bruises. I have changed and grown a lot in the past 5 years . SO hell yes i have extreme turn on... I even find things on the boards that make me say HMMMMM wonder if Master would try .... lets say  chainsaw. [:D]



lateralist1 -> RE: "Extreme" turn ons... (11/19/2007 9:55:16 AM)

Watching things for me isn't usually as good as talking about them. Except for one video I watched that went further into something I had done as a child.
Some of my best relationships have been with subs who I have never met who could really write.
However they were far too one dimensional to move into reality even if the sub wanted to.
The only time I have been really worried is when talking to men who are into child abuse and when I talked to a guy who wanted to make a snuff movie.
I agree that a good mind fuck is sometimes better than the real thing and of course far safer.
I knew there must have been an ulterior motive for buying my chain saw.



Mercnbeth -> RE: "Extreme" turn ons... (11/19/2007 10:15:29 AM)

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...ever watched a video clip or read a story and become turned on by something they consider so "extreme" that they are fairly certain they'd never really want to have the experience happen to themselves in real time...yet after viewing and/or reading it are left totally turned on (and wondering why)???

 
No.  considering "extreme" as a subjective term, this slave can't remember ever experiencing a turn-on by observation or reading that this slave didn't(or doesn't) look forward to the experience becoming a reality.



LivingInSin -> RE: "Extreme" turn ons... (11/19/2007 10:18:46 AM)

I will never enjoy needles, staples or a stupid dragons tail <------ *shaking head* I'm an idiot.

So now I know that oooooo staples....yummy:) needles, well they dont really do much for me, but they dont freak me out anymore:)

And the moral of this story? duh, never say never :)



gorgeous1 -> RE: "Extreme" turn ons... (11/19/2007 12:26:32 PM)


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ORIGINAL: petdave

quote:

ORIGINAL: lockmeupplease
I am a male sub, but my favorite website of all time was Insex. For the unfamiliar, Insex featured an expert sadist who called himself PD torturing women and forcing orgasms. His techniques would often include needles, breath play and electrical torture. These are things I don't wish for myself, but I sure enjoyed watching the reactions of his victims.


Aww, Insex wasn't that extreme... the girls always survived (lucky little sluts)




I remember that site! Some of those sessions were very extreme, and, yes, a turn on, but to actually be bound in a cage and left in all alone in a barn for two days? Nope. For me, just doing small bits and pieces of those elaborate scenes I see on sites like that is enough to put me in a delicious state where I can fantasize about the whole nine yards. It's extreme in my mind, but yet still totally safe.



ownedgirlie -> RE: "Extreme" turn ons... (11/19/2007 2:21:07 PM)

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ORIGINAL: missturbation
Yes virtually every time i see someone get stabbed in a drama on tv.
Never thought i would want it to happen to me until it did and it was yummy [:D]



This is fascinating to me.  As someone who used to have a knife phobia, I found myself begging my Master, the last time his bowie knife was pointing into me, to plunge it in all the way (he didn't).   Where were you stabbed?  Would you share about it here?



queerandcurious -> RE: "Extreme" turn ons... (11/24/2007 6:28:39 PM)

One thing that turns me on is stories about sadistic sex crimes, like Dahmer and stuff. If I ignore the reality of it and keep it a fantasy, things like that seem arousing. The thing about fantasy is it allows a person to explore parts of themselves in their mind that wouldn't be possible in real life. To use Dahmer as an example, it is perfectly safe to imagine having a serial killer drill holes in your skull and pour in acid to try and make you into a sex zombie, but letting someone do it in real life is asking for major trouble. Thus, the role of fantasy.



DarkDaddyZ -> RE: "Extreme" turn ons... (11/24/2007 6:31:55 PM)

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ORIGINAL: shellzbythesea

Has anyone else here ever watched a video clip or read a story and become turned on by something they consider so "extreme" that they are fairly certain they'd never really want to have the experience happen to themselves in real time...yet after viewing and/or reading it are left totally turned on (and wondering why)???
 
And before i get the "what does it matters" and "why ask whys", i'm really just wondering if this is a fairly regular experience for other people...? 
 
 
Oh, and it just dawned on me that what i said could be perceived in any number of ways.  What i'm specifically referring to is "extreme" torture/pain or things that may be "unsafe."

Speaking from a Dominant view yes, and when it really turns me on, I've learned about it more to see if it can be done safely or as safe as possible and tried it out.  Extreme play can be a huge turn on for me.

Z-



Lordandmaster -> RE: "Extreme" turn ons... (11/24/2007 6:34:58 PM)

Ummm...yes, but some of that stuff would get me banned from the forums.

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ORIGINAL: shellzbythesea

Has anyone else here ever watched a video clip or read a story and become turned on by something they consider so "extreme" that they are fairly certain they'd never really want to have the experience happen to themselves in real time...yet after viewing and/or reading it are left totally turned on (and wondering why)???



DarkDaddyZ -> RE: "Extreme" turn ons... (11/24/2007 6:42:25 PM)

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ORIGINAL: queerandcurious

One thing that turns me on is stories about sadistic sex crimes, like Dahmer and stuff. If I ignore the reality of it and keep it a fantasy, things like that seem arousing. The thing about fantasy is it allows a person to explore parts of themselves in their mind that wouldn't be possible in real life. To use Dahmer as an example, it is perfectly safe to imagine having a serial killer drill holes in your skull and pour in acid to try and make you into a sex zombie, but letting someone do it in real life is asking for major trouble. Thus, the role of fantasy.

Hmmm I suppose your right. I've said in the past that some of the serial killers who committed heinous sex crimes would have had safe outlets for their fantasies perhaps they wouldn't have committed the crimes.  Not all but some.  Dahmer is one that I think we troubled with the fact he was kinky.

Z-



Aswad -> RE: "Extreme" turn ons... (11/24/2007 10:47:16 PM)

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ORIGINAL: DarkDaddyZ

I've said in the past that some of the serial killers who committed heinous sex crimes would have had safe outlets for their fantasies perhaps they wouldn't have committed the crimes. Not all but some.


This trend has been observed in some societies with more sexually permissive social mores.

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ORIGINAL: windchymes

Watching an innocent person be hurt makes me nauseous.


Presumably, that has something to do with whether one is a sadist or not.

Health,
al-Aswad.



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