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RE: Nilla Question:what would have made your first time... - 11/13/2007 5:28:31 PM

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My first [voluntary] sexual experience was very memorable precisely because it was that bad. It was a very sore point for years and I wouldn't have added anything to it. I would have avoided it altogether, frankly.

[I was not yet considering myself a Dominant figure, so no, adding BDSM may have actually made it worse.]

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RE: Nilla Question:what would have made your first time... - 11/13/2007 6:31:14 PM

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My first time was really awful, so almost anything would be better. I can't really say what went wrong without revealing how stupid and naive I was (and we can't have that). So, suffice it to say, I would, at the very least, make a conscious decision to lose my virginity, rather than just kind of letting it happen.

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RE: Nilla Question:what would have made your first time... - 11/13/2007 8:27:53 PM

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The first time I had sex would have been better if I there had been someone else there for me to share it with.

Or maybe that doesn't count?

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RE: Nilla Question:what would have made your first time... - 11/13/2007 10:13:12 PM

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Different time, different place, different person, 5 years later.

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RE: Nilla Question:what would have made your first time... - 11/14/2007 7:21:45 PM

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I don't think I'd change anything about my first experience, which occured less than a year ago (I'm 23) with my current Master, who is quite a bit older and very experienced. He took me on a roadtrip (I had no idea where we were going, but we had planned ahead of time that I'd lose my virginity that day...I was finally ready and wanted to, but he made me wait at least a month after I first told him that to make sure he felt I really was). We ended up in a nice hotel in a seaport town of CT. The first time was very vanilla, although I did have a blindfold on and didn't know for sure when he was going to enter me. But when he did there was no pain, and it was wonderful--gentle, very slow, and very romantic, and he constantly told me how beautiful I was.. I teared up behind the blindfold a bit because I was so happy and shocked that I liked it that much. Fifteen or so minutes later he decided to stop, and held me for about an hour as I was in a bit of a sub space. He ordered champaigne and meals from room service, and had me tied in the closet as room service came in to set up haha. I had my second and third experiences that same night, which were just as wonderful, and incorporated a bit more bdsm than the first experience. Nothing could have made the night more special really.

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RE: Nilla Question:what would have made your first time... - 11/14/2007 7:36:53 PM

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ORIGINAL: JoyfulMistress

G'morning everyone,
Mine and I are coming up to a very special time in our relationship and I would love some thoughts or insights from you so
I have a few very vanilla questions to pose. If you would please stop and think back at the time when you lost your virginity,what would have made it more romantic,memorable?Would you have added BDSM into it or removed it if it was there and why ?
Thank you for taking time to read this and I look forward to any thoughts you wish to share
Mistress Joy

i'd have changed the Man, the place and the circumstances. And yes, i think a little D/s play would have made it more fulfilling.

Thank Gawd it was the '70's; i had plenty of great sex before marriage with wonderful Men, so my first time fades in comparision.

Amoung my girlfriends, not one enjoyed her first time. Maybe it's just very, very hard to make it romantic and fulfilling.

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RE: Nilla Question:what would have made your first time... - 11/14/2007 8:21:33 PM

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I wouldn't have changed anything about my first time. Sure, it was horrible and boring and the guy was a jerk, but still, everything that happened in my past has made me what I am today. Change something important like the first time I had sex and all my current views on sexual intimacy might be different. I happen to like the views I have now...

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RE: Nilla Question:what would have made your first time... - 11/14/2007 11:35:31 PM

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I wouldn't have got so drunk (he was too) I would have been on top due to him being sick on me and I would have turned my head alot quicker .Ended up with a fear of the man on top positon and drunk partners lol . He was kinky with potential but after that happens you just can't go back . ~~~~~~Doll

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RE: Nilla Question:what would have made your first time... - 11/15/2007 12:07:41 AM

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Other than not being as expecting of something momentous to occur (much like the Titantic movie hype), I wouldn't change a thing. My first time with my first love was straight out of a cheesy paperback teenage novel and it was awesome. Sadly, I can't remember much about the sex (haha), but the sentiments are memorable to this day as a great experience.

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RE: Nilla Question:what would have made your first time... - 11/15/2007 9:34:07 AM

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I'll let you know if there is anything I'd change after it happens.

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RE: Nilla Question:what would have made your first time... - 11/15/2007 11:29:51 AM

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nothing.. at all..
either time..
( i had sex with a girl wayy before i did with a guy)

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RE: Nilla Question:what would have made your first time... - 11/16/2007 11:24:10 PM

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my first time is not much to remember, but since you made me do it... i wish it was with someone i cared about and that cared about me... it was rather uneventful, the guy didn't really know what he was doing, and neither did i, we were both too young. i wish i would have waited much longer, maybe had some time for self discovery, and maybe have had it less vanilla and more kinky...

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RE: Nilla Question:what would have made your first time... - 11/17/2007 1:55:45 AM

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First time I had sex.... I was 16-years-old, drinking at a party, and ended up with some hot guy from high school, on top of a picnic table! Ummm... yea, I would have changed it all. What would have made my first time better? Waiting!! btw... the hot guy and I were a one night deal. **although, the thought of that picnic table now sounds like a hell of a lot of fun!**

I wasn't one of those teenage girls that wanted to have sex all that much. I did it cause "everyone" was doing it, and because the boyfriend wanted to do it. Which leads me to the D/s aspect of that nilla sex. Eventually, my participation during sex became very submissive. No, I'm not talking about just rolling over and getting it over with.

What I mean is, I began to get off on the fact he was taking me for his pleasures, and by golly it soon became my pleasure as well. Oh yes.... those moments just before he came into my bedroom, tip toed to my bed and slid under the sheets....

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