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RE: How do you define a "Wanna-Be" - 11/17/2007 10:32:35 AM   
stella41b


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So the ones adopting all the trappings of a doctor, or an astronaut, or a Medal of Honor winner, are just not appreciated for their potential, while people who have actually achieved a certain status are whiny crybabies?




....as with many derogatory terms used to define other people it says much more about the person using the term than it does about the person to whom the term has been addressed.

Draw your own conclusions.


I did draw my own conclusion...

I feel that people who have achieved something significant have no reason to apologize for feeling that wannabes trying to claime unearned credit are in the wrong.

Since you seem to feel differently, perhaps you could go into a little more detail? 


Of course.

So by your definition you would therefore define George W. Bush as a wannabe?

I make an automatic assumption that anyone over the age of 18 is an adult.

I also take people and statements at face value. I accept them, and I accept them more if who or what they define themselves as is backed up by evidence, or I reject them.

You can look at anyone at least two different ways. I'm a TS female, and therefore to me, and to everyone else in my life I'm female. To the people who don't know me that opinion can vary. The way I perceive myself is different to the way other people perceive me. Most people who don't know me aren't bothered by who I am, they see me as I present myself and move on. However one or two disagree, and they feel they have to bring it to my attention. Why? I don't know, ask them.

I am responsible for my own thinking, words, actions and behaviour and for the way I interact and communicate with others. I hold people responsible for their's.

I am not perfect, nor do I expect anyone else to be. I've made mistakes, I've fooled myself and others, I've tried to be someone I'm not, failed and learned, and I acknowledge that other people have equal right to do the same.

Therefore I refuse to define anyone as a wannabe. It's not that important to me. I give my chances, reach my limit, say nothing and move on.

Besides who you would define as a wannabe I would define as a liar on the basis of your definition, assuming that there is proof.

Hearsay isn't proof. Therefore you're making an assumption, and quite often you'll find when you make an assumption about someone you don't know you wind up quite often wrong.

Is it that important? Nothing is ever guaranteed in life. Sometimes it's better to say nothing and just move on.

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RE: How do you define a "Wanna-Be" - 11/17/2007 1:09:55 PM   
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My defination of a wannabe is someone who wants to be something, but has no intentions of actually becoming what it is they want to be. They can "play" the role online or on the phone or even through email, but can't do it in person for what ever reason. I have never called someone a wannabe or a fake or anything like that, but I have certiantly thought it in my head.

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RE: How do you define a "Wanna-Be" - 11/17/2007 1:57:31 PM   
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Is it that important? Nothing is ever guaranteed in life. Sometimes it's better to say nothing and just move on.


Advice I've been given many times, and never taken. 
When I see someone claiming to be a Medal of Honor winner, or a doctor, or an astronaut, and it becomes apparent that they are faking it, I cannot just 'say nothing'. Same thing when I see someone pretending to be tolerant, and they turn out to be a bigot. I hate hypocrisy, and tend to call BS on it whenever I see it.


As you say, that says more about me than it does about the hypocrite, but it isn't something I will be apologizing for anytime soon, no matter how PC it is today to applaud the wannabe and blame the victim.

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RE: How do you define a "Wanna-Be" - 11/17/2007 6:01:51 PM   
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my first Dom was a wanna be, oh he talked the talk but in the end he was not interested in putting in any effort he just wanted to fuck as many girls as he could

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RE: How do you define a "Wanna-Be" - 11/19/2007 4:41:55 AM   
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my first Dom was a wanna be, oh he talked the talk but in the end he was not interested in putting in any effort he just wanted to fuck as many girls as he could


That; my dear; is not an entirely effortless task.

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