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sexyred1 -> RE: Are we more intelligent? (11/16/2007 6:33:06 PM)
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ORIGINAL: gorgeous1
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ORIGINAL: CdnExplorer
All sorts of people are into bdsm...average, bright, dull...but...
Today I was reading about gifted children and the issues they can have growing up. Social isolation, attempts to "bring themselves down" for lack of a better phrase etc. While I was reading these articles I noticed a lot of things that rang true with my pre-adolescent years. The same time that our sexualities are developing. I wouldn't be surprised in the least if this affected the nurture side of my submissiveness. It has been noted that people who have had issues are more likely to be into bdsm, and being intellectually gifted in our society creates plenty of those.
So while interest in kink may not signify intelligence, it could very well be that the opposite is true. Higher intelligence making one more likely to be kinky, that is.
OK, there you go! I think that might have been what I meant- that higher intelligence might make one more likely to be kinky. I think perhaps a person with higher intelligence demands deeper conversation with others, deeper understanding of the world, deeper understanding of issues that are of interest to them...why not a demand for more complex sex?
Ah, how I wish that were all true and some of what CdnExplorer wrote is actually true, for me at least. I was tested early in childhood as having verbal and reading skills far above my grade level and my parents wanted me to skip grades. I chose not to; why? Because I was astute enough, even then, to not want to be a social misfit, which children would make a smarter than average kid.
Early in my life, I did try to not demonstrate my intelligence with men, not wanting to scare them off, but quickly stopped that.
Today, and for a very long I have realized one thing; being very intelligent is both a blessing and a curse. I can elaborate on that, but don't feel like it right now.
But as for kink relating to brains, I wish it were true, but from my experiences in trying to meet an equal, it is not conclusive. AND, brains do not connote emotional intelligence, and that is what often distinguishes the smart people from the brainy people. I have often said that the smarter you are, the harder it is to find happiness, since you know more about what you need and want and how hard it is to find in this world. Ignorance is bliss for many people that I know.
I will say though, that being in a relationship where the intelligence level is mis-matched, has been highly problematic and did not work out. And that relationship had KINK galore and it was perfect kink, but life is not all about kink, you need the rest.
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