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RE: need advice please? - 2/9/2010 1:30:02 PM

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and her 18 year old daughter is fine - and has a baby - and that is normal for an 18 year old

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RE: need advice please? - 2/9/2010 1:35:06 PM

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Well, wouldn't have been for either of MINE, but then I never put mine in harms way either.

Course you know this could be a result of the rose colored glasses that keep making her think that the daughter is just fine. Sounds to me like she doesn't know her daughter very well, isn't this the daughter that "Hates men" because she was raped?

And btw to Nyla, here's a news flash for you... a lot of women NEVER get completely over being raped, even with therapy. Ask me, I've been there.

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RE: need advice please? - 2/9/2010 1:43:58 PM

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At least the title of the thread is appropriate.

It's SO SAD that she doesn't realize it.

Someday she will. I don't even want to think about how that will affect her.

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RE: need advice please? - 2/9/2010 1:44:59 PM

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And I see that she's now posting Advise on on Red Flags to watch out for on another thread... sigh...

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RE: need advice please? - 2/9/2010 1:54:57 PM

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Sadly, I have experience in this area. If I thought she would hear me I would share some of that. However, there is no point in sharing something so personal when the person you are trying to help cannot hear.

I hope she opens her eyes and her ears and begins to pay attention.

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RE: need advice please? - 2/9/2010 2:00:42 PM

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Sadly, I have experience in this area. If I thought she would hear me I would share some of that. However, there is no point in sharing something so personal when the person you are trying to help cannot hear.

I hope she opens her eyes and her ears and begins to pay attention.

I feel the same way. Hopefully she will open her eyes before something worse happens.

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RE: need advice please? - 2/9/2010 5:32:42 PM

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You moved your children in with a man you had never met in person, and then he molested and raped your daughter? I don't care how harsh it sounds, but you should be in prison with him. You put your sexual desires and your "need" for a partner ahead of your child's safety and for that, you deserve any unhappiness that comes your way. I don't want to hear how you didn't know it was happening or anything else. YOU DIDN'T KNOW THIS MAN AND PUT YOUR CHILD IN THAT SITUATION! Now your kids are grown and on their own (thank the Lord YOU aren't responsible for their safety anymore) and you have this new "wonderful" situation being second fiddle to this married "master" who has 3 young children? He must be nuts to let you anywhere near them. You bring shame to mothers everywhere and should be ashamed of the part you took in the destruction of your daughter's childhood.

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RE: need advice please? - 2/9/2010 5:41:17 PM

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-----------------ive known my Master now for 2 yrs before i moved in with him and his family and He is the best that has ever happen to me.. my kids are doing good

Is this the same kid you were writing about here?

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am happy you left this person and hope that you dont give up completely on a new dom... i met a Man off of here in 07 and we talked for months...and eventually i ended up His wife in 08 well needless to say He sits in prison for 10 yrs and life probation for beating and raping my 16 yr old at the time daughter in which he did on fri the 13th of 09.. she now hates men and she now is afraid of men no thanks to that (bleeped out words).. and god knows He wasnt no Dom as He claimed...well it had crushed me and my children..but my Master who i met on secondlife was there for me thru everything and has been now for 2 yrs..yes he became my Master while i was married to the supposed dom who was vanilla... but yanno there is someone out there for you a good Dom and trusting One who will take care of you ..im in love with my Master deeply and I desire to serve Him daily..i moved on as did my kids.. you can to.. dont give up dreams because some Tard has to wreck them...

His nyla (waited for Him for 12 yrs i finally found you)

Doesn't sound right to me, but if your ok with that.....

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RE: need advice please? - 2/9/2010 5:43:40 PM

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and her 18 year old daughter is fine - and has a baby - and that is normal for an 18 year old

Ok, I have to ask, cause I think we are slipping into the twilight zone. Is this 18 yr old the one who was raped and should I even ask who the father is?

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RE: need advice please? - 2/9/2010 5:55:15 PM

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and her 18 year old daughter is fine - and has a baby - and that is normal for an 18 year old

Ok, I have to ask, cause I think we are slipping into the twilight zone. Is this 18 yr old the one who was raped and should I even ask who the father is?

I was wondering the same thing. It really hurts my heart to think of this child. I hope she has someone to turn to who thinks rationally.

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RE: need advice please? - 2/10/2010 1:46:00 AM

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This is all a weird cyber mind fuck right?

... can a person be prosecuted for virtual brain raping?

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RE: need advice please? - 2/10/2010 2:50:28 AM

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You moved your children in with a man you had never met in person, and then he molested and raped your daughter? I don't care how harsh it sounds, but you should be in prison with him. You put your sexual desires and your "need" for a partner ahead of your child's safety and for that, you deserve any unhappiness that comes your way. I don't want to hear how you didn't know it was happening or anything else. YOU DIDN'T KNOW THIS MAN AND PUT YOUR CHILD IN THAT SITUATION! Now your kids are grown and on their own (thank the Lord YOU aren't responsible for their safety anymore) and you have this new "wonderful" situation being second fiddle to this married "master" who has 3 young children? He must be nuts to let you anywhere near them. You bring shame to mothers everywhere and should be ashamed of the part you took in the destruction of your daughter's childhood.

I don't care how harsh that sounds, I totally agree.

Whatever happened to children coming first in a parent's life over anything and everything else?

I have been in 2 LT relationships since my daughter's father and she never met my LT partners until something solid had been established with them. And I never moved in with them and vice versa.

I realize that someone raping her daughter was probably the last thing she expected, but from the sounds of things, she only knew the man, what? a month before she moved in? It sounds like she may have some issues she has to deal with. If any man EVER laid a finger on my daughter, he would be wishing for prison before I got through with him. And the last thing I would be doing is moving in with another man, regardless if he's married.

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RE: need advice please? - 2/10/2010 7:58:34 AM

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and her 18 year old daughter is fine - and has a baby - and that is normal for an 18 year old

Ok, I have to ask, cause I think we are slipping into the twilight zone. Is this 18 yr old the one who was raped and should I even ask who the father is?

I was wondering the same thing. It really hurts my heart to think of this child. I hope she has someone to turn to who thinks rationally.

This is an awful and tragic situation which brings back memories of what my aunt went through. She was raped and never recovered emotionally, and the life-choices that she made after this point in her life certainly contributed to her early demise. Someone so self-centered and ignorant to the needs and well-being of their children, where they come first before themselves. This person is in denial not only for herself, but blind to her kid's needs and the effects of what has come to pass. I certainly hope that some help comes to the daughter, but as for the mother...

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RE: need advice please? - 2/10/2010 8:18:39 AM

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I'm fascinated that the OP resurrected this evidence of her stupidity.

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RE: need advice please? - 2/10/2010 8:31:53 AM

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OP - you need a life coach. What a mess.

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RE: need advice please? - 2/10/2010 8:37:58 AM

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RE: need advice please? - 2/10/2010 8:45:38 AM

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LT, you had me until you mentioned the head part. i was gonna volunteer except for that.

wildnbeautiful....

your full of shit. you cant keep a story straight. your lies are bleeding all over the boards.

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RE: need advice please? - 2/10/2010 9:07:20 AM

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How many doubt the story entirely

....the actions and posts so far don't lend credence to any form of truth. We don't even know there IS a daughter, let alone she was raped. The so called master also sounds a bit fishy, suddenly appearing to rescue this damsel in distress....

I hate to be so cynical, but seen it before.

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RE: need advice please? - 2/10/2010 9:11:01 AM

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Was going to say nothing, but need to work out if its me being senile or the OP's lies.

You moved in with a total stranger, who then raped your daughter.

During that time you met someone on "single life", who according to posts a couple of days ago, you have never met.

Now we have, your daughter is fine but has a child of her own. No mention of a father being about.

And youve now met SL Master, who it turns out is married.

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RE: need advice please? - 2/10/2010 11:32:54 AM

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I cant believe the state hasnt got involved! When the daughter got raped the police would have asked how you got involved with this man and if you cared enough about your daughter to be honest I dont understand why they didnt remove her right away! Be mad if you want but I'm always gonna keep it real.And then you turn around and jump into a poly? I cant help but wonder about their state of mind.Above all else young lady you need to look in the mirrior and learn to love who looks back,being sub does not mean that you you dont love yourself.I believe that you have followed a pattern of being abused by former relationships and dont know how to react any other way.You never mentioned your kids dad,in prison too?Why hasnt he stepped in? Some may say Ive stepped in too far not knowing the "whole" story but I know enough to know that your actions have damaged a young girl and she will probley never get the chance to have a healthy relationship ever,maybe she will meet a Dom on CM..........

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