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RE: One D/s relationship after another - 11/29/2007 5:21:02 AM

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Hi Adora. My first love died also. it has been 28 years and i still miss him. No i would not consider you a person who goes from Master to Master. i was speaking more of a person who is constantly going from one Master to another. Happy Holidays.

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RE: One D/s relationship after another - 11/29/2007 5:40:31 AM

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Thanks so much for your kind post. Sometimes it's hard when you post something and people misunderstand it and then they ridicule you for it and even when you explain it they still don't get it. i was gettting hurt, but i have since realized that not everyone is on the same intelligence level and some people just like to put people and things down. i now feel sorry for these people. i am however, grateful for people like you who say kind things. It really does help make the world a better place.

By the way, i am southernhart. i changed my name so that i could pay trubute to my Owner.

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RE: One D/s relationship after another - 11/29/2007 5:43:43 AM

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The previous post was written for Bossy.

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RE: One D/s relationship after another - 11/29/2007 7:29:44 AM

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ORIGINAL: BossyShoeBitch

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ORIGINAL: southernhart

i have and i pray i will only have one Master/Owner in my lifetime for i love him and worship him. My question is. i know many people who go from Master to Master to Master (Mistresses included) and i also read that on here lots of times. (i am not judging) So i'm wondering something. A few things actually. Is it easy to just go from one to another? If you call each and everyone of them Master does that not demean the title? i never call my Owner, Master. For i believe that it is used and given too easily and sometimes when it's not deserved. So i call him Sir or my Owner. My other question is. If you are going to Master after Master. Is the relationship still special? Does it still have that special meaning? Thanks so much everyone!

Southernheart,

I see this question as being directed more towards those who play a bit more casually rather than those of us who are in a deeply loving and committed relationship.. What's in a name? Nothing. IMO it doesn't matter if you call him/her Master or Lord of all Collard Greens.. It's the feelings and the connection two(or more) people have that counts.

If one is going to Master after Master they might either be: 1. smart enough to know that they haven't found the "one" yet, not willing to settle and are determined to keep looking until they find him/her.. OR
2. They are finicky jerks who are impossible to please..

It's disheartening sometimes to me that people here are so quick to flame posts like this instead of taking a second more to ponder the post.. IMO there isn't anything wrong with plain old curiousity...

Thank goodness I found the only one for me.

This was lovely...nicely done.

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RE: One D/s relationship after another - 11/29/2007 8:10:39 AM

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To Me, the OP came across as unduly negative and judgemental to a point. Surely it depends on factors such as the length of time of involvement and the reason why the relationship ended! For eg, death of a Master (such as in adora's case *hugs hon*) seems to be a "legitimate" reason to seek another ... but isn't the death of the relationship just as legitimate? Why soldier on and make both lives miserable if things are not able to be worked out? My Mum and Dad did that till he died ... and truly, the bitterness that engendered within them just was not worth it. Whilst I don't take relationships lightly, and it can be very hard for me to admit defeat, I would rather do that and set us both free to find something more fulfilling than to kill each other's soul by staying together! So yes, I have been married twice and am now with Master to whom i am not married ... oh my, that sounds like i am a "flitter!" Except I was married to hubby 1 for nearly 16 years, to hubby 2 for nearly 12 years ... and have been with Master now for 4 years! I'm a very slow flitter LMAO! And I am still friends with both ex-hubbys ... and they are even friends with each other ... hubby 1 moved into My old house to help hubby 2 in getting it ready for sale ... and then drove hubby 2's classic bikes over 3000km in a truck to help him relocate ... and then had to drive the truck back alone! I believe in fostering healthy relationships!

As for whether it demeans the term "Master" or not ... well, that could be applied to any chosen name couldn't it? Shouldn't I have called the second husband "husband" because I'd already had one husband? Similarly, it would apply to any D/s name ... to have more than one "Sir", more than one "Owner" ... that's a spurious argument. In fact, one reason why Master bans the use of "Sir" is precisely because it is used outside of a D/s relationship ... He hates being called "Sir" in shops, restaurants etc ... and it also has overtones of school too. No one else refers to Him as Master though ... unless it is a sub in Our family (for example, if I find a permanent sub then they will call Him Master also as He is Master of the household).

The OP would do well to phrase questions more openly and try to avoid lacing them with their own opinions ... especially if they don't want some people to take umbrage!

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RE: One D/s relationship after another - 11/29/2007 12:16:18 PM

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I would suggest that people have differnt life experiences and see through filters different then your own. It has little to do with intellegence IMO.

While I haven't been through many Masters, I've been through countless relationships, each helped me fine tune what I needed/was missing in my life and led me to this lifestyle. There are many who would look down their nose at me for not being able to just make it work with someone I've been with before but they aren't in my shoes making choices for my life.

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ORIGINAL: takenbyjohnr07

Thanks so much for your kind post. Sometimes it's hard when you post something and people misunderstand it and then they ridicule you for it and even when you explain it they still don't get it. i was gettting hurt, but i have since realized that not everyone is on the same intelligence level and some people just like to put people and things down. i now feel sorry for these people. i am however, grateful for people like you who say kind things. It really does help make the world a better place.

By the way, i am southernhart. i changed my name so that i could pay trubute to my Owner.

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RE: One D/s relationship after another - 11/29/2007 2:19:07 PM

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I guess I think that sometimes a person may be confused about what they need or think they need and look for it in the wrong way with the wrong people. It doesn't mean the people are "bad"...just not the right person for the other person. I would have a pretty hard time, however, forming a relationship with someone if I knew that they had many different 'failed' relatioships already. There are mistakes and there are possible deceptions, but when one person explains every past failed relationship by placing blame on the other person(s) and in the Ds life admits they delibertly broke hard and fast rules over and over after being forgiven in order to be sent away, or they talk about running away without trying to face the problems they had created and try to excuse their actions by saying the Dominant (Master/Mistress) was too jealous or too mean or too something else for the relationship to ever work, then I would have to say beginning something with them, other than to offer friendship, would just be asking to be added to their string of disasters. It can be hard to recognize one's own baggage, but until we do and get some help dealing with our past, we humans do seem often doomed to repeat the same behaviors over and over somehow expecting different results.
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RE: One D/s relationship after another - 11/29/2007 3:35:08 PM

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When someone is refered to as jumping from relationship to relationship it's not because someone died or left themn or beat them, or set them on fire and they had to leave It's understood (by most) that they they either get bored very quickly or cannot commit or are not mature enough to be with one person any length of time. Extenuationg circumstances do not count.

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RE: One D/s relationship after another - 11/29/2007 3:37:30 PM

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Not being able to make it work is quite different than jumping from Dom to Dom. They usually do it whether it's working or not.

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