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ORIGINAL: Adkit

man, you people seem to think having an opinion is worth flaming now. I personally dont think anything I said was wrong other than the fact that it sounded like I put stereotypes on everyone even though I havent met all of them. and I do remember pointing out that I was new here so I thought it was obvious that I'm just pointing my FIRST IMPRESSIONS.

I think my entire point was shown pretty well in your replies, some of you replied with fierce, bottled hate and some of you with understanding and guidance. where's the middleground? x.x I guess it's not really about genders now that I think about it. but my point still stands: if you're a switch like me then you're not getting the same offers from the male and the female sides!

...sounds like I struck a nerve on a lot of you.

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ORIGINAL: wisteriaV

Master and I both agree the kid ate too many twinkies before posting this.

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ORIGINAL: Adkit

I've only been here a short time (mostly for fun) but I've noticed one big thing that frankly, I dont think is fair:

when you see a female looking for a dom they write up a list of what they will and will not do, tell people that they dont want to be called names, explain that they wont just subjegate themselves to anyone and that they only will accept you as a dom if you deserve it enough.

but when you see a female looking for a SUB they only say something in the lines of "I'm your godess, you will pamper and spoil me and I will call you names and abuse you, only write to me if you're willing to give me everything for nothing".

now, I'm not saying they're not allowed to feel that way...but I'm male and I wouldnt mind being either a sub or a dom. but I do NOT want to worship some stranger just because she's got bewbs like a mindless slave. if I wanted to subjegate myself I too would want to respect that person first and I dont want to be called names either.

my problem is; why do women expect the doms to be all those things when they act like bitches themselves when they're dom-ing? maybe guys do the same thing here, I dont know. but it sounds really unfair...because I wouldnt mind getting a few orders and taking a punishment if I fail but I dont want to become a doormat. where are the kind, caring, sensible female doms?

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ORIGINAL: thetammyjo

You may want to consider what types of profiles are attracting your attention.

Have you actually looked at a large enough sampling of the profiles to make said claims? You'd need to apply objective sampling strategy to approach that and my guess is that you aren't, you are looking at profiles that catch your eye in some way. What is catching your eye by be related to the attitude you read.

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ORIGINAL: Adkit

they dont make twinkies in Sweden. 

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ORIGINAL: Adkit

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ORIGINAL: thetammyjo

You may want to consider what types of profiles are attracting your attention.

Have you actually looked at a large enough sampling of the profiles to make said claims? You'd need to apply objective sampling strategy to approach that and my guess is that you aren't, you are looking at profiles that catch your eye in some way. What is catching your eye by be related to the attitude you read.

you know, that's what I've always done. and the problem I have isnt with the 5% that I can relate to, understand, talk to without being ignored and trust...the problem I have is with the other 95%. the people that are the "norm". disliking the norm sounds like a loosing battle, I know. but shouldnt I be who I want to be? I honestly think I'm right. should I just accept that "life is unfair, deal with it"? I'm sorry but that mentality is just...unpractical.

oh and btw, I'm not "submissive" to the person who basically called me that. :S I think that's pretty obvious from the way I bitch and whine!

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ORIGINAL: RRafe

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

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ORIGINAL: RRafe

It happens because people enable it.

Stop enabling it-and things will change-but don't hold your breath waiting-god forbid anyone control thier libido long enough.

You do realize that he has reduced the entire female population into submissives that top from the bottom or out and out bitches....

What do you imagine would happen if MEN stopped wanting sex for a month-worldwide? And stuck to it?

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ORIGINAL: Adkit

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ORIGINAL: thetammyjo

You may want to consider what types of profiles are attracting your attention.

Have you actually looked at a large enough sampling of the profiles to make said claims? You'd need to apply objective sampling strategy to approach that and my guess is that you aren't, you are looking at profiles that catch your eye in some way. What is catching your eye by be related to the attitude you read.

you know, that's what I've always done. and the problem I have isnt with the 5% that I can relate to, understand, talk to without being ignored and trust...the problem I have is with the other 95%. the people that are the "norm". disliking the norm sounds like a loosing battle, I know. but shouldnt I be who I want to be? I honestly think I'm right. should I just accept that "life is unfair, deal with it"? I'm sorry but that mentality is just...unpractical.

oh and btw, I'm not "submissive" to the person who basically called me that. :S I think that's pretty obvious from the way I bitch and whine!

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ORIGINAL: hands0n0knees

There are more losers, male and female, than winners in the online BDSM scene.  The mindless Dommes don't deserve any more respect than the mindless Doms or male subs.

But there are some very thoughtful dommes out there.  Just look them up and ignore the rest.

I agree with this except for the degrading “more losers…than winners”. No role or gender escapes the cyber self grandiose and delusional. There is just a percentage, which can be argued to the most boring death, in each group. Only the games are different between the roles and genders not what is considered respectful and sincere.

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ORIGINAL: laurell3
As I stated above, most people here will not be compatible for you.  That's however, true for all of us regardless of gender.  It is not an easy search for most.  You should reread your first post, you did essentially call the entire female population bitches, lol.  Not a likely helpful approach to what I know is a frustrating search.  Anyhow, good luck to you!  Patience and humor are key here.