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sammy7626 -> RE: Number of previous partners (11/29/2007 9:17:14 AM)
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ORIGINAL: topcat
let's try this.
I am 44, never married, my longest relationships have run about 4 years (there are only four). I am prone to be monogamous, though most of my relationships are at least, in theory, 'open'.
I come up with fifty lovers over 28 years of being sexually active.
Is that an issue?
Nope.
But then, I'm almost 31, married for the last 5, and have had somewhere in the neighborhood of 110-120 partners (depending on if you are including both sexes or not), and have been sexually active for 18 years.
In all of that however, I have had only 3 partners who have lasted more than a year, and most of the rest were anywhere from a day to a couple of months. I've only had about 10 partners in the last 10 years.
The point in all of that TMI, is basically that the number of partners doesn't matter much. By the time I'm 50, the number will have likely stayed relatively the same (give or take a few), and my average will have gone down. But there is no way to undo the "damage" my numbers took during a very bad time in my life the 9 years prior to meeting my husband that I was sexually active.
What should be important, are emotional ties, feelings for one another, commitment to one another (if at all) and their sexual health, as opposed to their sexual history.
Edited to add...guess I'm not really a lady since I actually don't care about the number any more. And to state that both of my current partners together are at about half mine...but I still knew less about sex than either of them did when I met my hubby. Bad sex was apparently the norm for me...maybe that's why I don't care as much about the numbers.
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