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RE: Mia's Thanksgiving Question--How long before you co... - 11/22/2007 8:06:44 PM

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I have never collared a submissive, or even come close to collaring someone.
I really hope I find someone that I love and want to collar before I leave this earth.

How long does it take you to ask a potential submissive to wear your collar, and
how long will you as a submissive be willing to accept a collar?

Collaring to me is similar to marriage, and I don't take it lightly.

I would say that it would be the moment when you and your submissive both realize you both would like to be together until one or the other left this earth.

Those would be the circumstances under which I would accept a collar.

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RE: Mia's Thanksgiving Question--How long before you co... - 11/22/2007 9:37:23 PM

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Thank you all for the wonderful replies, I appreciate all of them.
The majority of us consider collaring a serious committment, I like that.

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RE: Mia's Thanksgiving Question--How long before you co... - 11/22/2007 9:55:15 PM

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ORIGINAL: MzMia

Thank you all for the wonderful replies, I appreciate all of them.
The majority of us consider collaring a serious committment, I like that.

At least not until I get a high quality tit shot....No tits no collar....You hear me Mia!!! No tits no collar.

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RE: Mia's Thanksgiving Question--How long before you co... - 11/22/2007 11:25:29 PM

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Domiguy, you seem to have been quiet of late, I missed your cutting wit!

MzMia, I view a collar in very much the same light ... so 1-2 years of consistent contact or living together would be usual, though, as LadyPact said, there could be circumstances under which it might be expedited. Master was ready to collar me (and i was starting to get a bit itchy about it *grin*) after 18 months, but He wanted to do so on a significant date (2 years to the day since He'd moved in) so W/we agreed to wait the extra 6 months (and used the time to design the bracelet and have it made ... and save up for it!).

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RE: Mia's Thanksgiving Question--How long before you co... - 11/22/2007 11:30:05 PM

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lol
How about a low quality tit shot?
Are you going to show it to subsusie?

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RE: Mia's Thanksgiving Question--How long before you co... - 11/23/2007 1:10:31 AM

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If a collar is analogous to a marriage, how long would you wait before proposing to someone?

wolf and i married 15 days after we met.

we've been married right at 15 and a half years now.

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RE: Mia's Thanksgiving Question--How long before you co... - 11/23/2007 1:15:23 AM

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Thank you all for the wonderful replies, I appreciate all of them.
The majority of us consider collaring a serious committment, I like that.

Daddy and i met at the end of febuary/first part of march. we talked for a couple of hours each day for over two weeks, or thereabouts, and he decided that once i returned from a week's visit to hell (my relatives) he wanted to definitely meet and that he wanted to see where things lead with me, and asked me not to pursue any further relationships at that time.

we talked for about an hour and a half to two hours on the phone each night i was gone, and 3 days after i came home, we met in person. the chemistry was absolutely there. and so he gave me a "i want you to know you are loved and wanted in my life" gift of an engraved bracelet in may...then a permanent collar in august. five months might seem fast to some, but he is content with his decision to keep me, and i am overjoyed.

kitten, tired but not sleepy

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RE: Mia's Thanksgiving Question--How long before you co... - 11/23/2007 4:16:28 AM

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I have only collared 2 submissives in my life.
It is a serious committment to me also, and I normally don't consider it until about the 6 month mark.

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RE: Mia's Thanksgiving Question--How long before you co... - 11/23/2007 4:59:43 AM

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Ive only ever collared my boy, others I played with were just for play. My boy courted me for around 8 months before we became a couple and then it was a further 3 months till he was collared. That said we didnt have an oficial ceremony or anything it was juts bought as a prop for play. For his birthday this year I bought him a special lockable collar and im awaiting its delivery. He doesnt knwo it yet but I am planning something very special for when it arrives

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RE: Mia's Thanksgiving Question--How long before you co... - 11/23/2007 5:17:12 AM

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Master collared me formally this past March for my birthday. We had been living together for over two years without an form of a visual collar. When he asked what I wanted for my birthday, I told him a formal collar might be nice and left it at that. We didn't go through the motions of a collaring ceremony or anything like that. We lived together, it worked well and nothing got in the way of our relationship except usual life stuff. I wear the collar proudly and can't imagine myself being with anyone else but Master.

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RE: Mia's Thanksgiving Question--How long before you co... - 11/23/2007 5:43:03 AM

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I wait for the "begging for submission" meter to reach about 90% beforehand. It sounds a chime when it's near the mark. Then there's a find the collar subquest, and a boss battle, with King Koopa. If Koopa steamrolls over Mario's plumber cleavage, then the Princess gets collared.

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RE: Mia's Thanksgiving Question--How long before you co... - 11/23/2007 5:48:19 AM

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With us you come and earn your collar and maybe a submissive could be here forever with out a collar, one that can't quiet make the grade yet wants to be here...So you say that not fair but hell this isn't a democracy and your vote doesn't count

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RE: Mia's Thanksgiving Question--How long before you co... - 11/23/2007 7:39:53 AM

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we met on Aug 13th and Daddy collared me 5months and 3 days (Jan 16th) after that.

SO will collar me on the year anniversary of my collaring with Daddy. it's so sentimental and romantic ...also it will be the same time frame as it was with Daddy.

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RE: Mia's Thanksgiving Question--How long before you co... - 11/23/2007 8:11:32 AM

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

My current submissive accepted My collar after about three months. That's quick by a lot of people's standard. In fact, it's rather fast for My own standard, but the pace was sped up due to the particular situation that W/we share. Without going into great lengthy details, it's sufficient to say that the circumstances encouraged things move a little faster than I would normally have taken.

If you knew you didn't have all of the time in the world, would you seize the opportunity that you had in front of you today? Some of U/us do.

Master and I did just that ourselves. Master collared me 2 months after first meeting. We both new we didnt have all the time in the world. We are making the most of the time we do have, and loving every minute of it.

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RE: Mia's Thanksgiving Question--How long before you co... - 11/23/2007 11:46:21 AM

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For me, collaring does not just mean one thing. Like marriage, it's something most people seem to assume means what they feel it means even though in reality there is endless variety and intentions.

No two relationships are alike, so no two collarings mean the same to me. When and if I collar/claim someone depends entirely on what we both want and feel and our sitatuion. I don't have a set time, just like I don't run my non-ownership relationships in a set time pattern... I go with what is appropriate for that unique relationship.

As to the question on when one would propose to another, my spouse and I decided to marry and to date at the exact same time.

The short version of the story is that we'd been friends for a coupla months but I didn't feel more than friendship. One night I agreed to sleep with him for the hell of it and found myself in love with my bestfriend a couple hours later, when we woke up we just naturally both assumed we were now dating and started planning the wedding. It happened as soon as it was possible to get it and work considerations arranged. It's now been 10 years together and counting.

On the opposite side of the spectrum, I had one lover for about 6 years before we spoke of marriage -and decided against it and remain friends to this day.

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RE: Mia's Thanksgiving Question--How long before you co... - 11/23/2007 12:27:46 PM

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I thought it was wait an hour before you go swimming....:)

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RE: Mia's Thanksgiving Question--How long before you co... - 11/23/2007 12:40:46 PM

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RE: Mia's Thanksgiving Question--How long before you co... - 11/23/2007 12:49:28 PM

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LOL Geesh LA

You went all out this time

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RE: Mia's Thanksgiving Question--How long before you co... - 11/23/2007 12:54:24 PM

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With my first slave, I tried the three collar system (consideration, training, slave.) I gave her a 'consideration' collar about a month into our relationship. A 'training' collar came about six months later. We lasted close to three years, but I never gave her a 'slave' collar.

Building on that experience, I decided to cut out the 'consideration' collar with my current slave, and simply gave her a training collar. It isn't analogous to a wedding ring; a slave collar would be though. I put it on her neck the first time we met in person, two months ago (we'd been talking online/via phone for about four months.) The training collar represents a commitment on her part, to strive to do her best to learn to be my slave. I made it clear that she'll wear this collar for a minimum of one year, at which point we'll reassess our situation and go from there. I think it's worked very well; I don't believe a slave can learn to be a slave, outside of the collar. Only by being enslaved, can she learn what that means.

My submissive, on the other hand, doesn't and won't wear any type of formal collar. It would represent a type of relationship that goes directly against her grain. This doesn't mean we're any less committed to each other; it just means that she doesn't desire any form of ownership.

I'm not advocating my way to be the best way for anyone but me. In fact, I think most people who might do it the same way is likely to end up with disastrous results. I believe it simply takes a very specific mentality and personality to enjoy and grow within a collar this way.

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RE: Mia's Thanksgiving Question--How long before you co... - 11/23/2007 2:49:15 PM

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I would offer MzMia a collar but I have two long standing rules.....We must first have known each other for at least a year...And of course the woman accepting my collar has to be able to swim.

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