LadyHugs
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Dear winterlight, Ladies and Gentlemen;
In my many years in the scene, especially in the Gay/Lesbian Leather circles, there are many who have physical issues which makes things difficult and often people assume and or have perceptions about those dealing with their bodies and at times--its a fear to which is rather based on trying not to say or do something wrong.
So often what we fear, we do not understand. Because of the majority being of a kind nature just don't often find a way to strike up a gentle conversation as to learn, to share and perhaps find that common ground which all of us have. It really is a communication issue and without communication--we're all put into an awkward position.
In my high school years, I picked up a book called; "Joy of Signing." I heard well in those days however, my father suffered hearing loss during battle in World War II. I'm of that generation where old soldiers, sailors, Marines and such, were our parents, neighbors, teachers and more.
I taught myself how to Sign. I am rusty and nearly rusted shut, as with any skill--don't use it--you loose it. That said, there are many who are deaf and or mute in the lifestyle, I've seen them having Mr. or Ms. Deaf Leather contests--they are so fantastic and a lot of fun.
In or out of the scene, I have personally found that those deaf and or mute, often bend backwards to help share their Sign Language and are excited by anybody hearing and able to speak, make an effort to learn a bit of Sign Language. There is no real expectation for anybody able to hear or speak to become instant Signers. They just appreciate the effort and the respect given that they're just like anybody else. I marvel at a wonderful ambassador to the hearing world, International Mr. Deaf Leather 2004-- Teddy O'Rourke; who is so talented and so giving of his time to any group that will have him; to address this awkward situation and perhaps bridge the common communication stumbling block as how to best approach any who may have a difference which puts a person in a state of awkwardness. How to approach and both parties leave in a better way and or understanding of each other. It all boils down--we're all human and we deal with what we have, as far as the physical sense.
I openly applaud efforts by SIR Robert Davis, International Leather SIR 2004, who often gives a platform for those representing the many faces of "Leather," as well offering that communication bridge of those who have more qualities in life than just their physical issues.
Growing old myself, my body isn't able to do all what I really want to do still, had done in the past. Internally, I am the same person, with skill, knowledge and such--just my package is sagging, the 'bones' of my package are failing. How long I remain active will be dependent on my physical abilities. This is why I love to teach and or mentor--as to pass the torch to those better able. I know I will die one day--but, I've done my time and I've given all I got every single day. I shall do so, to the end of my days. I'm afraid all of us will age and experience break downs. It is how you handle things, is what matters--knowing you have done your best, been your best and are your best.
Just some thoughts.
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs
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