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Turned off by having another Dom? - 11/23/2007 7:44:01 PM   
grlneedstolearn


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Status: offline 		The scenario that i'm in is just finding some people to hang out with and to make new friends on here. But the reason i'm mainly writing this is because even though on my profile it says that i am with a Dom and only looking for friends, it seems to be a huge stop sign for a lot of people. i do get people looking at my profile frequently, and after i've looked at theirs, etc. it just seems that some, not all, Doms are afraid of getting involved even as friends with someone who is already taken. And i would like to settle down with someone my own age, of which my Dom is not and right now i have no problem with him being my Dom, actually i really love it. So my question is this: When looking at profiles, do you immediantly ignore  the ones where the first line is that she is taken? Just a little confused, and i know that patience is a virtue on here and many other sites, but i would just like some insight on what you look for in a profile and whether or not there are key words that will turn you away from reading the rest of the profile?
   Thank you
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RE: Turned off by having another Dom? - 11/23/2007 7:45:34 PM   
RRafe


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quote:

ORIGINAL: grlneedstolearn

The scenario that i'm in is just finding some people to hang out with and to make new friends on here. But the reason i'm mainly writing this is because even though on my profile it says that i am with a Dom and only looking for friends, it seems to be a huge stop sign for a lot of people. i do get people looking at my profile frequently, and after i've looked at theirs, etc. it just seems that some, not all, Doms are afraid of getting involved even as friends with someone who is already taken. And i would like to settle down with someone my own age, of which my Dom is not and right now i have no problem with him being my Dom, actually i really love it. So my question is this: When looking at profiles, do you immediantly ignore  the ones where the first line is that she is taken? Just a little confused, and i know that patience is a virtue on here and many other sites, but i would just like some insight on what you look for in a profile and whether or not there are key words that will turn you away from reading the rest of the profile?
  Thank you


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RE: Turned off by having another Dom? - 11/23/2007 7:46:43 PM   
breatheasone


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ORIGINAL: RRafe

quote:

ORIGINAL: grlneedstolearn

The scenario that i'm in is just finding some people to hang out with and to make new friends on here. But the reason i'm mainly writing this is because even though on my profile it says that i am with a Dom and only looking for friends, it seems to be a huge stop sign for a lot of people. i do get people looking at my profile frequently, and after i've looked at theirs, etc. it just seems that some, not all, Doms are afraid of getting involved even as friends with someone who is already taken. And i would like to settle down with someone my own age, of which my Dom is not and right now i have no problem with him being my Dom, actually i really love it. So my question is this: When looking at profiles, do you immediantly ignore  the ones where the first line is that she is taken? Just a little confused, and i know that patience is a virtue on here and many other sites, but i would just like some insight on what you look for in a profile and whether or not there are key words that will turn you away from reading the rest of the profile?
Thank you


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RE: Turned off by having another Dom? - 11/23/2007 7:51:03 PM   
Kana


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Status: offline 		Damn skippy right. Way to many poachers on this scene. If it says taken I stay away. And its not just about respecting him, its about showing respect for her submission as well.

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RE: Turned off by having another Dom? - 11/23/2007 8:26:47 PM   
MrSpectacular


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Status: offline 		If your first line is - I am taken - why would anyone want to pursue you any further. Maybe if you said I am here looking for friends etc
To answer the question - yes I would ignore you - in the belief that is what you want.


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RE: Turned off by having another Dom? - 11/23/2007 8:32:40 PM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		so, you want me to tell you how to suck your doms cock and we can be buddies and like some emotional tampon, you can lean on me a few days a month?

Men do not think like women.

End of fuckin' joke.

Outta here, clown.

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RE: Turned off by having another Dom? - 11/23/2007 8:47:09 PM   
grlneedstolearn


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Status: offline 		And would it be the same response if i did put that my Dom would like for me to meet new friends for now?

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RE: Turned off by having another Dom? - 11/23/2007 8:52:09 PM   
sexyred1


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quote:

ORIGINAL: grlneedstolearn

The scenario that i'm in is just finding some people to hang out with and to make new friends on here. But the reason i'm mainly writing this is because even though on my profile it says that i am with a Dom and only looking for friends, it seems to be a huge stop sign for a lot of people. i do get people looking at my profile frequently, and after i've looked at theirs, etc. it just seems that some, not all, Doms are afraid of getting involved even as friends with someone who is already taken. And i would like to settle down with someone my own age, of which my Dom is not and right now i have no problem with him being my Dom, actually i really love it. So my question is this: When looking at profiles, do you immediantly ignore  the ones where the first line is that she is taken? Just a little confused, and i know that patience is a virtue on here and many other sites, but i would just like some insight on what you look for in a profile and whether or not there are key words that will turn you away from reading the rest of the profile?
  Thank you


Sorry, I am not understanding your questions: You want to make friends with whom? Doms? Subs? males, females? That is one thing.

Secondly, then you say your Dom is older than you and you may want to meet a Dom more your age for settling down eventually.

I don't see what relevance that part has on making friends unless you hope that one of these Dom "friends" is there to wait in the wings for you to change your mind.

In that case, you are sending mixed messagess about friendship, because no Dom is going to write you when you say you are taken, but then here, you say something a bit more provocative and leading.

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RE: Turned off by having another Dom? - 11/23/2007 8:52:48 PM   
slaveluci


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ORIGINAL: grlneedstolearn
And would it be the same response if i did put that my Dom would like for me to meet new friends for now?

Meeting new friends and meeting new doms can be two very different things.  For me, it's no different than a girl with a serious boyfriend having all kinds of other male "friends."  Sure, to her they may be just friends but, chances are, they're just waiting in the wings for something to go wrong with her main man so they can slip in there.  Being on a site like this seeking to be "friends" with other doms is probably just not the wisest decision for anyone in my opinion.  I just feel there is a conflict of interest unless the other doms are also "friends" with your dom as well.  I'm not saying it's impossible for it to work, just not really likely.............luci 

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RE: Turned off by having another Dom? - 11/23/2007 9:04:01 PM   
daddyncherry


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ORIGINAL: slaveluci

quote:

ORIGINAL: grlneedstolearn
And would it be the same response if i did put that my Dom would like for me to meet new friends for now?

Meeting new friends and meeting new doms can be two very different things.  For me, it's no different than a girl with a serious boyfriend having all kinds of other male "friends."  Sure, to her they may be just friends but, chances are, they're just waiting in the wings for something to go wrong with her main man so they can slip in there.  Being on a site like this seeking to be "friends" with other doms is probably just not the wisest decision for anyone in my opinion.  I just feel there is a conflict of interest unless the other doms are also "friends" with your dom as well.  I'm not saying it's impossible for it to work, just not really likely.............luci 


What ^she said LOL

i'll also add that alot of women complain about the opposite....Like WTF can't they read that i'm taken already. (i don't have an issue with that but have heard it ALOT)


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RE: Turned off by having another Dom? - 11/23/2007 9:07:23 PM   
DMFParadox


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quote:

ORIGINAL: RRafe

quote:

ORIGINAL: grlneedstolearn

The scenario that i'm in is just finding some people to hang out with and to make new friends on here. But the reason i'm mainly writing this is because even though on my profile it says that i am with a Dom and only looking for friends, it seems to be a huge stop sign for a lot of people. i do get people looking at my profile frequently, and after i've looked at theirs, etc. it just seems that some, not all, Doms are afraid of getting involved even as friends with someone who is already taken. And i would like to settle down with someone my own age, of which my Dom is not and right now i have no problem with him being my Dom, actually i really love it. So my question is this: When looking at profiles, do you immediantly ignore  the ones where the first line is that she is taken? Just a little confused, and i know that patience is a virtue on here and many other sites, but i would just like some insight on what you look for in a profile and whether or not there are key words that will turn you away from reading the rest of the profile?
Thank you


Out of  respect for HIM.


Damn straight


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RE: Turned off by having another Dom? - 11/23/2007 9:31:55 PM   
Honsoku


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quote:

ORIGINAL: grlneedstolearn

And would it be the same response if i did put that my Dom would like for me to meet new friends for now?


For me, the response would be the same. You would have to make first contact and I would probably always keep you at arms length. I'm just too sexy to be close to anybody without stealing them away

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RE: Turned off by having another Dom? - 11/23/2007 10:46:24 PM   
MzMia


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RE: Turned off by having another Dom? - 11/24/2007 5:21:31 AM   
slaveluci


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ORIGINAL: Honsoku
I'm just too sexy to be close to anybody without stealing them away

And so humble, too............luci

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RE: Turned off by having another Dom? - 11/24/2007 5:29:07 AM   
BeingChewsie


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LOLOLOL!!!!

I loved this!

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

so, you want me to tell you how to suck your doms cock and we can be buddies and like some emotional tampon, you can lean on me a few days a month?

Men do not think like women.

End of fuckin' joke.

Outta here, clown.

Ron



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RE: Turned off by having another Dom? - 11/24/2007 5:29:46 AM   
toughmaster007


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Status: offline 		Yes, I would stay away! for sure

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RE: Turned off by having another Dom? - 11/24/2007 5:47:56 AM   
rawkmehard


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Status: offline 		i'm an unowned sub. i want to talk to Dominants, to learn more about what they consider appropriate in a D/s relationship. i know that most of the Dominants i talk to may not be compatible with me. if, upon that discovery, they are willing to speak with me and help me understand more about expectations Dominants (generally) may have, and give me some advice, that's great!  but it's not an expectation.

when i was with Sir, i would only speak with Dominants who approached me after i told them  i was owned, and uninterested in sexual conversation. that seriously limited the Dominants who continued to speak with me...in fact, they were non-existent.

however, i love making friends with submissive females, because it also helps me understand submission from an equal perspective. other submissive females give me great insight into what i'm doing that either works or doesn't work when i'm owned.

so my advice? be clear about who you're seeking for friends, and what that means for YOU. when you're clear about what you're seeking, it becomes the other person's responsibility to decide if what you're looking for is compatible with their needs/wants/expectations/desires.

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RE: Turned off by having another Dom? - 11/24/2007 5:52:55 AM   
fsub4use


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Status: offline 		i want to write some sweet, nice little email about understanding and peace and lollippops, but it really comes down to ... you are His or you are looking for another and you are just playing with Him.  Even if He isn't the One, out of respect for the relationship, why would you go looking for another Dom?

may i suggest the zen of submission?  
be with the Dom you are with or leave and be in the search for the Dom-to-settle-down-with. 

some things really are black and white and not grey. 

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RE: Turned off by having another Dom? - 11/24/2007 6:43:28 AM   
SimplyMichael


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quote:

ORIGINAL: grlneedstolearn

my profile it says that i am with a Dom and only looking for friends, it seems to be a huge stop sign for a lot of people... it just seems that some, not all, Doms are afraid of getting involved even as friends with someone who is already taken. And i would like to settle down with someone my own age, of which my Dom is not and right now i have no problem with him being my Dom, actually i really love it.


I see DRAMA...lots of DRAMA with someone who has a serious lack of clarity.

You aren't looking for friends you are looking to find someone your age so you can leave your Dom.

Nothing wrong with that IF  you are clear about it both with yourself, with your current partner, and with  your potential friends.

Clear all that up and you will get a few more responses but someone like myself is still likely to pass for another reason.  If you are looking for someone else but are with someone now I would assume that you can't function on your own on some level and I have zero desire to bring people like that into my life.

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RE: Turned off by having another Dom? - 11/24/2007 7:02:48 AM   
lanie38


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Status: offline 		I'm an owned sub...my profile clearly states that...I'm here, on this site because of the forums...my family and friends are unaware of my kinks and fetishes and I like it that way...so it's nice to be able to chat with like-minded people. Sometimes some are Doms, sometimes Dommes, sometimes sub, slaves, switches..doesn't really matter.



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ORIGINAL: DMFParadox

quote:

ORIGINAL: RRafe

quote:

ORIGINAL: grlneedstolearn

The scenario that i'm in is just finding some people to hang out with and to make new friends on here. But the reason i'm mainly writing this is because even though on my profile it says that i am with a Dom and only looking for friends, it seems to be a huge stop sign for a lot of people. i do get people looking at my profile frequently, and after i've looked at theirs, etc. it just seems that some, not all, Doms are afraid of getting involved even as friends with someone who is already taken. And i would like to settle down with someone my own age, of which my Dom is not and right now i have no problem with him being my Dom, actually i really love it. So my question is this: When looking at profiles, do you immediantly ignore  the ones where the first line is that she is taken? Just a little confused, and i know that patience is a virtue on here and many other sites, but i would just like some insight on what you look for in a profile and whether or not there are key words that will turn you away from reading the rest of the profile?
Thank you


Out of  respect for HIM.


Damn straight



And in response to these quotes...I am proudly owned by a Dom who has confidence in my integrity and my intelligence to weed out the trollers and stalkers...this kind of insecurity masked as intended respect is quite a turn off, as least for me!!

~lanie

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