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ORIGINAL: OTKkindaGirl

let me first say that i don't get out much but recently met some co-workers at a bar to go sing karaoke.  i live in a stronghold bible belt area, and know that bars in this area are pretty vanilla.  my co-workers know nothing of my lifestyle and it isn't something that i share with them.

within fifteen minutes of being there, i am chatting with a few men that had decided to join our table.  after being there a total of thirty minutes, one man in particular grabs me gently by both wrists, with a gleam in his eye, he informs me that he knows me.  i am great with faces and i know for a fact that i have never met this man before so i ask him.... "how do you know me, have we met before?"  he smiles and says "No, we haven't met before, but I know all about you, you are very rare woman indeed and to me you are above all other women in this place."  Of course i had to ask him if he had seen me or my profile on the computer.... to which he denied.  He is on a jobsite, far from home, and without a computer. 

two things happened in my mind at that moment.  as if the realization that this man talking to me was an actual Dom wasn't surprizing enough (they are few and far between in this area) the fact that he would actually take the time to tell me how valuable and precious i was to a man like him was in and of itself a reckoning for me.  i wondered if this was some kind of set up, but if so, how and by whom.... things like this just don't happen!   but it did. 

we talked some and though there was an attraction there, we kept things honest and straight up.  there is no way that anything could happen between us for a number of reasons of my own volition. 

the humbling affect of being valued and treasured above the vanilla women in that place has left me wondering,  is it the humility that stands out and allows a submissive to shine and how much do Dom/mes really appreciate their subs/slaves/pets/toys in comparison to the women of a vanilla nature? 

it's wonderful to be appreciated for being myself. 

i wonder too, how often do random encounters such as this happen to others in this lifestyle?

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ORIGINAL: OTKkindaGirl
how much do Dom/mes really appreciate their subs/slaves/pets/toys in comparison to the women of a vanilla nature? 

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ORIGINAL: RRafe

Empaths can sense.

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ORIGINAL: hisannabelle

greetings otkkindagirl,

i have rarely had encounters like that...every now and then i will have something to a less intense degree happen, though. i am empathic and sometimes will just naturally become more relaxed and submissive when around some men, even strangers, that i am drawn to...although i do not know how much they notice it. but for him, i think he values the fact that our relationship isn't prone to the kinds of power struggles and mind games he is used to in vanilla relationships...that we are both used to. i get tired of having to play those and he gets tired of dealing with them. so i guess i'm a breath of fresh air compared to vanilla women he's been with.

respectfully,
annabelle.

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ORIGINAL: MissMagnolia

I once had a guy ask me if I was a Domme. I said I was and asked how he knew. I was wearing high heeled boots. That was it.

Valuing someone so highly, simply because they are D or s, is ridiculous.

A person is valued, not their lifestyle.

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ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

Well, to be honest, I don't find the interaction to be THAT unusual. What het woman wouldn't like it if an attractive het man told her she was a rare thing, to be held above all the women in the room? I'D like that. Doesn't make him a Dom...or you a submissive. It makes the two of you human. Grabbing your wrists might have been in play...and when you didn't seem to resist, he knew a little more about you. Vanilla people do kinky stuff all the time.

Master Fire