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Kana -> RE: Getting naked (11/27/2007 2:02:00 PM)
I start at coffee shops too, then see how things click. I don't have a hard and fast rule, sometimes yes, sometimes no. It's more of a chemistry/trust thing than anything else for me. The key things I am looking for on a first meet include: 1-Does she actually show up, that a biggie right there. 2-Is she what she says she was? 3-Is there any compatibility? 4-What is the feel I am getting from her? 5-Is she smart, is she honest, is she hiding things or being elusive? There are more but thats all I have off the top of my head The thing is when I meet someone I am not looking for a one night stand or some kinky sex, I can get that. It always about something deeper. Why would I potentially ruin the chance to have something thats terrific just because I can't contain my hormones? I mean really. Thats just dumb. There have been times I want nudity right out the gate, why lie about it.That depends a lot on the dynamics that have already occured before we meet, how firm the foundation is.

sweetsubPa -> RE: Getting naked (11/27/2007 2:10:26 PM)
Getting naked on the first meet isn't what my main concern is. It's the getting naked on cam. I just wouldn't feel comfortable with that. I think that come with time and a lot of trust.

Bloodrose88 -> RE: Getting naked (11/27/2007 2:15:26 PM)
Ah, this holds a special place in my heart. I have always been extremely body shy when it comes to full nudity (for some reason, I am perfectly comfortable in panties and bra, but no clothes makes me feel terribly vulnerable). My Mistress and I went to the movies for our first meeting, but after, we went back to her house, where I was told to get naked. We had discussed my fear of it before, so it was something of a test for me. I did do it, though, although I shook and trembled quite a lot. Now, though, I am pretty comfortable with that order. I do not take my clothes off on webcam for random people. My boyfriend, sometimes, if I am feeling feisty. For my Mistress, if she asked me to. But thats about it.

lateralist1 -> RE: Getting naked (11/27/2007 2:18:04 PM)
It really does depend on the people and the situation. I havn't been sued either for requesting a new sub gets naked. However I do understand some newbies having a problem with it. If it's necessary then helping a sub to enjoy being naked for me is part of who I am.

marieToo -> RE: Getting naked (11/27/2007 2:27:06 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster I've made women take off their clothes on a first meeting and, well, no one's ever sued me yet. All sluts no doubt.

Lordandmaster -> RE: Getting naked (11/27/2007 2:32:40 PM)
Speak for yourself!

forg0ttenclone -> RE: Getting naked (11/27/2007 2:37:23 PM)
The first time I was told by Goddess that i was to be naked in Her presence for an entire weekend with Her while at Her home. It was very difficult for me. It is something i'm still getting accustomed to. I've never been one to run around naked. So it's something i have to overcome within myself, despite how uncomfortable i may be..

SweetDommes -> RE: Getting naked (11/27/2007 2:48:29 PM)
Our first visit with rob was a weekend ... he got naked during that time. It felt right, we did it. Our current potential (that I'm really hoping can come for a visit soon) has already been naked on cam ... so I don't see anything wrong with him being naked when he finally comes down for a visit. If he feels comfortable with it, I know that I will ... so as long as Holly doesn't object, I'm sure it will happen.

sweetsubPa -> RE: Getting naked (11/27/2007 3:01:46 PM)
I am not talking about getting naked on cam for random people. I'm referring to 2 people that are talking and moving towards a Dom/sub relationship. I just wondered if anyone found it to be a deal breaker to say no. I don't think it should be. But I'm not a Dom either..lol. Also shouldn't limits be respected? I mean, at least until a well established relationship is in place. I do not think that my submission should be questioned because I have some limits.

LadyLegs -> RE: Getting naked (11/27/2007 3:03:09 PM)
I usually meet new people through friends, so it's more about getting to know them in a group setting & the amount of nudity based on the setting. When I play, I prefer the man be naked while I remain dressed.

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: Getting naked (11/27/2007 3:49:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sweetsubPa I have a question for both Doms and subs. How do you feel about having to get naked on the first meeting? Not necessarily for sex, but just to have to be naked, (for inspecption, humiliation)? wouldn't do it - i would have to know the person and feel quite comfortable to be naked around them quote: Also, how do you feel about getting naked on cam for someone that you haven't known long? wouldn't do it either

grlneedstolearn -> RE: Getting naked (11/27/2007 4:09:54 PM)
Good question. First meeting, hmm, i was very nervous and definitely shy, i still am about being naked for him. My first meeting it was for him to make sure that i had properly shaved which i passed :). For your second question, never would i get naked for someone on cam. Don't know who that person would send the "video" to.

Einzelganger -> RE: Getting naked (11/27/2007 4:26:05 PM)
Absolutely not. Granted, it may be different if I've been chatting with the woman online for months or years, due to long distance, but I doubt it. Just my $0.02... -Einzelgänger

laurell3 -> RE: Getting naked (11/27/2007 4:30:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sweetsubPa I have a question for both Doms and subs. How do you feel about having to get naked on the first meeting? Not necessarily for sex, but just to have to be naked, (for inspecption, humiliation)? Also, how do you feel about getting naked on cam for someone that you haven't known long? I always do the first meeting in public, so naked isn't possible. However, on the rare occasion I decide after the first public meeting to go somewhere private, I have to tell you I would find it a bit cheesy to just get naked and be inspected. Being naked in and of itself is not humiliating or difficult for me, but doing just that and nothing else for the purpose of "inspection"...nah. I don't do cam for all the reasons everyone here has already stated. Even if you trust your partner, they are not the only one that has access to things that go out over the internet.

Owner4SexSlave -> RE: Getting naked (11/27/2007 4:39:01 PM)
Depends upon many things for me, such as are we clicking? Does it feel or seem right or not? How long have we been talking? How intense is the physical attraction (both ways) between us? Am I mentally prepared, is she mentally prepared? So many variables involved... However, if it feels right and seems right, Sure.

DominicsJoy -> RE: Getting naked (11/27/2007 4:52:40 PM)
I am wondering how pressured one feels to think that the first time they meet a person they are expected to "bare all". If this is the case (and beleive me, I know the desperate need to please and serve from experience) then I think it should go both ways. IF a Dom is prepared to demand a girl be ready for inspection then he should be willing to lead by example. It all goes back to the submissive = doormat philosophy. If you are a doormat stop reading please. A submissive should be valued and respected for the service they perform, not for being a container for inanimate goo. They serve best when allowed their mind and judgement with which to best anticipate the needs and desires of those they serve. A gracious submissive, adorning the arm of her Master is a delight. A Dom demanding a girl get naked so that he may curse and drool is just lude. Do I think it is necessary or polite to bare all to a stranger??? Heck no. Let him get to know who and what you are. Your body is just the present he opens after he enjoys admiring the wrapper. Master's girl- joy

orfunboi -> RE: Getting naked (11/27/2007 4:54:00 PM)
Hmmm....let me think about that for about 5 seconds....oh, hell no. edited to add - and no, i don't do web cams

Damocles809 -> RE: Getting naked (11/27/2007 5:24:16 PM)
Not a big deal either way with me.

AnimusRex -> RE: Getting naked (11/27/2007 6:13:08 PM)
Given that many men consider it appropriate to submit a photo of their penis in their initial email, I would steer this question more towards the women, submissive women in particular; Men being the rutting beasts that we are, will get naked at the slightest breeze. For many women, being inspected naked by a stranger is a wild turnon precisely because it is so frightening; for others its a hard limit, for pretty much the same reason. For what it is worth, it has been My experience that first date playing or nudity is a bit of letting the little head steer the bus, and mini-Me usually drives it off the cliff. In My experience.

ta2dqt -> RE: Getting naked (11/27/2007 6:51:33 PM)
I always "Meet" my new prospect in public............first............. and get to "know" them better(sometimes more than once in public)....................... THEN..........with our first "session"...... I ALWAYS have them get naked.................. Never used a Video camera ......."yet"............. but I DO love my digital camera!!! ;)

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