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Jeffff -> RE: Getting naked (11/28/2007 1:21:11 PM)

I have and I haven't. It all depends on the  circumstances. Like everything else here, there are no hard and fast rules.

Jeff



subtee -> RE: Getting naked (11/28/2007 2:48:12 PM)

I think I'm going to try showing up naked. Just walk up and say, "howdoya like them apples?"




beltainefaerie -> RE: Getting naked (11/28/2007 3:05:12 PM)

I wouldn't get naked on a first meeting and I would definitely not cam, even though I am a nudist at heart.  For me it would be a matter of trust and respect, which probably hasn't been built enough by the first meeting.  Still, this is all hypothetical, since I am not really allowed to play with folks unless my husband knows them well.



Jeffff -> RE: Getting naked (11/28/2007 3:05:34 PM)

Where?......when?...:)


Jeff



MaamJay -> RE: Getting naked (11/29/2007 6:02:04 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: angelslave77

I loves to be nakie, stretch marks, mummy tummy and all simply because I am who I am, I am comfortable with me (It has taken me a loooong time to reach this point) . So nakie on first meeting no probs, nakie on cam no problem (although I will only cam for Sir now).

and Maamjay wanna watch me strip on cam lmao, so you cant say a female hasnt asked [;)](I am feeling kinda cheeky right now)



you are a cheeky cheeky girl LOL ... and remember, I've seen it all already in My dungeon! And you really don't have much to want to hide hon ... but what is even sexier is the fact that you are so comfortable in your skin! But skip the cam, I'll wait for the live action next time your Sir is in town. Though I do hope He brings a replacement hand crop for the one of Mine that He broke on that comfy skin of yours [;)]

And hey, PhoenixRed ... perhaps We co-wrote the play book?

To Me, one of the most liberating aspects of being involved in bdsm is stripping down the barriers that W/we have about O/ourselves ... including body image. I love it!

Maam Jay aka violet[A]



ELUSIVE1 -> RE: Getting naked (11/29/2007 11:15:15 AM)

I am comfortable in my skin .as for nekkie on first meet--well Ihave done that--but I also do lots of socials and private parties, and have a rep for being the first one nekkie---so many people I meet for the first time while I am naked....I don't cam--the HNG's can wank off to someone else.



KindLadyGrey -> RE: Getting naked (11/29/2007 1:24:24 PM)

Since my first meeting with a person is ALWAYS in a public place, getting naked isn't really an option unless you have a fetish for getting arrested. I suppose there is always the opportunity to say "Hey, now that I know you aren't a serial killer, why don't we go back to my place. . ."

Generally speaking though, I won't get naked for a person or ask them to get naked for me until at least a second date, and then only after having explicitly confirmed that yes, they also want our relationship to proceed in that direction.

Camming is an entirely different story. I won't cam at all, because anyone can take a stream recording or screenshot and distribute it around the web. No thank you! If camming is your thing though, then go for it. Just don't let anyone pressure you into it. Only do it if it excites you and it sounds like fun. I've met plenty of boys on here who love to strut around in front of the cam for anyone who will watch, and that's a-okay. DO NOT let some stupid Dom/me pressure you into getting naked on cam for their "consideration" if you don't want to.

I guess the bottom line is that no Dom/me should be forcing you to push your comfort limits without first getting to know you. If you've been talking online for months and then you finally meet, maybe it is okay to get naked. If you've been talking to a Dom/me online for a few days on they order you to strip for the cam. . .IMHO you tell them to shove it.

My .02.



sweetsubPa -> RE: Getting naked (11/29/2007 4:20:12 PM)

I think there's a difference between getting naked in person and getting naked on cam. It is just frustrating when someone, doesn't quite understand where you are coming from. Or maybe that's a sign. Who knows.



CelticPrince -> RE: Getting naked (11/29/2007 6:35:13 PM)

subPa,

Alot depends on how long and what went on before the first meet.

If there is a TPE, it is a valid option/reality test.

CP



SubJordanTyler -> RE: Getting naked (12/1/2007 1:40:44 PM)

I'd much rather be naked when serving, so yes, I was naked on the first meeting - almost immediately too.  I feel much more submissive when I'm totally naked.  Cam can be a little different, but I've done it before and would do it again.  I really don't have a problem with it.



Rianne -> RE: Getting naked (12/1/2007 1:47:02 PM)

Is THAT how you spell it?  Nekkie???  I've been saying that for years, but always wondered.
 
I was blindfolded and told to strip on our first f2f encounter.  I was dying of humiliation and my skin was burning as I knew he was inspecting me.  Standing there.  OMG.  It was hot.



agoodgirl4Daddy -> RE: Getting naked (12/2/2007 10:13:11 AM)

have you discussed this with your Sir?  If you do not feel comfortable camming naked with Him, let Him know that it is a hard limit for you at this point.  Maybe agree to discuss it again in 3 or 6 months - once trust develops, you may feel differently.  If you don't, then so be it!  If it's a deal breaker for Him, in my not-so-humble opinion, it means He's an ASS. 

I don't have a cam, and I don't ever plan on getting one, because i really do not think i would ever  agree to camming naked and doing sexual things on cam for my (future) Daddy.  If that is going to be a hard limit - then that is not the relationship for me.  Believe me, i've kissed so many frogs, i'm beginning to wonder.... *sighs*



agoodgirl4Daddy -> RE: Getting naked (12/2/2007 10:15:44 AM)

please don't ever agree to something that you are not okay with doing.....  in the long, it's just not worth it! 




camille65 -> RE: Getting naked (12/2/2007 10:16:24 AM)

Ack. I have giant butterflies, no make that luna moths and teradactyls in my stomach.I'm going to be naked in 2 hours and over my doms lap. Panic attack cuz it has been 2 months since I've seen him much less been naked in front of someone, but.. he isnt just a someone. I just have have to remember that. It really sucks that something as glorious as being naked is so fraught with fear and self expecations.



BossyShoeBitch -> RE: Getting naked (12/2/2007 10:28:11 AM)

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ORIGINAL: camille65

Ack. I have giant butterflies, no make that luna moths and teradactyls in my stomach.I'm going to be naked in 2 hours and over my doms lap. Panic attack cuz it has been 2 months since I've seen him much less been naked in front of someone, but.. he isnt just a someone. I just have have to remember that. It really sucks that something as glorious as being naked is so fraught with fear and self expecations.

naked and over your Dom's lap...

stop bragging!!
lucky girl[:D]



TwiztdErotic -> RE: Getting naked (12/2/2007 10:31:52 AM)

Every sub I have known who has been on cam within the first few meetings has had that video later used as blackmail..keep that in mind.



camille65 -> RE: Getting naked (12/2/2007 10:42:13 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: BossyShoeBitch

quote:

ORIGINAL: camille65

Ack. I have giant butterflies, no make that luna moths and teradactyls in my stomach.I'm going to be naked in 2 hours and over my doms lap. Panic attack cuz it has been 2 months since I've seen him much less been naked in front of someone, but.. he isnt just a someone. I just have have to remember that. It really sucks that something as glorious as being naked is so fraught with fear and self expecations.

naked and over your Dom's lap...

stop bragging!!
lucky girl[:D]
 [8D] Honest to gods I'm tooooooooo nervous to be bragging, that would be for tomorrow!! The.. gaps, the time gaps between make it so hard. Hard to remember that he loves me, loves my body cuz I end up with too much thinking time. Okies...... off to the airport and after all this twitchiness his flight had better be on time lol.Yay.



Missokyst -> RE: Getting naked (12/2/2007 10:42:42 AM)

Getting naked on the first meet is something I might do if I felt a connection with someone.  I would not want cameras or cams involved.  I would get naked if I wanted to play.  At parties this is a lot more acceptable to me.  But.. getting naked for "inspection"  HELL NO.  What for?  Are they planning to stamp a Grade A, C, on me?  Am I a purchase to be made?  It kind of pisses me off that I must be approved or dismissed based on the naked review.  Having been at a number of parties and seen more than a few weenies, perhaps we should give the dominant an inspection to see if the parts measure up.
Kyst.. who is feeling irritable this morning.



jennylynnoh -> RE: Getting naked (12/2/2007 11:09:18 AM)

Nope nope nope nope nope, no. 

Having said that, I've done it before, lol.  But that's part of why I wouldn't do it again.  It wasn't "hot" for me, it was humiliating (and humiliation is a hard limit for me.  I can humiliate myself just fine, I don't need someone else's help, lol).  Plus, when things went downhill fast, it was easy to say "oh, it's because he didn't like what he saw", regardless of that's the truth or not.  Seems as though it's one of the quickest ways to make me go to my "bad place", even just the mention if it, and it apparently puts me in that mindset for days after. 

But this has less to do with the protocol of a first date, and WAY more to do about self-image.  I'm somewhat like a cockroach...in the dark I'm eager to do all manner of dirty things, but in the light I scatter and bolt for safety.  [;)]

Jen



Missokyst -> RE: Getting naked (12/2/2007 11:19:14 AM)

The thing is I am pretty comfy naked.  I do not see it as humilation because for me if I get naked it means I am in an atmosphere where it is the thing to do.  Parties are ok for that reason, though I must admit lately I am a fashion junkie... right now bdsm for me is a look!  LOL so naked isn't something I am going to do for just anyone, even at a party. 
But this other idea, this .. inspection deal is not acceptable to me, even though I am ok with my nakedness.  You pegged it exactly.  I would not do well to be found less favorable because it would hit those bad spaces of my pysche.  And.. it truly does piss me off that we are judged for the package and not the content within. 
Kyst
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ORIGINAL: jennylynnoh

Plus, when things went downhill fast, it was easy to say "oh, it's because he didn't like what he saw", regardless of that's the truth or not.  Seems as though it's one of the quickest ways to make me go to my "bad place", even just the mention if it, and it apparently puts me in that mindset for days after. 


Jen



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