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ORIGINAL: Chainmaile

I've been thinking about 'respect' for a while. A lot of supposed doms demand respect from their subs, from the start. I think true respect is something that needs to be earned, not just given freely. I'll treat anyone with respect, until they give me a reason not to. But to truly earn my respect you need to show me you are worthy of it, be you dom or sub.

As one young lady on here mentioned, would you just walk up to on the street and call them a slut or a whore? If not, why would you approach a sub here and do the same? I can understand doing that after you have gotten to know each other and it is part of your roleplaying/relationship, but until that is established, treat them with respect.

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ORIGINAL: tanzur

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ORIGINAL: Chainmaile

I've been thinking about 'respect' for a while. A lot of supposed doms demand respect from their subs, from the start. I think true respect is something that needs to be earned, not just given freely. I'll treat anyone with respect, until they give me a reason not to. But to truly earn my respect you need to show me you are worthy of it, be you dom or sub.

As one young lady on here mentioned, would you just walk up to on the street and call them a slut or a whore? If not, why would you approach a sub here and do the same? I can understand doing that after you have gotten to know each other and it is part of your roleplaying/relationship, but until that is established, treat them with respect.

Common courtesy is given freely to all
Respect is earned

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The other reason should also be obvious, but apparently isn’t. The way such subs act and talk is noted by the sincere doms, and such words and actions reflect either poorly or well in the dom’s evaluation of the sub. Am I going to waste my time with a sub that can’t handle themselves with some deportment and grace, or will I pass them up for the ones that rise to the occasion and show their fortitude? The answer is obvious.

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ORIGINAL: MzMia

 This is why most "submissive males" that approach me get nowhere.
How dare you approach me as a non-Professional Mistress and total stranger,
and out of the blue tell me what you like, what you have done and what you want
as far as BDSM activities?
Last I checked you can get about $1.99 per minute to listen to crap like this.
PLEASE contact one of the phone or cam ladies on here, and get the hell out of my face.
So many get perplexed when I show ZERO interests in them.
Whats wrong Mistress, why don't you want to listen to me spend hours talking about what I want and what I need?
Duh
Do you approach other women online, at clubs and bars, parties, functions in this manner?

I am sure many submissive males go up to total strangers at parties, bars, and begin
telling them how they want their cock and balls tied up!  LOL
Gimme a break.
I am a woman and a LADY and if you can not approach me as such, we don't have much to
discuss, in common and absolutely no future.

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ORIGINAL: Vanatru


The other reason should also be obvious, but apparently isn’t. The way such subs act and talk is noted by the sincere doms, and such words and actions reflect either poorly or well in the dom’s evaluation of the sub. Am I going to waste my time with a sub that can’t handle themselves with some deportment and grace, or will I pass them up for the ones that rise to the occasion and show their fortitude? The answer is obvious.