Collarspace Discussion Forums


Home  Login  Search 

Undressing or being undressed


View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest
 
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Submissive >> Undressing or being undressed Page: [1] 2 3   next >   >>
Login
Message << Older Topic   Newer Topic >>
Undressing or being undressed - 11/27/2007 10:09:50 PM   
liminalRapture


Posts: 181
Joined: 9/6/2007
Status: offline 		OK, I have a totally irrational thing (as opposed to the rest of my erotic life, which, of course, is totally rational ;).

I adore  being undressed by someone else.  I feel like I'm this cherished and totally adored and appreciated being.  I feel pretty.  And I just hate having to undress myself--it feels (and I know this is irrational) like I'm not much valued--just something to fill time till someone better comes along. 

I tried to tell my ex how much it meant to me, but he only undressed me 2 times in a year!  And it seems like it is pretty par for the course to expect subs to do that themselves.  Anyone have similar reactions or relevant experience?
Profile   Post #: 1
RE: Undressing or being undressed - 11/27/2007 10:13:50 PM   
laurell3


Posts: 6577
Joined: 5/5/2005
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: liminalRapture

OK, I have a totally irrational thing (as opposed to the rest of my erotic life, which, of course, is totally rational ;).

I adore  being undressed by someone else.  I feel like I'm this cherished and totally adored and appreciated being.  I feel pretty.  And I just hate having to undress myself--it feels (and I know this is irrational) like I'm not much valued--just something to fill time till someone better comes along. 

I tried to tell my ex how much it meant to me, but he only undressed me 2 times in a year!  And it seems like it is pretty par for the course to expect subs to do that themselves.  Anyone have similar reactions or relevant experience?


Having someone undress while you watch is an act of control.  I think my experiences have been about 50/50 them getting them off as quickly as they can, which is hot and me having to strip for them.  I had someone once that had a requirement of the amount of time I could take to strip and fold my clothes neatly, I started cheating and wore no socks/underwear at all though, which didn't go over well. 

_____________________________

I cannot be defined by moments in my life, but must be considered for by the entirety of my existence.

When you fail to consider that I am the best judge for what is right for me, all of your opinions become suspect to me.

(in reply to liminalRapture)
Profile   Post #: 2
RE: Undressing or being undressed - 11/27/2007 11:47:40 PM   
ownedgirlie


Posts: 9184
Joined: 2/5/2006
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: liminalRapture


I tried to tell my ex how much it meant to me, but he only undressed me 2 times in a year!  And it seems like it is pretty par for the course to expect subs to do that themselves.  Anyone have similar reactions or relevant experience?


I undress myself, but I also often times undress him and dress him.  In my dynamic with him, I am the servant, so it makes sense that I'm the one doing the work that he enjoys and benefits from.  In turn, I benefit from that.

I've never had someone undress me before, though.  Sounds intriguing.

(in reply to liminalRapture)
Profile   Post #: 3
RE: Undressing or being undressed - 11/28/2007 1:06:58 AM   
MaamJay


Posts: 2101
Joined: 9/2/2005
Status: offline 		I think it might depend a bit on the dynamic. With male subs, I am more inclined to have them undress Me ... watching them fumble with female clothing is delicious fun! However, I have on occasion undressed a sub ... mainly to disarm them ... to throw off their inclination to do and allow something to be done to them graciously ... and that's fun too!

For a fem sub like the OP ... perhaps you are more likely to find what you seek in something closer to a Daddy/daughter dynamic? After all, parents have to undress their lil girls ... just a thought! Of course, you could also be lucky enough to find a Dom who just loves to unwrap His "present" every night ...

Maam Jay aka violet[A]

_____________________________

Life is a song ... and I love singing it! (By me!)

(in reply to ownedgirlie)
Profile   Post #: 4
RE: Undressing or being undressed - 11/28/2007 4:18:48 AM   
TysGalilah


Posts: 589
Joined: 11/21/2007
Status: offline 		 
   if I am being undressed, I am feeling their control of my submission ( reads physical vulnerablity...freedom from/of responsibility for will/choice)
 
   if I am undressing myself at their command, I am feeling my surrender at their control ( reads emotional vulnerablity...my choice/will and accountability for that).
 
I have done both, and found they really do feel different...puts my mind-set in different places.
 
 
 
 
 

_____________________________

galilah

.."There are two ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it. " Edith Wharton

(in reply to liminalRapture)
Profile   Post #: 5
RE: Undressing or being undressed - 11/28/2007 7:09:56 AM   
Tigrita


Posts: 484
Joined: 8/16/2007
From: California
Status: offline 		Yes, I sure do love the feeling of a man wanting to tear your clothes off like you're a Christmas present they've been dying to get their hands on...  Or to be slowly, seductively, actively disrobed...  I do also enjoy the vulnerability of the command to strip.  Hell, I just like getting naked, it doesn't really matter how

Like Galilah said, it is different forms of control; them taking possession of your body and its state of clothed-ness by undressing you, or enjoying your active submission in having you undress yourself.  I do think it feels a little sexier to be undressed though.  I get a good mix of both, though probably more often am told I'm wearing too many clothes (that being any clothes) and that I need to correct that.  My ex pretty much always undressed me.


< Message edited by Tigrita -- 11/28/2007 7:11:20 AM >

_____________________________

~ Tigrita

There is no right path, only the path you take.

Success is making life happen, versus just letting life happen to you.

"Many of the things I enjoy, I enjoy because I don't enjoy them." - Charlotte

(in reply to TysGalilah)
Profile   Post #: 6
RE: Undressing or being undressed - 11/28/2007 7:17:44 AM   
SimplyMichael


Posts: 7229
Joined: 1/7/2007
Status: offline
quote:

I adore  being undressed by someone else.  I feel like I'm this cherished and totally adored and appreciated being.  I feel pretty.  And I just hate having to undress myself--it feels (and I know this is irrational) like I'm not much valued--just something to fill time till someone better comes along. 


Who cares if it is irrational!  If it affects you, the emotions are real, they might not be justified but they are real.

If someone asked me how to deal with an issue like this I would advise them to undress you as much as possible at first but then when they couldn't rather than making you undress a passive act, I would make it an active act.  Sit back in a chair and slowly talk you through undressing yourself.  Telling you to pose this way or that, to remove this piece before that, or to go slower, etc.  I would probably have less sex on the nights I undressed you and always on the nights I had  you undress.

Of course I would also shower you with praise as you undressed yourself, tell you what poses turn me on, what moves excite me. 

I would also recomend that your partner compliment your beauty while you undress and when you are naked.  I would also want to  uncover why you feel less desired/attractive when you undress yourself and explore that as a way of improving your self esteem, if indeed it is wrapped around that. 

(in reply to liminalRapture)
Profile   Post #: 7
RE: Undressing or being undressed - 11/28/2007 7:17:50 AM   
hardbodysub


Posts: 1654
Joined: 8/7/2005
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: laurell3

Having someone undress while you watch is an act of control.  ...



The question is, who's in control? The answer is "it depends". The watcher isn't necessarily the one in control.

Also, undressing someone else can be a very dominant, controlling act.

(in reply to laurell3)
Profile   Post #: 8
RE: Undressing or being undressed - 11/28/2007 7:31:59 AM   
Tigrita


Posts: 484
Joined: 8/16/2007
From: California
Status: offline
quote:



The question is, who's in control? The answer is "it depends". The watcher isn't necessarily the one in control.

Also, undressing someone else can be a very dominant, controlling act.


Especially if they do it with a hunting knife *weg*
Reminds me, I need to buy more panties if Stephan is bringing that knife again this weekend, I'm already short after his last visit. 

_____________________________

~ Tigrita

There is no right path, only the path you take.

Success is making life happen, versus just letting life happen to you.

"Many of the things I enjoy, I enjoy because I don't enjoy them." - Charlotte

(in reply to hardbodysub)
Profile   Post #: 9
RE: Undressing or being undressed - 11/28/2007 9:29:55 AM   
toservez


Posts: 1733
Joined: 9/7/2006
From: All over now in Minnesota
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: Tigrita

Yes, I sure do love the feeling of a man wanting to tear your clothes off like you're a Christmas present they've been dying to get their hands on...  Or to be slowly, seductively, actively disrobed...  I do also enjoy the vulnerability of the command to strip.  Hell, I just like getting naked, it doesn't really matter how

Like Galilah said, it is different forms of control; them taking possession of your body and its state of clothed-ness by undressing you, or enjoying your active submission in having you undress yourself.  I do think it feels a little sexier to be undressed though.  I get a good mix of both, though probably more often am told I'm wearing too many clothes (that being any clothes) and that I need to correct that.  My ex pretty much always undressed me.



I agree/indentify totally with this.

Nothing wrong with understanding and embracing your feelings. To me another taking my clothes off in any manner or ordering me whether specific way or not is a level of domination that will get me aroused every single time!


_____________________________

I am sorry I do not fit Webster's defintion of a slave but thankfully my Master is not Webster.

"Anything that contradicts experience and logic should be abandoned." - H.H. The 14th Dalai Lama

(in reply to Tigrita)
Profile   Post #: 10
RE: Undressing or being undressed - 11/28/2007 9:43:32 AM   
DesFIP


Posts: 25191
Joined: 11/25/2007
From: Apple County NY
Status: offline 		I like being undressed but he would rather watch. Which is fine also, as it shows he's paying attention. But just being told to get naked while he's doing something else does seem to indicate that I'm not important enough to him and that he could be just as happy with any other naked female.

Now if you're into objectification, that would be fine. Personally I'm not. I imagine the op isn't either.



_____________________________

Slave to laundry

Cynical and proud of it!


(in reply to toservez)
Profile   Post #: 11
RE: Undressing or being undressed - 11/28/2007 11:27:12 AM   
rubberpet


Posts: 1743
Joined: 4/6/2006
From: The Land of Voodoo
Status: offline 		Hell yeah, I'd love for Mistress to undress me.  It would make me feel desired, whether She's unzipping my catsuit or sliding off my shirt and shorts.  Feeling Her hands all over my body as She gropes and fondles Her property and gazes at me like I'm a pork chop...yummy!  Then, let the mauling begin!    She tells me not to fight it...resistance is futile! 

_____________________________

Collared and devoted property of Mistress Lorelei (vampchick88) as of 3/26/08.

Rubberpet - The Resident Anti-Subby and mysterious shadowy figure known as Voodoo, proud hitman and wiseguy for the Subby Mafia.


(in reply to DesFIP)
Profile   Post #: 12
RE: Undressing or being undressed - 11/28/2007 1:04:55 PM   
RumpusParable


Posts: 1923
Joined: 7/7/2005
From: NYC now!
Status: offline 		On the sexual side of things:

I have a real thing for having my panties taken off me during fooling around or sex.  I can wonder around naked all day at home but think I might be getting some action later?  I go put at least some underwear on so they can be taken off.

I don't care much for being helped undress in other ways Most of the time (not always, but most), but something about having my panties pushed aside or slid down my hip is just terribly much more erotic than without.

On the bottom/sub side of things:  I feel almost childlike when someone undoes my clothing for me, a certain amount of treasured.

On the dominant/top side of things:  I sometimes like to undress a sub as part of playing dress-up with them, in that situation it's a control thing... treating them like a doll or like they can't do it right for themselves or just as an expression of our familiarity.

_____________________________

Relationships come and go, but plastination is forever.

I generally use fast-reply. If directing my post at someone specific I will indicate so.

Minimal summary: Artist, Disabled Veteran, Vegan, Pornographer, and Agender dominant female.

(in reply to liminalRapture)
Profile   Post #: 13
RE: Undressing or being undressed - 11/28/2007 2:05:17 PM   
sammiebabygirl


Posts: 465
Joined: 10/23/2004
From: Upstate, NY
Status: offline 		The only time I get off on being undressed is when it is in a resistance scene, ie, rape play. That is totally hot and takes away all my control. Otherwise, I find it too much on the romantic/vanilla side to be undressed by a Dom.
 
jen

_____________________________

"Men are like pianos. When they get upright, i feel GRAND!!!"

http://charldine.com/jen2820

(in reply to RumpusParable)
Profile   Post #: 14
RE: Undressing or being undressed - 11/28/2007 2:11:20 PM   
batshalom


Posts: 1990
Joined: 9/17/2007
Status: offline 		I lovvvvvvvvve being undressed slowly, each inch of my skin kissed, caressed, feeling as though he is drinking me in with his eyes, his touch, his body. It consumes me, takes me away ... and I get chills when I think about it. Being undressed by someone else makes me feel vulnerable, cared for, small. I don't mind undressing myself but I don't get the same feeling from it. I do, however, love to watch his eyes and his expressions from across the room.

(in reply to sammiebabygirl)
Profile   Post #: 15
RE: Undressing or being undressed - 11/28/2007 2:37:49 PM   
BossyShoeBitch


Posts: 3931
Joined: 1/13/2007
From: South Florida
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: Tigrita

quote:



The question is, who's in control? The answer is "it depends". The watcher isn't necessarily the one in control.

Also, undressing someone else can be a very dominant, controlling act.


Especially if they do it with a hunting knife *weg*
Reminds me, I need to buy more panties if Stephan is bringing that knife again this weekend, I'm already short after his last visit. 

whew.. that's hot!

I never thought about the difference before..  I usually take my clothes off myself... But come to think of it, the thought of Michael slowly undressing me and doing all sorts of nasty,depraved things to his "good little girl"...omg..

_____________________________

A clever man can get out of situations a wise man never gets into...
A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.

(in reply to Tigrita)
Profile   Post #: 16
RE: Undressing or being undressed - 11/28/2007 4:45:59 PM   
MistressPav


Posts: 350
Joined: 11/14/2007
Status: offline 		What a sweet thought.  Yes, my dear, I agree with you.  Being undressed by someone else is very erotic as well as assuring. 
I believe the person that does it, enjoys removing the clothing just as much as you like it being removed.

Pav, Mistress of the Extremes


_____________________________

Proud Owner of Zubi
(my boy "ToyZ")
Claimed & Collared 9magick#2008

"An it harm none, unless they deserve it, do what ye will." --Scorpio Creed

A- Rh-




(in reply to BossyShoeBitch)
Profile   Post #: 17
RE: Undressing or being undressed - 11/28/2007 5:08:19 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


Posts: 19224
Joined: 10/25/2005
Status: offline 		Womens clothes are freakin complicated.  It's hard to undress someone else fluidly, specially if it's a female in female type clothes.

I'd suggest offering to teach them, so you can undress together and specifically request when you want it.  Either they'll get into it and start doing it themselves or you'll just keep having to ask.

_____________________________

Find stable partners, not a stable of partners.

"Sometimes my whore logic gets all fuzzy"- Californication

(in reply to MistressPav)
Profile   Post #: 18
RE: Undressing or being undressed - 11/28/2007 8:10:44 PM   
Kellendra


Posts: 95
Joined: 4/17/2007
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: liminalRapture

OK, I have a totally irrational thing (as opposed to the rest of my erotic life, which, of course, is totally rational ;).

I adore  being undressed by someone else.  I feel like I'm this cherished and totally adored and appreciated being.  I feel pretty.  And I just hate having to undress myself--it feels (and I know this is irrational) like I'm not much valued--just something to fill time till someone better comes along. 

I tried to tell my ex how much it meant to me, but he only undressed me 2 times in a year!  And it seems like it is pretty par for the course to expect subs to do that themselves.  Anyone have similar reactions or relevant experience?


Your Birthday and Christmas?.....
Nothing overly thrilling to add except...
I love being undressed....so incredibly slowly it is almost painful, of course the fact I have the paitence of a teaspoon probably comes into play there.

_____________________________

The possession of knowledge does not kill the sense of wonder and mystery. There is always more mystery." Anais Nin

(in reply to liminalRapture)
Profile   Post #: 19
RE: Undressing or being undressed - 11/28/2007 8:51:17 PM   
Takenbymasterwk


Posts: 2
Joined: 11/12/2007
Status: offline 		this thread is seriously making me horny. as for me- i adore Him undressing me. He demands nudity in His presence- so when i get to Him- generally He likes to pull off the clothes- yanking off the jeans- throwing everything into a big rumpled pile...occasionally He'll make me undress at the door...demanding i not not break eye contact as i do so- knowing how terribly difficult it used to be for me to be naked all the time...now i just do it...but i prefer He undress me- strip me physically and emotionally- remove my last line of defense- my clothes.....oh man i need to touch myself or something....

(in reply to Kellendra)
Profile   Post #: 20
Page:   [1] 2 3   next >   >>
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Submissive >> Undressing or being undressed Page: [1] 2 3   next >   >>
Jump to:





New Messages No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages Locked w/o New Messages
 Post New Thread
 Reply to Message
 Post New Poll
 Submit Vote
 Delete My Own Post
 Delete My Own Thread
 Rate Posts




Collarchat.com © 2025
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy

0.094