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ORIGINAL: Shawn1066

From what I can tell, in most lifestyle relationships, the submissive generally refers to his/her owner by a title.  Something along the lines of Mistress/Master/Lady/Lord/Mommy/Daddy etc, etc.  I, however, call my Owner by her first name.  The only reason I refer to her as, "my Owner" on here is so I can respect her privacy and not use her first name...and because she personally detests the title Mistress.  I will respectfully use "Ma'am" when I want her to know that I'm deathly serious, but that's a rarity.  She only uses my first name, however, around family.  I'm fox 99% of the time and I refer to myself as such in her company.  Anywho, I think it's probably a little out of the norm for me to primarily use her first name...so, I just wanted to see if:

A. Does anybody else call their owner by her/his first name?

B.  If not, then what do you call her/him?

Thought it might make a semi-interesting topic. :-p

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ORIGINAL: forg0ttenclone

My Dominant also does not like the name of "Mistress."  Most often i refer to Her as Goddess.  I use ma'am from time to time.  But 95% of the time, i use Goddess.  I have only once used Her first name in Her presence.  I generally find it difficult to refer to Her by Her first name.  Even when conversing with friends, i have to pause and think, otherwise i will end up referring to Her as Goddess.  All of my friends are vanilla, so they'd be like "goddess? wtf?"  

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

I have always called my partners by their first names or an endearment, hon, babe, etc.

During a scene we may have used Sir or Master, but never outside of one.

If a prospective Dom asked to me to address him by calling him Sir or Master during a first email, I would say, sure Sparky, no problem.

If he said, oh you must not be very submissive since you don't use Sir or Master with a Dominant male when first speaking, I would then address him as Asshole.

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ORIGINAL: peppermint

I call him Gary, or Sir, or Sweetheart, or A**hole....whichever is most appropriate for the situation. 

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ORIGINAL: YourhandMyAss

sorry to derail the thread fox, but I gotta ask,

peppermint, what's with people spelling cuss words with astrics and dots and what not, it's still a cuss word it's not any less of a cuss word, it doesn't look out right better than saying asshole. so what purpose does *** and @@@'s and things have when cussing.

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ORIGINAL: peppermint

I call him Gary, or Sir, or Sweetheart, or A**hole....whichever is most appropriate for the situation. 

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ORIGINAL: Shawn1066

From what I can tell, in most lifestyle relationships, the submissive generally refers to his/her owner by a title.  Something along the lines of Mistress/Master/Lady/Lord/Mommy/Daddy etc, etc.  I, however, call my Owner by her first name.  The only reason I refer to her as, "my Owner" on here is so I can respect her privacy and not use her first name...and because she personally detests the title Mistress.  I will respectfully use "Ma'am" when I want her to know that I'm deathly serious, but that's a rarity.  She only uses my first name, however, around family.  I'm fox 99% of the time and I refer to myself as such in her company.  Anywho, I think it's probably a little out of the norm for me to primarily use her first name...so, I just wanted to see if:

A. Does anybody else call their owner by her/his first name?

B.  If not, then what do you call her/him?

Thought it might make a semi-interesting topic. :-p

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ORIGINAL: Focus50

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ORIGINAL: YourhandMyAss

sorry to derail the thread fox, but I gotta ask,

peppermint, what's with people spelling cuss words with astrics and dots and what not, it's still a cuss word it's not any less of a cuss word, it doesn't look out right better than saying asshole. so what purpose does *** and @@@'s and things have when cussing.

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ORIGINAL: peppermint

I call him Gary, or Sir, or Sweetheart, or A**hole....whichever is most appropriate for the situation. 

Pardon my butting in but perhaps it's a means of communicating your meaning without actually being crude about it?
 
I've heard too many younger women swear like wharfies these days and frankly, I loathe how women are acting more like the fellas (and sometimes worse)!
 
So I'm a dinosaur who's attracted to the rapidly vanishing era of well-mannered feminine ladies and who appreciates women for their (diminishing) behavioural differences....  <shrugs>
 
Focus.

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ORIGINAL: adoracat

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

I have always called my partners by their first names or an endearment, hon, babe, etc.

During a scene we may have used Sir or Master, but never outside of one.

If a prospective Dom asked to me to address him by calling him Sir or Master during a first email, I would say, sure Sparky, no problem.

If he said, oh you must not be very submissive since you don't use Sir or Master with a Dominant male when first speaking, I would then address him as Asshole.

you know, i never had an issue with calling a dominant "Sir".  mainly because its an honorific i've used all my life for older men. hell, i'll say "yes sir?" to the imp when  he calls me down the hall asking for something.

on the other hand, i wouldnt take orders from one in a first email, either.

kitten, my opinion, my .02, all standard disclaimers apply.

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ORIGINAL: Shawn1066

A. Does anybody else call their owner by her/his first name?

B.  If not, then what do you call her/him?

Thought it might make a semi-interesting topic. :-p

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ORIGINAL: Shawn1066

A. Does anybody else call their owner by her/his first name?

B.  If not, then what do you call her/him?

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ORIGINAL: YourhandMyAss

sorry to derail the thread fox, but I gotta ask,

peppermint, what's with people spelling cuss words with astrics and dots and what not, it's still a cuss word it's not any less of a cuss word, it doesn't look out right better than saying asshole. so what purpose does *** and @@@'s and things have when cussing.

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Some of us had our mouths washed out with soap at an early age for cursing. Or got into trouble at school for using improper language.

And the corrections stuck!

I can write curse words, but the worse ones I use in speech are hell or damn. He was teasing me one day and I finally responded "Fuck you". He thought it was funny, I wound up in tears for having spoken like that. First time in 35 years I've said that to anyone and I doubt I'll repeat it in the next 35.

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(in reply to YourhandMyAss)

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

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ORIGINAL: adoracat

you know, i never had an issue with calling a dominant "Sir".  mainly because its an honorific i've used all my life for older men. hell, i'll say "yes sir?" to the imp when  he calls me down the hall asking for something.

on the other hand, i wouldnt take orders from one in a first email, either.

kitten, my opinion, my .02, all standard disclaimers apply.

Hi kitten, I would not use an honorific with someone I don't know, even with older men, unless it was a very, very old man. Then I might say, Sir can I help you cross the road? For me, I find it pretentious to call  Dominant men Sir in any capacity, since I am not deferring to them, nor am I involved with them in day to day life.

With partners of mine, they never expected or needed that kind of honorific, they were secure in who they were and as I said, only during a scene or play we may have used titles, but more the drama of it. If someone I was involved with needed me to call him Sir all the time, I would question his sense of self.