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Masters what is your pet peeves - 12/2/2007 11:43:53 PM

shootingstar67

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Masters what is your greatest pet peeve when dealing with potential female or established female slaves?

I expecially want to know about female subs here. But anyone can answer about anyone

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RE: Masters what is your pet peeves - 12/3/2007 12:39:30 AM

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Simple and plain to see for myself, as well as I'd guess many others. From both this life and what one would consider "vanilla". Lack of honesty. Such can destroy any relationship.

Though I gather you were talking more about habits, and personality characteristics (I'd consider a lack of honesty a bit removed from a natural personality characteristic, and more a learned reaction to stimuli). In such a case I would have to say lack of a sense of self. Even slaves (actual ones) have one. Somewhere, even if buried. The lack of one, is not only a profound pet peeve for myself, but also a major turnoff. After all, it's not very difficult to dominate someone who lacks any self whatsoever. It's like nailing the most drunk girl at the bar. Completely without effort, and far less than satisfying.

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RE: Masters what is your pet peeves - 12/3/2007 12:42:30 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: BrokenSaint

Simple and plain to see for myself, as well as I'd guess many others. From both this life and what one would consider "vanilla". Lack of honesty. Such can destroy any relationship.

Though I gather you were talking more about habits, and personality characteristics (I'd consider a lack of honesty a bit removed from a natural personality characteristic, and more a learned reaction to stimuli). In such a case I would have to say lack of a sense of self. Even slaves (actual ones) have one. Somewhere, even if buried. The lack of one, is not only a profound pet peeve for myself, but also a major turnoff. After all, it's not very difficult to dominate someone who lacks any self whatsoever. It's like nailing the most drunk girl at the bar. Completely without effort, and far less than satisfying.

so are you saying a girl who submits to easily?

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RE: Masters what is your pet peeves - 12/3/2007 12:54:18 AM

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No, I think he's saying a girl who submits too indiscriminantly. Too 'easy' is just fine, if I know that the girl made a gut shot call and stuck with it, no matter how fast she may have made it... as opposed to a submissive that has *no* sense of self-preservation or personal priorities and submits to all and sundry.

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RE: Masters what is your pet peeves - 12/3/2007 12:58:50 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DMFParadox

No, I think he's saying a girl who submits too indiscriminantly. Too 'easy' is just fine, if I know that the girl made a gut shot call and stuck with it, no matter how fast she may have made it... as opposed to a submissive that has *no* sense of self-preservation or personal priorities and submits to all and sundry.

It is hard for me to imagine submitting to anyone who chooses to dominate. Do you refer here to sceneing?

Please give an example, it might make it more clear.

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RE: Masters what is your pet peeves - 12/3/2007 1:26:48 AM

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He's definitely talking about scening, sure. But more than that, i'd say. Submission in general. Some subs do not set standards...they play with anyone with a stern voice and a pulse. This "play" can mean purely physical scenes or a (somewhat questionable) emotional/psychological devotion.

It's very good that you cannot imagine submitting to simply anyone. That's how people get in trouble and/or jaded. Take the time to see if people are worth your time, attention and submission; we all have lives. Haha...well, for the most part anyways. Chemistry and compatibility are still important, no matter what lifestyle you claim.

i hope my response was accurate and satisfactory, Sir. Talk to you tomorrow!

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RE: Masters what is your pet peeves - 12/3/2007 2:15:56 AM

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THE INTRODUCTORY EMAIL STAGE.

Problem:
Fem/subs I cold-contact rarely reply. (Yeah, I know so save it.... lol)
Solution:
I don't cold-contact anymore and only deal with fem/subs who contact me.

FIRST MEETINGS.

Problem:
Too many fem/subs have their own notions on how I'm sposta "act".
Solution:
I just be myself - too dominant for some yet seemingly not dominant enough for others.

RELATIONSHIPS.

Problem:
Seems the only fem/subs I click with these last few years live more than 4 hours drive away.
Solution:
Hmmm, procrastinating for now - I'm soooo sick of driving, even though they didn't mind coming here....

Focus.

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RE: Masters what is your pet peeves - 12/3/2007 2:23:23 AM

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Not sure BrokenSaint was only talking about just during a scene. I have to agree with him. A submissive without a strong sense of self isn't really a pet peeve and more of a turn-off or causes an extreme lack of interest. After all, the appeal to me is that submissive/slave is giving up control to me. If they don't have a strong sense of self, what exactly do they have to give up? I would say nothing because without a strong sense of self, they are giving up to everyone what they are giving up to me. They are for lack of a better term, a door mat. To me, that is not a power exchange. Well, technically I guess it is. But it is not a personal power exchange with me. But instead is a group power exchange with the inhabitants of planet Earth.

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RE: Masters what is your pet peeves - 12/3/2007 4:15:09 AM

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Yelling to me across the house annoys me to no end. If she's in another room and has a question, for instance. I just ignore her until she appears before me to ask in a manner I find more becoming of a slave.

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RE: Masters what is your pet peeves - 12/3/2007 4:21:34 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: shootingstar67

It is hard for me to imagine submitting to anyone who chooses to dominate. Do you refer here to sceneing?

Please give an example, it might make it more clear.

I don't think they are.

Some submissives/slave submit to everyone. They will serve all dominants/all men/all women/all owners/all masters unless their particular dominant tells them not to in a particular moment in time.

And my pet peeve is the "subblier than thou" attitudes.

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RE: Masters what is your pet peeves - 12/3/2007 4:35:47 AM

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~Fast reply~

I'd have to say being overly touchy or self-depricating needlessly. In other words, someone that takes most everything I talk about as some kind of indictment of their own behavior.

Example: I bring up _________ (something that bugs me about a potential). She takes it as me saying 'you are doing this, you're bad/wrong.

This ends up feeling like I have to walk on eggshells and be constantly concerned about how I'm speaking or what I'm speaking about so as not to drive her off into "I'm to blame! He's mad at me!"-land.

*tips his hat*

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RE: Masters what is your pet peeves - 12/3/2007 6:03:52 AM

BrokenSaint

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DMFParadox
No, I think he's saying a girl who submits too indiscriminantly. Too 'easy' is just fine, if I know that the girl made a gut shot call and stuck with it, no matter how fast she may have made it... as opposed to a submissive that has *no* sense of self-preservation or personal priorities and submits to all and sundry.

quote:

ORIGINAL: DefiantFlower

He's definitely talking about scening, sure. But more than that, i'd say. Submission in general. Some subs do not set standards...they play with anyone with a stern voice and a pulse. This "play" can mean purely physical scenes or a (somewhat questionable) emotional/psychological devotion.

It's very good that you cannot imagine submitting to simply anyone. That's how people get in trouble and/or jaded. Take the time to see if people are worth your time, attention and submission; we all have lives. Haha...well, for the most part anyways. Chemistry and compatibility are still important, no matter what lifestyle you claim.

i hope my response was accurate and satisfactory, Sir. Talk to you tomorrow!

quote:

Not sure BrokenSaint was only talking about just during a scene. I have to agree with him. A submissive without a strong sense of self isn't really a pet peeve and more of a turn-off or causes an extreme lack of interest. After all, the appeal to me is that submissive/slave is giving up control to me. If they don't have a strong sense of self, what exactly do they have to give up? I would say nothing because without a strong sense of self, they are giving up to everyone what they are giving up to me. They are for lack of a better term, a door mat. To me, that is not a power exchange. Well, technically I guess it is. But it is not a personal power exchange with me. But instead is a group power exchange with the inhabitants of planet Earth.

Bingo, pretty much nail on the head. Someone with no sense of self is so easily manipulated by anything and everyone that comes around that it would be amusing if it wasn't so sad. Had a friend like that once. Every time I think about her Delilah by the dresden dolls (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=siQ9yPPcG0E) starts playing in my head.

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RE: Masters what is your pet peeves - 12/3/2007 6:30:57 AM

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quote:

And my pet peeve is the "subblier than thou" attitudes.

Hey
My subblier than thou attitude rocks

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RE: Masters what are your pet peeves - 12/3/2007 7:33:22 AM

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improper subject-verb conjugation in what i am presuming is your native language...if it is not please forgive me..

chelle

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RE: Masters what are your pet peeves - 12/3/2007 9:01:04 AM

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I have a small list that comes to mind.

Doormats.

Emotionally needy.

Self deprication.

Topping from the bottom.

Honesty issues.

There is more on this list, but it pisses me off to think of it, lol.

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RE: Masters what is your pet peeves - 12/3/2007 9:40:28 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

quote:

ORIGINAL: shootingstar67

It is hard for me to imagine submitting to anyone who chooses to dominate. Do you refer here to sceneing?

Please give an example, it might make it more clear.

And my pet peeve is the "subblier than thou" attitudes.

LOL yeah

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RE: Masters what are your pet peeves - 12/3/2007 9:44:11 AM

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I don't like it when they act like all perfectly submissive and draw a dom away from me who has limits. Then they flake on the guy naturally.

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RE: Masters what are your pet peeves - 12/3/2007 10:15:05 AM

mnottertail

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girls that won't swallow.

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RE: Masters what are your pet peeves - 12/3/2007 10:28:58 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail

girls that won't swallow.

Ron

not a Dom/Master but i had to look and see what mnottertail's pet peeves were. only one? dang, i thought You'd be much more difficult

no disrespect of course.

girly

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RE: Masters what are your pet peeves - 12/3/2007 11:36:48 AM

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subspace08 - I feel for you. *Hugs* I personally admire people who know their limits. Everyone has limits, and I'm sure the right Dom would know that he can trust you more to push limits and possibly even get you to the levels of the "perfect" sub then someone who does not admit to them now.

As for the pet peeves question.. I'm not a master, but I have "topped" at the request of another and I hate when people claim not to have any limits... To me it just means they have not put enough thought/time into finding them. I think that at the very least it is safer to start saying something "might" be a limit and then push that higher and higher.

There is also something very satisfying as a sub knowing that you've come very close to your limits or even pushed them further then you thought you could for a master :)

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