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RE: Worst Experience? - 12/5/2007 1:58:37 PM

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several years ago, i went to a public dungeon on a regular basis where occasionally i would find someone to tie me up and abuse me... one evening i had planned to meet a woman i had played with several times before and things went about their normal pattern until she tied me up and placed a condom on me... you can imagine what happened next

i can't say i didn't physically enjoy the experience, which in it's own way was a torment for me; but i felt horribly violated and as a result left the lifestyle for 5 years

on the plus side, when i was ready to step back into these waters; i had done so with the decision that i wouldn't do so as a bottom or with casual play partners... without that decision i wouldn't have met Ma'am, or at least i know we wouldn't have had the often wonderful relationship that i have enjoyed with Her for over a year

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RE: Worst Experience? - 12/5/2007 6:09:44 PM

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One of my worst bdsm experiences would have to be after having met this one submissive guy, and then weeks later seeing his face plastered all over the days new for an arrest.   He'd been busted by one of those sting operations for meeting up with an under age female. He had brought along bdsm gear for the meet as well.

Though I never got into a relationship with the guy, for a short time, the news report haunted me and I felt a great deal of emotional turmoil, also causing me to question my own good judgement and place in this lifestyle.   I began to wonder if maybe the guys involved in certain bdsm activities might just be nut cases. In time I realized my judgement wasn't to be called into question. When I thought on it I remembered that I'd been on spot when it came to my gut feelings about the guy. The guy gave me the heebie geebies, (an uncomfortable, creepy feeling,) to begin with, even though I did try to give him the benefit of the doubt after first meeting him.   However, it was knowing I had been in the person's company that had freaked me out.

A CM worst experience was the time I met someone from this site. He visited me at my place and when I wasn't looking the guy finished off a six pack of beer.   I don't drink beer, so when it was gone, I knew who did it. The beer was bought for a friend that was helping me with a few errands/task at the time, so, I liked to keep his brand of beer in the fridge. I couldn't believe this idiot helped himself to every single one of those beers.

This character that likes to refer to himself as a baby, promised to replace the beer and of course he never did. What I want to know, is what is this infantalist doing getting druck, shouldn't he be drinking milk.

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RE: Worst Experience? - 12/7/2007 2:30:38 AM

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My worst expereince. . .

I met a friend of a friend one day and even though he was a decade my junior, and even though he struck me as a really lost boy, and even though he admited openly that he was bipolar, I let him into my life.

He was not bipolar. He is a boardline schizophrenic.

Imagine a 24 year old fatal attraction charcter: very charming and completely insane. He wormed himself into my life and before I knew it, he'd taken me for everything. I took a job on the other side of the country to try to rescue "us" from financial ruin but while away he'd do even more damage. he cost me my home, abandoned my dog (I had to send in friends to rescue my dog, what was left of my fish), he'd killed my garden, ruined my credit history, drained me of my fiances, energy and time.

The worse part though? he accused me of abuse. I made efforts to get him to accept that he was mentally ill and to seek treatment so he acts out even more by telling me how much I don't understand him. he tells me that I don't give him credit getting up in the morning and taking a shower and not masturbating until he develops tennis elbow (seriously). I didn't do enough for him even though it was my friends who hooked him up with a job at apple. I helped him to get credability with his shrink to get him back into nyu: school of independent study (his tuition went on my credit card). I gave him a home and listened to his paranoid rantings. It was endless and I was lucky that he did what I could not. he threw himself out.

I am still finding things that he did even though it's been two months that he ran away. he stole one of my ex's passport. I didn't realize it until recently. hed taken mine as well but was able to get that back. he'd stolen a high school diploma from an ex-room mate in the past so it should have been no big surprise when I went into my hard drive and found that he's swapped it for a blank one. Yup. he has all of my financial information so I have to put blocks on everything. I thought I'd met some damaged people in the leather commnity but a damaged boy dressed in submissives clothes almost did me in.

he's in nyc. he's still out there. being charming, lying complusively, and looking for someone to dress him up in femwear. Dom males, look out as well. I've seen old profiles of his where he was looking for men.

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RE: Worst Experience? - 12/7/2007 3:50:57 AM

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Perhaps I just 'don't get it', but I read that the OP was asking fellow CMers for worst experience examples specific to BDSM, but yet I see many examples that were caused by people's own general poor judgement (as was my own experience when I jumped into a play situation (as a bottom) and without having fully researched the person to ensure they were safe to play with - a lot of reflection and work at undering why I would take such a risk in the first place, and corrective measures to ensure I would not repeat my mistake took place afterwards) and could have occurred in any personal situation with them.

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RE: Worst Experience? - 12/7/2007 4:21:12 AM

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Mmmmmmm...I could regale you with tales of bad scenes and lousy men.......but this bad experience was kind of funny (I can see now....)

We used to have a really, really cool BDSM club called Whiplash held in a disused city police station dating from the mid 1800s. Think dark stone walls, cold floors and tiny, windowless prison cells.

About 5 years ago when I was young and stupid(er), I was strutting my stuff at Whiplash in nothing but thigh high boots, a corset and mesh body suit, thinking I looked hot. I knew all the straight men (and most women) were sneaking a peek at my nipples, which you could see straight through my top.

I spotted a fabulous pro-domme, Mistress J, across the packed dungeon floor seated with 2 subs massaging her neck and another doing her feet. Three men!! How over the top and how typical of her (the lucky cow!)

I sauntered over (trying to look cool) and bent down to kiss her hello, when her foot slave looked up at me.

It was my own father.

You never saw a Domme cover up her tits so fast!! Ewwwwww!!!!

Dad and I have never, ever discussed that night.

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RE: Worst Experience? - 12/7/2007 5:21:56 AM

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ORIGINAL: MsCfromMelbourne

Mmmmmmm...I could regale you with tales of bad scenes and lousy men.......but this bad experience was kind of funny (I can see now....)

We used to have a really, really cool BDSM club called Whiplash held in a disused city police station dating from the mid 1800s. Think dark stone walls, cold floors and tiny, windowless prison cells.

About 5 years ago when I was young and stupid(er), I was strutting my stuff at Whiplash in nothing but thigh high boots, a corset and mesh body suit, thinking I looked hot. I knew all the straight men (and most women) were sneaking a peek at my nipples, which you could see straight through my top.

I spotted a fabulous pro-domme, Mistress J, across the packed dungeon floor seated with 2 subs massaging her neck and another doing her feet. Three men!! How over the top and how typical of her (the lucky cow!)

I sauntered over (trying to look cool) and bent down to kiss her hello, when her foot slave looked up at me.

It was my own father.

You never saw a Domme cover up her tits so fast!! Ewwwwww!!!!

Dad and I have never, ever discussed that night.

OMG I almost died just reading that,,,,,,that has to be like My worst nightmare...........

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RE: Worst Experience? - 12/7/2007 5:43:19 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MsCfromMelbourne

Mmmmmmm...I could regale you with tales of bad scenes and lousy men.......but this bad experience was kind of funny (I can see now....)

We used to have a really, really cool BDSM club called Whiplash held in a disused city police station dating from the mid 1800s. Think dark stone walls, cold floors and tiny, windowless prison cells.

About 5 years ago when I was young and stupid(er), I was strutting my stuff at Whiplash in nothing but thigh high boots, a corset and mesh body suit, thinking I looked hot. I knew all the straight men (and most women) were sneaking a peek at my nipples, which you could see straight through my top.

I spotted a fabulous pro-domme, Mistress J, across the packed dungeon floor seated with 2 subs massaging her neck and another doing her feet. Three men!! How over the top and how typical of her (the lucky cow!)

I sauntered over (trying to look cool) and bent down to kiss her hello, when her foot slave looked up at me.

It was my own father.

You never saw a Domme cover up her tits so fast!! Ewwwwww!!!!

Dad and I have never, ever discussed that night.

......oh.....em.....gee.....

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RE: Worst Experience? - 12/7/2007 8:19:04 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MsCfromMelbourne

Mmmmmmm...I could regale you with tales of bad scenes and lousy men.......but this bad experience was kind of funny (I can see now....)

We used to have a really, really cool BDSM club called Whiplash held in a disused city police station dating from the mid 1800s. Think dark stone walls, cold floors and tiny, windowless prison cells.

About 5 years ago when I was young and stupid(er), I was strutting my stuff at Whiplash in nothing but thigh high boots, a corset and mesh body suit, thinking I looked hot. I knew all the straight men (and most women) were sneaking a peek at my nipples, which you could see straight through my top.

I spotted a fabulous pro-domme, Mistress J, across the packed dungeon floor seated with 2 subs massaging her neck and another doing her feet. Three men!! How over the top and how typical of her (the lucky cow!)

I sauntered over (trying to look cool) and bent down to kiss her hello, when her foot slave looked up at me.

It was my own father.

You never saw a Domme cover up her tits so fast!! Ewwwwww!!!!

Dad and I have never, ever discussed that night.

Ummmm... WOW!

I spat out my drink when I reached the end of this. Did not see that coming. I think you and your Dad did about the only thing you could do after that. Just pretend it never happened...

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RE: Worst Experience? - 12/7/2007 10:55:09 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MsCfromMelbourne

Mmmmmmm...I could regale you with tales of bad scenes and lousy men.......but this bad experience was kind of funny (I can see now....)

We used to have a really, really cool BDSM club called Whiplash held in a disused city police station dating from the mid 1800s. Think dark stone walls, cold floors and tiny, windowless prison cells.

About 5 years ago when I was young and stupid(er), I was strutting my stuff at Whiplash in nothing but thigh high boots, a corset and mesh body suit, thinking I looked hot. I knew all the straight men (and most women) were sneaking a peek at my nipples, which you could see straight through my top.

I spotted a fabulous pro-domme, Mistress J, across the packed dungeon floor seated with 2 subs massaging her neck and another doing her feet. Three men!! How over the top and how typical of her (the lucky cow!)

I sauntered over (trying to look cool) and bent down to kiss her hello, when her foot slave looked up at me.

It was my own father.

You never saw a Domme cover up her tits so fast!! Ewwwwww!!!!

Dad and I have never, ever discussed that night.

Thankfully I'm almost entirely aware of my parents' respective schedules. I would -die- if that happened to me...

Crap..."almost" isn't as good as "completely" is it? :-(

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RE: Worst Experience? - 12/7/2007 4:37:56 PM

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People still tease me "do you remember the night your Dad was at Whiplash?? That was soooo funny!!"

Oh yeah, funny for who? I was mortified and very ashamed of myself. Dad jumped up and pretended he didn't know Jodie (Mistress J). He stood next to me making small talk while I had my arms folded across my boobs trying to back my bare backside away from him.

He left straight away saying something about "just popping in for a look" (how do you "just pop in" to an S&M club? How did he even know about it? He doesn't know how to use the internet, for crying out loud!).

Needless to say my step mother wasn't there- she would have had a pink fit.

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RE: Worst Experience? - 12/7/2007 5:08:24 PM

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My worst has been my getting outted. It was comical, since it didnt actauly cause problems, but it was several steps beyond strange.

When I lived in NY, I was involved in the lifestyle and enjoyed the local clubs. One night, at I believe it was Paddles, I was dressed up and had my pet at the time in tow on a leash while I was wandering about (pretty typical for a Saturday night). There was a domme off with a group of people standing around her watching her do some sort of act with her boys. The curiousity of the crowd got to me, and I wandered over. Being short, I managed to get to the front of the crowd and see the Lady up close. She looked familiar, but I assumed she was just someone I had seen in the club a bunch of times.
When she turend to me, finally, she waved! "Hey," she said, standing up away from what she was doing to hug me. One of her boys commented about how wierd it was to run into someone you didnt expect in a place like that, and she responded "she's seen me naked before... no worries. Though, back then we were into diaper play." She laughed hysterically.
The Domme we were watching was a girl I had babysat for years and years before, and one of my younger brother's best friends. My younger brother, who didnt know I was into the lifestyle.
She didnt realize he didnt know, and she phoned him later that ight, and told her who she had run into at the club. When I got home that night, my brother asked me what I thought of her new boyfriend, and I answered before I relaized that he shouldnt have known I saw her. Thankfully, my brother didnt even bat an eyelash.
Still, tragically wierd.

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RE: Worst Experience? - 12/10/2007 9:45:32 PM

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For you perhaps, maybe for others it is about sex.