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LaDee -> How would you be punished if you did this? (12/6/2007 9:43:18 AM)

Recently I discovered that My sub has been naughty. I recently discovered that he has a cyber buddy.  When I asked him if he was doing anything that I had NOT allowed he denied everything. I hate a liar! I found the emails & IMs and he was dealt with.



breatheasone -> RE: How would you be punished if you did this? (12/6/2007 9:51:22 AM)

My Master/Daddy wouldn't punish me number 1  Number 2 He would talk to me about it. To be honest...I can't even begin to imagine doing that to Him. 



missturbation -> RE: How would you be punished if you did this? (12/6/2007 9:52:28 AM)

I think Sir would just stop seeing me if i did this. The trust would be shattered between us. All i have to do at present is ask if i wish to do something, He rarely says no.



velvetears -> RE: How would you be punished if you did this? (12/6/2007 9:52:38 AM)

If he was dealt with than why are you asking us how he should be punished? 



AquaticSub -> RE: How would you be punished if you did this? (12/6/2007 9:53:18 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LaDee

Recently I discovered that My sub has been naughty. I recently discovered that he has a cyber buddy.  When I asked him if he was doing anything that I had NOT allowed he denied everything. I hate a liar! I found the emails & IMs and he was dealt with.


I'd be punished for the lying but that's it. He doesn't care if I cyber or not.

Edited to add: Punishment would probably consist of first making sure that I understood the rule and hadn't been breaking it by accident, and then telling me he was let down by my behavior.



HottLicks -> RE: How would you be punished if you did this? (12/6/2007 9:55:18 AM)

You're Fired (!)... works for me.



LaDee -> RE: How would you be punished if you did this? (12/6/2007 9:56:21 AM)

I wanted others opinions



LaDee -> RE: How would you be punished if you did this? (12/6/2007 9:57:33 AM)

Thanks for your replies.  La'Dee



Kumasan2 -> RE: How would you be punished if you did this? (12/6/2007 9:57:38 AM)

There would be an issue with me since a violation of trust and honesty had taken place.  When that kind of breach occurs it takes a LOT for me to regain it.

That said, I also understand that people make mistakes and errors in judgement.  I would definitely sit down with her and try to understand why she did it. 



LaDee -> RE: How would you be punished if you did this? (12/6/2007 10:00:02 AM)

I have considered dismissing his a** , butt divorce can be messy



Kumasan2 -> RE: How would you be punished if you did this? (12/6/2007 10:00:40 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LaDee
I found the emails & IMs and he was dealt with.


Can I ask what the end result was?



HottLicks -> RE: How would you be punished if you did this? (12/6/2007 10:00:44 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Kumasan2

There would be an issue with me since a violation of trust and honesty had taken place.  When that kind of breach occurs it takes a LOT for me to regain it.

That said, I also understand that people make mistakes and errors in judgement.  I would definitely sit down with her and try to understand why she did it. 



I try to be understanding too... but in this case... I still go with You're Fired... since not only did he act badly... when confronted, he lied about it.  Doesn't take three strikes to be out in my ball game.



decstorm37 -> RE: How would you be punished if you did this? (12/6/2007 10:03:08 AM)

I would not be His anymore b/c of the lie.  We have agreed that we both can not stands people who lie. Lying is a deal breaker for me and for Him also.



proudsub -> RE: How would you be punished if you did this? (12/6/2007 10:03:16 AM)

I would probably lose my computer privileges.[:o]



AquaticSub -> RE: How would you be punished if you did this? (12/6/2007 10:09:36 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LaDee

I have considered dismissing his a** , butt divorce can be messy


You might want to see if this is just a symptom of a bigger problem.



LaDee -> RE: How would you be punished if you did this? (12/6/2007 10:10:32 AM)

You  are right...I NO longer trust him! it effects everything.  Not sure if W/we will make it.



LaDee -> RE: How would you be punished if you did this? (12/6/2007 10:13:45 AM)

At first I spoke w/ him abt it he still denies it just says they r friends.  I emailed her and told her he was NOT available and she lied and said they were ONLY friends too. Then I caught them sending IMs latenight and I busted them.  I told her to saty away from him or I would post their conversations online.



HottLicks -> RE: How would you be punished if you did this? (12/6/2007 10:17:26 AM)

Hummm... I missed a post...

Well if you are married... that does change things a bit!  I'm with AquaticSub in thinking you might need to investigate some and see what all might be going on. 

I know it must hurt, but maybe this can help in the long run.  Looking deep and communicating just might bring about some changes that will please you both... but for the moment, I know it has to suck!  Good luck to you!



decstorm37 -> RE: How would you be punished if you did this? (12/6/2007 10:17:43 AM)

LaDee i'm sorry to hear that you two maybe done. It is always hard when two people have to go seprate ways. But again if you can't trust him what is the point of being with someone you can't trust. I wish you the best.



MistressTaboo -> RE: How would you be punished if you did this? (12/6/2007 10:17:49 AM)

I guess...first start off with what rules do you have and what did the emails IM's say.
What are your rules for cyber? Does he know them? Did he want to be caught?
Did they say I love you and can't wait to be with you? Did he share intimate details of his soul with them? Or was it just I'm horny and so are you let's get off...

If he knew the rules and they were basicaly just sex...we'd have a VERRRRRRRRRRYYYYY long chastity period...having followed a pretty session...something that's just straight pain.

If it was more of an intimate sharing and I can't wait to see you...then I think you have an outside therapy problem. That's the same as cheating. I'd much rather my husband have annoumous sex than an affair of the heart....not that he'd do either for fear of loss of his balls. *grins*

Also what was his response to be caught and found in a lie?




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