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GoddessTeaze -> How quick does a sub/slave opends her/his wallet for a New Dominant? In the name of Bdsm. (12/11/2007 4:28:16 AM)

How quickly are you opening your wallet, to help a Dominant out?
After one week? One day? One Month?

What has money gotto do with Bdsm?

Or is it in submissives their nature to want to take care of someone
and the will to help someone, is making them feel loved?

How do you know it's not a golddigger who leads you on.

Just some brainstorming here.

Happy to read your responds.

Warm Greetingz & B safe

GoddezzT`



Assman4u -> RE: How quick does a sub/slave opends her/his wallet for a New Dominant? In the name of Bdsm. (12/11/2007 4:38:36 AM)

How about never, unless they are going to split rent or something. Dom, means that he is capable of taking care of himself. If a dom asks for money RUN!!!



GoddessTeaze -> RE: How quick does a sub/slave opends her/his wallet for a New Dominant? In the name of Bdsm. (12/11/2007 4:44:48 AM)

Thank You Assman4u,
for Your answer.

It's alright to buy something nice for the Dominant, is My opinion,
but where do they draw the line?

GoddezzT`



shivvy -> RE: How quick does a sub/slave opends her/his wallet for a New Dominant? In the name of Bdsm. (12/11/2007 4:45:20 AM)

with respect, i don't think there is like a proper anser to your question hun, sorry.... i just think its the same as with vanilla.... when the time feels right..... when you trust Them..... i think it just depends, and only you can really answer that.
 

 
 



IrishMist -> RE: How quick does a sub/slave opends her/his wallet for a New Dominant? In the name of Bdsm. (12/11/2007 4:45:37 AM)

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How quickly are you opening your wallet, to help a Dominant out?

Never.
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  What has money gotto do with Bdsm?

Depends on the people involved. Personally; I don't think it has anything to do with it.
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  How do you know it's not a golddigger who leads you on.


You don't. How do you know that the boyfriend/girlfriend you have is not a golddigger?



KatyLied -> RE: How quick does a sub/slave opends her/his wallet for a New Dominant? In the name of Bdsm. (12/11/2007 4:56:44 AM)

quote:

How quickly are you opening your wallet, to help a Dominant out?
After one week? One day? One Month?


No.  No.  No.
Any dominant I would be attracted to would have to be financially independent and stable, meaning he has a job or some source of income. 



GoddessTeaze -> RE: How quick does a sub/slave opends her/his wallet for a New Dominant? In the name of Bdsm. (12/11/2007 5:05:05 AM)

I know its not easy shivvy,
that's why I popped this question,
to hear how Yyou feel about this subject.
Always good to hear !

Warm Greetingz

GoddezzT`



slaveluci -> RE: How quick does a sub/slave opends her/his wallet for a New Dominant? In the name of Bdsm. (12/11/2007 5:08:59 AM)

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ORIGINAL: GoddessTeaze
How quickly are you opening your wallet, to help a Dominant out?
After one week? One day? One Month?

After He became my Owner.  Once that happened, what's mine became His. 
quote:

What has money gotto do with Bdsm?
Same thing it's got to do with all other parts of life in general.  One needs a certain amount to get by and needs to operate wisely in handling it.
quote:

Or is it in submissives their nature to want to take care of someone
and the will to help someone, is making them feel loved?
It is in THIS slave's nature to want to take care of SOME people.  I have never done that, however, by opening up the pursestrings and saying "Here.  Help yourself."  Never been wealthy enough to afford that.
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How do you know it's not a golddigger who leads you on.
How does one ever know ANYTHING for sure?  Trust your instincts and for Gods sake, use your head.  It's simply no different than any other situation in life.  If you just met someone, would you turn your finances over to them.  I wouldn't (whether or not they call themselves the "dom").....luci



petpete -> RE: How quick does a sub/slave opends her/his wallet for a New Dominant? In the name of Bdsm. (12/11/2007 5:22:16 AM)

GoddessTeaze's question is of one that can make a subs head go on a spin out... The feeling that a submissive will get is one of a very undermined person, stupid silly taken for a ride anything will come to his mind.. But if the party that needs the financial help is in genuine need for it, and the sub gets to be convinced with trust, and provided the sub has the ability to provide the help i don't see why it shouldn't occur out of help and goodwill subsiding each others prides. After all W/we are only humans and helping is part of each individuals character to provide..



GoddessTeaze -> RE: How quick does a sub/slave opends her/his wallet for a New Dominant? In the name of Bdsm. (12/11/2007 5:28:15 AM)

And how long do you know someone before you pull your wallet pete?
There are many people in need in this world. Why do you think there
are so many charitys in this world? And those people who die of starvation
still in these times of days.

I believe it's not healthy and relate to luci, who would do such after
she really knows that person, and T/they become a pair.

I've been around long enough pete, to see what goes on in this jungle
which is called Bdsm, believe Me.

B safe

GoddezzT`



sambamanslilgirl -> RE: How quick does a sub/slave opends her/his wallet for a New Dominant? In the name of Bdsm. (12/11/2007 6:29:34 AM)

i would never open my wallet to any man (or woman). that statement includes Daddy and SO too.  i'm already struggling myself as a single mom and don't have much to spare however Daddy does sometimes gives me an "allowance" if i need it.

no it's not in MY submissive nature to have someone take care of me even though Daddy has promised to do that unconditionally for the rest of my life.



Jeffff -> RE: How quick does a sub/slave opends her/his wallet for a New Dominant? In the name of Bdsm. (12/11/2007 6:35:30 AM)

Wow.this opens up a whole new world for me. I would never have considered taking money from a submissive...............however.if I got a paypal account...................ponders


Jeff



petpete -> RE: How quick does a sub/slave opends her/his wallet for a New Dominant? In the name of Bdsm. (12/11/2007 7:00:56 AM)

And what if i reveille that today that we went for Xmas shopping She has reminded me of how neglectful i was to wards my own people and relatives and She got me to live and feel the Xmas spirit, of sharing... i never felt like that ever as a person. When i was married my ex wife used to do all the shopping. i never bothered to feel what it is to buy presents for kids and loved ones.. my idea was that if the my ex wasn't doing any shopping then i would just hand out the money to there mothers to buy my nephews whatever they wanted.. Its no different in this case i have done.. i know what a fake Domme is as i have reported a fake one on this group in the past without losing a penny before. i got the wrong perception as of what was going on from the beginning. It was only going Xmas shopping but coaching me through it, for both our families..



ravennfyre -> RE: How quick does a sub/slave opends her/his wallet for a New Dominant? In the name of Bdsm. (12/11/2007 7:27:25 AM)

I'm very possessive over my money. I'm a single mom as well, and in the event that I'm scraping by, I can't see opening my wallet to anyone, not even a Dominant.



RCdc -> RE: How quick does a sub/slave opends her/his wallet for a New Dominant? In the name of Bdsm. (12/11/2007 7:55:20 AM)

Define'opening the wallet'.  It could be anything from a gift, to covering a bar tip or money for petrol to get to see or meet someone.
 
When it feels right to you and never should one expect to get it back.  If you give it without demand of recompence, is all good.
 
Never say never.
 
the.dark.



agirl -> RE: How quick does a sub/slave opends her/his wallet for a New Dominant? In the name of Bdsm. (12/11/2007 8:42:04 AM)

Yes, I would, without hesitation. What's mine is his anyhow.   If he needed it he could just take it, theoretically. But disregarding that, if he was still just my friend I would do the same. 

I once lent a dominant online friend £300, he promised to return the loan, and did a month or so later.....with interest ( his insistance). I was a lot better off in those days, though, and if he hadn't paid me back, I wouldn't have been strapped. I took a gamble on him being the straight character that I thought he was, but also knew that there was a chance I might not have had it returned.

I wouldn't do it out of love, I'd do it because I can. I wouldn't do it to be loved, either. It doesn't work that way.

M has stopped me helping people out financially, in the past, and would do again.

agirl





sambamanslilgirl -> RE: How quick does a sub/slave opends her/his wallet for a New Dominant? In the name of Bdsm. (12/11/2007 9:10:22 AM)

never means never in my case.  

money between friends, families as well as dominant does not mix well with me.  if i give someone money (even it's for petrol or an emergency), i do expect to be compensated back for the funds given.  it's hard making ends meet month to month as it is especially with one UM who has constant med/prescription bills. 



Leatherist -> RE: How quick does a sub/slave opends her/his wallet for a New Dominant? In the name of Bdsm. (12/11/2007 9:12:52 AM)

I go dutch.

If I can't cover my own ass, I won't ask anyone else to.



juliaoceania -> RE: How quick does a sub/slave opends her/his wallet for a New Dominant? In the name of Bdsm. (12/11/2007 9:19:12 AM)

I do not put time limits on such things, I would open my wallet to Daddy... after all he has opened his up for me. Isn't that what people do that love each other? They help each other out. give to each other when it is necessary?

As far as being only with the financially secure... well people are secure, until they aren't... and since the world is an insecure place, shit happens. I am not about to turn my back on someone I love just because they started off in our relationship with assets and then they lose them all.

But I was raised in a home that both my parents worked... and there was no "this is mine, that is yours".. the motto was "this is ours"



azropedntied -> RE: How quick does a sub/slave opends her/his wallet for a New Dominant? In the name of Bdsm. (12/11/2007 9:46:11 AM)

I open my wallet everyother day to dust also my wallet moths need to stretch their wings ."there are many people in need" YES I AM ONE OF THEM ..
The question also asked how do you feel about the question ?well if a Domme asked me straight off  to see my wallet or asked about my income , i would be polite and excuse myself .Money politics nor religion , save  that for the long term relationship and life commitments .even then if brought up too early  RUN .



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