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RE: omg in their teens? - 12/14/2007 7:17:48 AM

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i grew up in a household, like another person mentioned, where submission was considered to be a very valuable character trait. If my father said the sky was green and the grass was blue, then by all that's Holy and Unholy you damn well better agree. i'm also the stereotypical overacheiving first child...and i've always known that i lived to please someone else. i also grew into masochism in my teens after developing a chronic pain disorder and beginning SI. i've only been in one relationship but i've never been anything but submissive towards Him, even when we were only 14 and 16 respectively. As is i'm probably still shockingly young to some, as i'm not even 21 yet.

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RE: omg in their teens? - 12/14/2007 7:31:21 AM

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I started reading Stephen King novels when I was 6. By the time I was 13 he was my favorite and I was reading everything he had out.

Two words: Gerald's Game.

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RE: omg in their teens? - 12/14/2007 7:32:10 AM

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I was 21 when I was introduced to it and I am 34 now. I just happened to be in the right place at the right time.

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RE: omg in their teens? - 12/14/2007 7:52:29 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MissOchistic

I started reading Stephen King novels when I was 6. By the time I was 13 he was my favorite and I was reading everything he had out.

Two words: Gerald's Game.

that's one of 4 books by Stephen King i have yet to read pass chapter 1 page 1

i "discovered" this side to me about 4 years ago ...my teen years were spent locked away in organized religion and rules.

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RE: omg in their teens? - 12/14/2007 7:54:06 AM

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i was living over seas in Europe when i was in my teens and well need i say more,,
as for our children,, whom are now in their teens,, the net is a big thing,, and well the openness of hte public today as in re of the 70 & 80's
just look around,, and well
the more open we are the better ,,, hehehehr

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RE: omg in their teens? - 12/14/2007 7:57:32 AM

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ORIGINAL: cainssub

ive been noticing that a large percentage of the people on his site say they discovered the lifestyle in their teens, WOW, i had no clue about this when i was a teenager and im in my 30's and still am just a beginner, how did so many get so educated in BDSM so young? was i under a rock or something?

What do you mean by discover?

When you found the terms? Or a community? Then I was 20.

When you found out that you liked certain activities and started to purpose them? Then I was 15 or so.

When you now realize that you were interested in things that might fit under the BDSM umbrella? I was at least 4.

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RE: omg in their teens? - 12/14/2007 8:04:18 AM

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I grew up watching sex documentaries on HBO, Red Shoe Diaries on Showtime, and cheezy soft core films on Skinamax. I was reading Harlequin romance books by the time I was 11, the 'bodice rippers' from the supermarket by the time I was 13, Black Lace/Masqurade erotic books when I was 16. When I was 18, my then best friend was interested in the lifestyle, we used to have long conversations, (I don't really remember most of exept talking about some really odd topics, like gerbalizing. *shudders* ) anyways she had bit of a crush on me, and tried convincing me to let her spank me and stuff. I was more or less curious, but I didn't want to jeopardise our friendship. For the longest time, I didn't have a car, and I didn't want to have someone I did not know very well to give me a ride to events. and plus I was scared outta my wits about the lifestyle. didn't really know what to expect. started exploring what I could on the internet, decided I wasn't ready, til summer of 2006, finally decided to take a chance and see what it is about.

Forgot to mention, I was trampling a neighborhood girl when we were both pre-teens. Had (mostly.) submissive type fantasies about being naked and exposed to a group of boys, tied up, and them touching me all over. started masterbating when I was about 10, though didn't figure out how to make myself orgasm til I was 15. really blew my mind when I got my 1st vibrator when I was 19. hehehe was about 16 when my fantasies consisted of me being subby, then turning the tables on the other person.

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RE: omg in their teens? - 12/14/2007 8:06:53 AM

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people have urges and are interested in sexuality way before we would like to give them credit for it, legally or as parents or whatever........

nothing any more unusual about tracing these sorts of urges to a very young age than to see a baby's toothless grin of rapture as it finally shits the diaper.

Ron (sorry to burst the bubble out there)

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RE: omg in their teens? - 12/14/2007 8:33:27 AM

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I think I discovered it all on my own (I lived a semi sheltered childhood), I also thought I came up with oral sex soo… I had fantasies about bondage, ds from preteen years along with some of my role play ideas (puppy and others). It wasn’t until MTV’s sex shows that I was able to see that other people did this. And not until a couple of years ago that I found other people that actually do pet play. Anyhow I have to say this has always been part of my life.

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RE: omg in their teens? - 12/14/2007 9:11:03 AM

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ORIGINAL: RumpusParable

Oh, and coming in from the other angle... I've always had a hard time understanding those who don't find they have an interest in PE or BDSM until they are in their 30s, 40s, 50s, or up.

I accept it, of course, but I don't understand it.

For me, it's always been there, it's always been part of how I relate to others, it's always been a part of who I am and what I like. And as I said, the only thing that I "discovered" was that there were special words for what me and my friends, acquaintances, lovers and partners had been doing for years and more toys pre-made out there to do it with.

I accept that others come to it later in life, but it isn't something I can wrap my mind around... it's just too foreign to me.

To answer your question in my humble opinion, it depends in the society and the culture you've been brought up.

To succumb to the whim of a woman in our culture (in my country of birth, not my adoptive one) wasn’t manly among your peers, friends or family. You where looked down at and even ostracized. No matter how successful or physically strong you where, your manliness was in question if you did. And no, I wasn’t living in some forsaken backward country or lived a sheltered life; my country of birth is in Europe.
I know, it might not make much sense in your culture.

I didn’t even knew what BDSM was, never heard the word until about 7 years ago when I met (through vanilla circles) my first ever dominant and even then, it took me over a year to feel comfortable to the dynamics of the relationship, even though I knew deep inside this is what I desired.

For me, it has always been there also, since as far back as I can remember. But I won’t get into the details of my submissiveness from that tender age. It’s something close to my heart and personal.
But to mention lilaStarfire, I am now comfortable with myself to seek the interaction.

But looking back on my past relationships and brief encounters, I can now easily put a name and a title; from submissive girls to mild but not so mild masochistic ones, from dominants to bondage girls, to experimenting with wax play and dare I say the occasional sadistic girl, mind you of the sensual kind. I tell you, the vanilla world is full of kink…if only they be more open about it.

And may I add that I had a computer and internet since its conception, but to use it for porn? God forbid…lol.

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RE: omg in their teens? - 12/14/2007 9:35:02 AM

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I was heavily involved in this by 19. I had started about 16. I had feelings prior to that but never knew what to call them, just figured I was weird. Well I guess I am weird but you see the point. I hadn't looked online for D/s stuff until 8 years ago. Always did real life.
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RE: omg in their teens? - 12/14/2007 9:37:10 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail

people have urges and are interested in sexuality way before we would like to give them credit for it, legally or as parents or whatever........

nothing any more unusual about tracing these sorts of urges to a very young age than to see a baby's toothless grin of rapture as it finally shits the diaper.

Ron (sorry to burst the bubble out there)

Yeah, well. I was in the womb...got tied up in the umbilical cord and right then I knew. Yup.

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RE: omg in their teens? - 12/14/2007 9:50:57 AM

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I knew by the fifth grade, and that was before the internet was anything other than a science tool! We had a week-long share at a house on the beach, and there was an old Penthouse magazine and I read the letters. I thought boys were 'icky' back then, but one letter stuck out.

But really, images are everywhere nowadays. I mean if a kid is watching MTV they are exposed to it, which bothers me because I think that eroticism is very easily manipulated at that age and if I got to choose for myself, I'd rather be vanilla.

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RE: omg in their teens? - 12/14/2007 9:52:45 AM

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For me, it's always tough to answer the basic, getting-to-know-you, 'How long have you been doing this stuff' question.

My first real girlfriend, when I was sixteen, would wiggle/struggle when we made out... Bless her heart, she made it clear that she didn't want me to stop, she just couldn't help it. So I started pinning her down. We both liked that.

Being a bright lad, it took me all of two weeks or so to realise that if I tied her down, I'd have both hands free to make her wiggle with<eg>. We both liked that. ALOT.

Over the next 2-3 years, we also invented (well, OK, discovered might be a better word) knifeplay, blindfolds, gags, rape fanasty, breath control, takedowns, irrumigato, predicament bondage, and the safeword. We just refered to it all as 'rapegames'. I knew terms like SM, B&D and D/S, but didn't really think they applied to us...

I didn't make the scene till around ''87 or so, though all the years in between, I tied up everyone I slept with- though usually not on the first date<g>.

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RE: omg in their teens? - 12/14/2007 12:03:03 PM

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I knew early on that I liked take charge men but I didn't know what all the "lingo" was until later.. hell... just learned about the meta slave thing today on here...

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RE: omg in their teens? - 12/14/2007 12:59:17 PM

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    I was introduced to BDSm long before I knew there was a name - let along a whole lifestyle - based upon my desires. Growing up, I was an avid fan of Anne Rice. I volunteered to work at a library at age 13, and there I discovered a few books I hadn't read before; her Sleeping Beauty series. I devoured the books, but had one problem: I was so ashamed to be aroused by something that seemed to be so deviant!
   I had been exposed to sex before: my friends' parents had an illegal cable box (Do they still have those? This was like, '95/'96.) which got the Playboy channel. My idea of sex was a blonde, busty, Pamela Anderson-esque woman gyrating on top of a greasy, muscular man until the both of them groaned. I had no concept of foreplay. I simply assumed the man inserted his penis into a woman's vagina and after a few minutes of 'wiggling' they both came. If ONLY it were that easy!
   Up until my freshman year of highschool, this is what I believed sex was. I knew I was aroused by things that I felt were "wrong," but I simply assumed there was something "wrong" with me. I struggled a lot until through my own exploration and introspection, I realized this was my sexuality. Through the artistic and avant-garde friends I made when I transferred into an arts high school my sophomore year, I learned about BDSm. My world suddenly opened up; here were people of both sexes (some born that way, some transsexuals), all orientations, all lifestyles being completely themselves out in the open and discussing their feelings, thoughts and sexuality - and everything in between. From then on, I knew there was nothing wrong with me. I was simply myself, and for the first time, in many aspects, I accepted that and was happy.
    Still being underage, I did not embrace my desires fully until I became 18. Still, being busy in my freshman year of college kept me from exploring further. I was not until this summer that I began researching BDSm and ingesting every bit of information I could find. I finally took my "big leap" and registered on CollarMe in late October. Now I am enjoying my new knowledge and my journey through BDSm.

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RE: omg in their teens? - 12/14/2007 2:23:23 PM

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When I was 12 there was this 14 year old girl who liked to be spanked. Then there was this 20 something year old lady who's husband would spank her, tie her up, pull her hair, call her a slut ...

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RE: omg in their teens? - 12/14/2007 2:23:26 PM

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>>>I simply assumed the man inserted his penis into a woman's vagina and after a few minutes of 'wiggling' they both came. If ONLY it were that easy! <<<

<blink>

It isn't?

whoops.

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RE: omg in their teens? - 12/14/2007 2:44:07 PM

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ORIGINAL: cainssub

ive been noticing that a large percentage of the people on his site say they discovered the lifestyle in their teens, WOW, i had no clue about this when i was a teenager and im in my 30's and still am just a beginner, how did so many get so educated in BDSM so young? was i under a rock or something?

quote:

ORIGINAL: chellekitty

the internet....at least thats what it was for me....

Amen.

People are becoming exposed to sexuality, to include BDSM and such things, at far earlier ages now. Unfortunately, due to board regulations and current laws, it's an inappropriate subject to dwell on here. But, yes, many of the young generations have started out in this lifestyle in their early teens. I imagine others have been exposed through parents (such as lifestyle BDSM parents telling their offspring about why there's so many whips around the house), although that's only a guess from the profiles I've seen in which subs have claimed that they've been exposed through family.

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RE: omg in their teens? - 12/14/2007 3:17:10 PM

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I learned that I enjoyed being dominant (non sexual) thanks to my religious choices four years ago. About a year and a half ago my boyfriend at the time and I experminted and I fell in love.

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