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ORIGINAL: Lureaetagg

You should be looking for other teenagers and they won't be treating you rudely because of your age. They'll be treating you rudely becasue your an idiot. And your slave, if she actually exist and isn't just your left hand should be just as embrassed for you as I am.

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ORIGINAL: CalifChick

You're 18 and you have an 18 yr old slave that is oh... about 2500 miles away from you, and you and she are both looking for someone to train her... So when did you fly out there and meet her in real life?  How often do you go see her?  How long did you know her before she became your slave?

Cali
Enquiring minds want to know.

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ORIGINAL: Focus50

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ORIGINAL: kennyautopsy

You make a fairly valid point through most of you response, but you don't know me or anything about me. This is just the point I'm making. People (in or out of BDSM) make assumptions based on superficial ideals. you haven't taken the time to interact with me on any significant level to determine my level of maturity, or if I'm one of these teenagers who believes they're "da man".All I'm saying is, isn't it possible that we can learn from eachother rather than it being a one way street?

You're quite correct, of course I don't know *you* personally but you're also wrong - I know something relevant about you; you're a teenager (assuming your profile is correct).
 
But consider that I wouldn't enlighten a tot about the right way to use matches just because he/she asked, either!  I would if I considered them mature and responsible enough to appreciate the dangers, but still NEVER at *that* young age!  And that would go for *any* tot, including the ones I don't know personally!
 
So my questions to your 18yo self still remain valid - and unanswered....  Why are you even in the lifestyle?  What need or void does a D/s relationship fulfill for you that your doubtless numerous previous egalitarian relationships did not?  'Cause right now I'm sitting here thinking it's something really teen-lame like how it's cool to be different to your peers....  Or perhaps you've heard that your slave doesn't get to reject you in the way those pesky sexual equals are inclined to tease you with....?
 
And what of these subs who don't take you seriously because of your age....  They might be thinking (more age prejudice coming) that you still live at home with the oldies.  You have your life together and happening?  You know, at least your own place and independent financial means etc?  Those two would sure go along way to convincing a sceptical sub that "control" is not just a buzz word you've picked up while reading more about BDSM than some 53yo like me ever read....
 
As for your question, I'm at a loss as to what I'd wanna learn from an 18yo dom, to be frank.  Aside, that is, from the unanswered questions I've posed you....
 
Focus.

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ORIGINAL: xPlayfulxCouplex

Been interested and slowly exploring BDSM since I was 19 or so kenny and while sometimes age was a limiting factor more often than not the only limiting factor I saw was how honest I was with everyone I dealt with (from teacher to pet), how willing I was to be forthcoming with what I knew (and more importantly what I don't know), and my ability to accept criticism as a constructive way to improve myself so that I can better improve whoever I might find who deems ME worthy enough to submit to.  Yes, not being able to find someone to "own" can be frustrating but you should also look at it from the other side of the coin.  Your experience is not all encompassing and your age is just an easy way for others to quickly try and guage just what your "experiences" might be and not just from a BDSM standpoint.  Instead of getting frustrated, horny, and down here are a few things that have worked for me in the past.  First, use the time you have (since you don't "own" anyone yet) to better put your life in order so that when someone special does appear as mana from the heavens you can quickly help her step into your (hopefully) stable life.  Second, use this down time you have without someone special to go out and learn everything you can about the aspects of BDSM you are interested in.  I don't just mean reading about it online, watching BDSM porno flicks, and reading BDSM fiction novellas.  Go out and find some of these older people who DO have more experience then you and get in touch with them.  Be personable and eager to learn, ask them questions about their techniques, dangers, safety protocols, how things make them feel, how they react to different situations.  Then take the next step and setup a time to go hang out with them, kind of like job shadowing, go walk through a day in their lives (normal everyday interaction) and soak it all up like a sponge.  Keep building your contacts and circle of friends so that when your friends see a girl who is someone you might be interested in they can vouch for you and for your experience.  Get out and go to the different parties, conventions, and classes that are offered within reasonable distance from where you live.  It is all helpful in the long run and will enable you to expand your net so to speak. Lastly, when you get really down because you are alone or you feel like what you are seeking isn't out there, go check out some of the inspirational stories you see of people who have found what they were looking for.  It isn't all fairy tale endings and ginger bread cookies but there are enough real people connecting that it will help you refocus yourself and get back into the game enough to keep searchin

Age can play a factor but it all comes down to the person and what they are willing to do to accomplish their goals.  Best of luck in your search.

Levi.

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ORIGINAL: kennyautopsy

We've known eachother for 3 years in real life,we're engaged, and she moved.And I moved.We weren't always this far apart, but circumstances changed.

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ORIGINAL: CalifChick

You're 18 and you have an 18 yr old slave that is oh... about 2500 miles away from you, and you and she are both looking for someone to train her... So when did you fly out there and meet her in real life?  How often do you go see her?  How long did you know her before she became your slave?

Cali
Enquiring minds want to know.

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ORIGINAL: kennyautopsy

Thank you. Your words are very helpful, and I'll certainly look into many of those things. I want constructive criticisim and that's what I'm looking for, but it's kind of hard to find that amidst all of the "shut up and sit down kid".

Thanks again,
Kenny

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ORIGINAL: Lureaetagg
And why the hell are you thinking about older subs? What the fuck dude that's just wrong okay.

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ORIGINAL: LittleWench



My Owner is 25, and 12 years younger than I am.

I read this really fast the first time, and thought that it said "I am 25 and My Owner is 12 years younger than I am"

I just about pissed My pants.

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ORIGINAL: kennyautopsy

My interest in the lifestyle has nothing to do with a void that I need to fill. I found this a few months ago with a local, and as I've read,researched and been involved in a BDSM relationship, it's something that I enjoy very much. And no it's not just having someone at my beck and whim, but to be responsible to and for someone else is an amazing feeling. Since we started our D/s relationship, it has made our bond exponentially stronger and probably has made our relationship unforeseeably better.

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ORIGINAL: sirguym
Yes, of course you'll get potential playmates telling you you're too young, just as I get them telling me I'm too old. You have to accept that they have the right to make that choice, which may well be based on extensive experience and self-knowledge.

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ORIGINAL: LittleWench

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ORIGINAL: Lureaetagg
And why the hell are you thinking about older subs? What the fuck dude that's just wrong okay.

My Owner is 25, and 12 years younger than I am.

Whilst many older men quote their maturity as a virtue, and many women seek that, I love the qualities that men aged 21-25 possess, and also the things that they don't yet possess, things aside from maturity that come with getting older.  Men this age are fascinating, exhilarating, they are so open to life and its potential.  It does take a lot of patience though.

In discussions with my Owner about why he has always been attracted to older women, he says they possess qualities that women his age or younger just don't have, qualities that he finds desireable.

There is nothing wrong with subs being older than their Dom. 

The only issue I see here is that the OP is a teenager still. The teenage brain is a work in progress, it is still forming, still figuring out how to work properly, the connections are still falling into place.  There is new research that suggests teens process emotional information differently than adults, and even use different parts of their brains to do so.  This is as relevant for you as it is the OP.

Perhaps when your brain has finished forming, you will see the age difference between consenting adults differently?