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RE: Intelligence is key? - 8/18/2005 3:03:06 PM   
LadyShoshin


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Status: offline 		I highly prize intelligence and humor.

While not nitpicky about spelling and grammar, "i want 2 b ur slv" just doesn't cut it with me. If someone doesn't have time to write an intelligible sentence, when the heck will he have time to serve me, and if he serves like he types only 3 of my toenails will get polished. No thanks.

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RE: Intelligence is key? - 8/18/2005 3:15:18 PM   
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i don't give a damn about grammar, spelling, punctuation and other such minutiae. little nitpicky things don't usually turn me off.

intelligence, on the other hand, can be extremely sexy. you don't have to be intelligent to be sexy. (thank god for that, because there aren't that many truly intelligent people out there. if intelligence were a prerequisite for sexiness, i might have a hard time finding someone who turned me on). nor will intelligence make someone sexy who otherwise isn't. but if someone who is attractive also happens to be intelligent, her intelligence will exponentially increase her attractiveness.

thelight


i agree with thellght completely.

i would only add that intelligence has many versions, and ebbs and flows throughout life. Yes, i would need someone articulate and who enjoyed conversation as my One, but i do not care a whit about spelling or grammar errors.

As an aside; stupid means below-average intelligence and cannot be cured. i once loved a stupid Man very, very much, but in the end i could not marry him. It was a sad moment in my life and i still remember his kindness and loving manner.

Ignorant can be cured; a person of fabulously high IQ may be completely ignorant of doo wop music. Such a person can learn; but sometimes people seem to stop learning -- and to me, that is like passing time watching paint dry.

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RE: Intelligence is key? - 8/18/2005 3:30:33 PM   
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RE: Intelligence is key? - 8/18/2005 3:38:38 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LRODANDMASTER

I DO'NT REALY CARE TOO MUCH ABOUT INTELIGENCE YOU KNOW BASICALLY ILL FCUK ANY FEMALE


many of women who claim to value nothing more in a man than honesty will nevertheless read your post and cringe.

thanks, for having the gumption to say what you really think.

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RE: Intelligence is key? - 8/18/2005 3:41:16 PM   
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RE: Intelligence is key? - 8/18/2005 3:45:21 PM   
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Status: offline 		For me I look for at least above average intelligence... if nothing else it makes relating to each other easier for me personally. They don't have to be a genius though I have been in relationships with a few who were. What I value more however is creativity in some form. But if a lass were as dumb as a box of rocks... not my type, I'd get frustrated with her eventually.

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RE: Intelligence is key? - 8/18/2005 3:46:38 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

Looks like I caught another one...


i saw through it. i just pretended not to, because i wanted to believe you were being sincere.

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RE: Intelligence is key? - 8/18/2005 3:49:49 PM   
thelight


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ORIGINAL: thelight

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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

Looks like I caught another one...


i saw through it. i just pretended not to, because i wanted to believe you were being sincere.

a lot of people feel that way, but few will admit it.



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RE: Intelligence is key? - 8/18/2005 4:03:09 PM   
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Status: offline 		Depends on how you define intelligence. If it means having a high I.Q. than no it is not important to me for I have known people who were genius' or rather book smart, but give them some common everyday thing to deal with and they didn't have the foggiest idea how to go about it, but than knew people who never went on to college and they were pretty smart about alot of things. I have two sons who have learning disabilities, and you give them an engine and they can take it apart and put it back together and it will run, but than the other two of my boys just have the basic idea of what to do with the same engine, So I guess if they have some common sense, can support themselves and don't rely on me to support them than they are ok, by the way Master is an xray tech, I haven't the foggiest idea what that all entails, but than there are things that I know from reading and researching that master is just amazed at times that I know about, different strokes for different folks. For instance I know there is something wrong in the brake system of Masters car, he is learning I know something about cars so is having it checked, he knows how to change oil and keep air in the tires and that is about it, I know where the problem is, the noise is located and the seriousness of it, though don't know how to fix it, hey maybe at 49 should go to school to be a mechanic! ! ! ! LOL not! ! ! !

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RE: Intelligence is key? - 8/18/2005 4:03:46 PM   
Lordandmaster


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The enemies of LROD may have found the best way to discourage me from posting: make me explain it all.

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RE: Intelligence is key? - 8/18/2005 4:13:59 PM   
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ORIGINAL: richbtch24

My quesiton is this...whether Dominant or submissive...when looking for your other does intelligence rank highly? A simple yes or no would be sufficient. If unsure, details?

Just my usual,

Rob


Intelligence is very important to me. Not necessarily formal education.. but... i certainly find myself attracted to people who have well thought out ideas and people who are able to discuss different topics... ^_^

so.. i think intelligence is pretty high on the list.. but! i don't like people that are so overly academic that they aren't able to have any fun!

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RE: Intelligence is key? - 8/18/2005 4:15:37 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Veav

Well, now... time for semantics!

There's linguistics, command of grammar and spelling and the ability to express oneself with words.
There's maintenance, someone who is well-groomed, employed and takes care of themselves to a reasonable extent.
There's experience, "how much you know about the lifestyle".
There's civilization, whether or not you can be courteous, respectful, polite, and in general not be a dick - even if you think you can get away with it.
There's wisdom, both common sense and being able to grow and adapt to things that conflict with preconceptions.
And there's intelligence, which is the hardest to define because people want to lump all of the above under it.

I don't care about experience, I appreciate linguistics, I respect maintenance, I actively encourage civilization. In these categories, when looking for another... the most important? Wisdom, I think. The wisdom to recognize you're wrong and accept that others may be right. Ultimately, everything else can be taught so long as you can take that first step.

Of course, if I can knock off a few more categories - that determines the difference between "accepting someone's presence", "making a new friend", and "please whip me harder". }:D

Edit: whoops! I thought this was self-evident, but realized it wasn't. Let's tag on a category above wisdom as Numero Uno... stability. Being sane. One of the more rewarding arrangements I've made in the last few months was quite simple, we both agreed on one important thing - "No drama." Best verbal contract I've ever made.



Sweet Jesus, what you said. Could not have said it any better, no really, I couldn't have

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RE: Intelligence is key? - 8/18/2005 5:19:01 PM   
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Status: offline 		I think general overall intelligence is not only on the desired list, it is a necessary trait. Answering legitimate questions is one thing, but having to explain what you are going to do (unless it's waaaay out there) would be so annoying. And let's face it, no one wants to be with someone they cannot carry on an intelligent conversation with. I don't care so much that they have to have a PHD, but they should use their gray matter with regularity and have a decent sence of logic and deduction. I have spoken to subs at our munch before who actually made me feel uncomfortable due to their obvious "lack of smarts", so much so that you actually come up with an excuse to move away. I don't know if it's because you feel like you are taking advantage of them or just because you can't lower yourself to that level, but it's an uneasy feeling. So is it an attractive trait? More than that, even the cutest sub in the world will dim in comparison to an average looking one with a functional brain attached. In reality, what's to dominate if you can't get inside their head...IMHO.

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RE: Intelligence is key? - 8/18/2005 5:21:53 PM   
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Several people in my life are really "intelligent", and it doesn't necessarily make them better people to interact with. At times they hide behind words and theories and forget the practical side of life.

That said, a man who's smart and witty and uses those skills to intrigue and challenge me ... always makes me melt.



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RE: Intelligence is key? - 8/18/2005 5:33:07 PM   
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Status: offline 		Sorry, but I think this is kind of a dumb question. Of course everyone will say they want somebody intelligent; however even if they are stupid somebody just as stupid will seem smart.

Furthermore, there are folks who are very intelligent yet may seem boring as all hell except to somebody who is interested in discussing the same arcane shit.

So I look for somebody who is interesting, whatever the hell that means, but to me it is someone who would be entertaining without driving me nuts.

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RE: Intelligence is key? - 8/18/2005 6:29:06 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'm a self-admitted bookworm and brainiac. On the flip side, I don't always possess much common sense and my social skills range from awkward to pitiful, depending on my mood. I don't want to have anyone, friend or relationship, that can't at least comprehend my philosophical and rambling moments.

I don't tend to quote people, so being well-read isn't a requirement, but curiosity to match my own certainly is. I like people able to hold their own in a discussion, regardless of whether it comes from book learning or not.

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RE: Intelligence is key? - 8/18/2005 6:53:38 PM   
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Status: offline 		It is of no interest to me and therefore devoid of pleasure to take one that is not as smart or smarter than me. Now, I can't quite put my finger on how to say it, but that doesn't mean that she must be of equal intelligence and experience in everything I am (hope you understand that).

That's me; bring on the amazons and the dancing sluts.

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RE: Intelligence is key? - 8/18/2005 7:41:49 PM   
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Status: offline 		I know what you mean Ron, and I can live with that too … But I have to ask in case no one else does and it will bug me working it our <RWL> What are the Amazons going to do with the dancing sluts?????? Prey tell and enlighten us??

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RE: Intelligence is key? - 8/18/2005 7:49:29 PM   
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Status: offline 		IronBear.........I am a man of large appetite. My eyes are larger than my belly (which is saying something as my 'experience' begins to show it's expanse).

The sentence could be so rude as; you three start dancing, you three bend over, and you three in the corner on your knees and start crying 'cause I ain't figured out what I am gonna do with you yet.

and it just sounded kinda cute to me mostly. LOL
I do not intend to make alotta sense, this shit is supposed to be fun as well as fulfilling in my estimation.

Ron

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RE: Intelligence is key? - 8/18/2005 7:56:31 PM   
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Status: offline 		G'day Ron, ok mate you organise the spit, I'll bring a couple of 18 gallon kegs of Fosters and a couple of 'roos to roast and we just round up an quantity of Amazons and dancing sluts and party......

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