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CuriousLord -> RE: Christianity and BDSM (12/30/2007 11:40:11 PM)

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ORIGINAL: OrionTheWolf
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ORIGINAL: CuriousLord

(Yes, while I am an athiest now, I've also been knighted in the Catholic Church and studied religion formally for four years. While I consider it to be an utter waste of time that could've been spent studying other things, it can be entertaining to discuss. :P)


I have studied religion for quite some time and I have found that when someone needs to verify their authority of the knowledge, that they are likely on uncertain ground. Supposedly being Knighted and what have you, gives you no more insight into the beliefs, than anyone else. You may know more about the religion, but not necessarily about the beliefs.


Actually, I was pointing out how an athiest knew so much about Christianity, but however you want to take it out of context, I guess.


Edit: When you opened up this post by saying you're studied for a long time, and then knock people who mention things to verify the authority of their knowledge.. well, you kinda just called yourself into question right away. So I'm a bit confused.. you sound serious, but was it a joke, or..?




CuriousLord -> RE: Christianity and BDSM (12/30/2007 11:44:18 PM)

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ORIGINAL: OrionTheWolf

Can you prove love exists using scientific methods?


Sure. There's chemicals in the brain for it now. They even can tell you when love's worn off. (Supposedly, romantic love has a maximum contineous duration of two years in most cases, meaning LTR's need to suppliment their basis with more than just it.)

While an interesting subject, how might it be relevant? (Were you trying to ad absurdum scientific verification?)




CuriousLord -> RE: Christianity and BDSM (12/31/2007 12:13:44 AM)

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ORIGINAL: dcnovice

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My friend, I can prove to you that life is good is a necessary biological imparative for life by simply showing you that a bunch of suicidal and/or murderous people on an island don't exactly form a viable society. It's scientifically demonstratable!


You'd prove that suicidal or murderous people aren't the best choice for populating an island, but that's a far cry from proving that it's somehow morally better for them to live than to die.


How so? If I can verify that people have an inniate drive to survive and allow others survive via biology, is this not a phenomia which we refer to as morality?

Of course, there's a lot of mitigating factors. It's morally superior to kill someone else if they're breaking into your home and about to kill you and your family.. and, well, a lot of other things.

In some sense, our morals are the biological generalizations stretched out over society and the general effect of it. (We can be rather simple minded, right?)


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ORIGINAL: dcnovice

On the species level, you can probably prove that certain behaviors further the survival of the species, but that simply a scientific rather than moral fact without out the belief (for which I can see no empirical evidence) that there's a moral value to the survival of the species.


But isn't the behavior a consquence of the belief? Or, more to the point, is not the belief the behavior we can observe? This strikes me as a direct and empirical connection.


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ORIGINAL: dcnovice

I know I seem like I'm chasing my tail, but I'm not. I'm doing two things. I'm procrastinating from my housework. And I'm remembering the abortion thread. I have a tough time believing that your opposition to abortion truly arose from scientific concern about the survival of the species. My hunch (which could be entirely wrong) is that you felt, deep down, in your bones, in a way that science, for all its wonders, cannot capture, that abortion is wrong because it destroys something morally valubale: a human life.


Ah, but that's where it gets interesting. These beliefs.. these "morals".. are for the purpose of promoting the species. Like anything else in our body, though, they only serve in an approximate manner. We're not biologically perfect, after all.

I believe it's that my biology has me, inniately, value life. This value in others, too, has become a social value, further imprinted. So, to this end, I have to acknowledge that life is important, which serves the biological function yet needn't stop right there.


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Thanks, by the way. This was, and continues to be, a good thinking point. I'm still trying to figure out just how morals go from individual values to societial decrees (such as valuing life to murder being a crime in many cases). It's.. not hard to see how it can happen, and I feel it's probably verifiable, though I'm still unsure of the exact mechanism it'll take. Perhaps the mechanism needs to be further generalized and polated.. which I'm afraid I'm too tired for this morning, but having such points to think about in the future is how I seem to grow these days. I'm rather thankful for them.




dcnovice -> RE: Christianity and BDSM (12/31/2007 12:26:48 AM)

Good points, CL. But I'm too tired to ponder them now. Next year.

Happy 2008 and thanks for making me think!




eyesopened -> RE: Christianity and BDSM (12/31/2007 2:17:44 AM)

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ORIGINAL: FullCircle


I don’t mind people having their faith what worries me is when it holds us back from finding answers. So many people were persecuted for the beliefs they held because it disproved a particular well established Religious ideology.

http://query.nytimes.com/gst/fullpage.html?sec=health&res=9902E7DE1239F930A35754C0A962948260

How dare he say the earth revolved around the sun!!!

Anyone want to go back to learning from religion?



Sir Isaac Newton's deep religious belief, coupled with his equally deep belief in Magik (alchemy) caused him to seek answers which led to truth about our basic understanding of physics. i don't see that as such a bad thing. 




Aswad -> RE: Christianity and BDSM (12/31/2007 3:15:01 AM)

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ORIGINAL: goodgirl08

I have a lot of trouble understanding the huge importance placed on premarital sex (and not having it) in American Christianity.


This is not an exclusively American phenomenon. Here in Norway, the Catholics were actually using anal and oral sex as a substitute for vaginal sex, until the church clarified that these were still considered premarital sex and thus unacceptable. Granted, ours tend to take their cue from the American ones, but considering the Vatican has even been cracking down on priests surfing for porn at Internet cafés, I'd say this probably has central support.

Anyway, why they had to go ruin the only cool side effect of this misconception beats me. [:D]

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They were discouraged from being promiscuous, but the single/married binary that is such a HUGE part of many American denominations simply did not exist.


Sounds like a reasonably healthy attitude.

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I have been strongly considering being confirmed in the church for a long time - we were not raised Catholic but I have always been strangely faithful, and I would like to be a member of the church of my family's long heritage.


Do yourself and the church a favour and read the Cathecism and the like before joining. While I like the Catholics' unapologetic angle (i.e. having the balls to stand by what they believe, despite pressure to the contrary), I would have to say that there are quite a lot of things I did not agree with, even back when I was considering the priesthood.

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To be honest it seems like a distraction from what's really important.


No wonder. Ever heard about a bike shed discussion?

When plans for something complicated, like a nuclear plant, are to pass a committee or board of some sort, people generally look at the cliff notes summary and leave the plan as it was when it was submitted, because it's too complex for them to get into it. But if a plan is submitted for a bikeshed, it gets mired down in endless debates, because anyone can leave their mark, as anyone can relate and form an opinion on everything from the color to the size and the materials chosen. Thus, paradoxically, the stuff that we really should be focusing on are left unexamined, while the unimportant stuff gets all of our attention. This holds for just about every field I have encountered so far. If you'd like to read more about it, I believe Fred Brooks' book "The Mythical Man-Month" covers it.

Long story short:

Real problems are hard, so people don't want to touch them.
Simple problems are simple, so people want to get involved as much as they can.

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I say this so harshly because I have felt guilt about having premarital sex in the past, and it has taken a lot of searching to recognize the cultural forces that blow this act out of proportion instead of accepting it as something that CAN lead to trouble, but is not bound to, and that's what is important to remember.


Excellent angle in my opinion, for whatever it may be worth.

Health,
al-Aswad.




Aswad -> RE: Christianity and BDSM (12/31/2007 3:33:30 AM)

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ORIGINAL: CuriousLord

To me, these questions are tired in and of themselves; rather, it's the psycological aspect of those pursuing them.


That part is interesting to me, too, as someone who has studied the workings of the human mind quite a bit over these last few years. And I would suggest that you are neglecting some important elements of how this interacts with the psyche, both on an individual level and on a societal level. If you'd care to discuss it, drop me a line, but I think you can figure this one out if you ask yourself the question "what good is religion, and to who?" and assume the answer is something other than "not at all." Ponder it like any other hard question. There are elements to the answer that took me years to figure out, but if you're as smart as you've indicated elsewhere, it shouldn't take you as long.

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As you've said, this is an unscientific approach.


Indeed. And I never did say it was my approach, either.

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Humoring the notion of a non-casual entity (which I would like to point out, can be, in part, scientifically deniable as non-casuality has not be observed through any experimentation throughout history, where as a scientifically nuetral subject would be one that hasn't been tested at all), I would point out that there's no reason nor logic in the distateful claims of personal but unverifiable, ineffectual "relationship"s with it.


Reason and logic only go so far. Humans are not machines, and both reason and logic are incapable of producing (or inhibiting) action without axioms to start out with. Not that I am positing religion as the only answer to that, as one can of course pick any set of axioms, and memetic evolution will play out over whatever was chosen. But there is, conversely, no sound reason to eliminate any set of axioms either, since they're all quite arbitrary.

And, yes, seemingly causally disconnected phenomena have not been studied, unless you count events that are written off as sampling errors or the like. And singleton events are not an object of study by their very nature. Both of which are less than relevant, as such. Science deals with prediction (in fact, you could say it's the modern equivalent of divination), and philosophy and epistemology define the limits of our predictions and the process of observation and feedback involved in refining them. The extreme example would be the solipsist position.

Granted, the position of Spinoza and Einstein is simpler to defend, by far.

But it's not the only position that is defensible, although I'd have to say this thread is not the place for that debate.

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Or, to get to the point, people are believing in something that there's absolutely no logical reason to believe in nor much sense to. Does this not speak more for the fraility of the human ego above and beyond anything else?


There is a lot of logical reason for some to do so, if you consider the whole system, i.e. including the psyche. We also tend to believe the sun will rise tomorrow, yet a vacuum metastability event cannot be excluded by modern science, and could certainly prevent it from doing so. Perhaps you should consider that the need for a perfectly predictable, logical and causally connected universe may be an equally great shortcoming of some minds?

Don't get me wrong, I'm on your side in the battle against religions that deprive the individual of responsibility, accountability, free thinking, and so forth, although for different reasons than yours. But I fail to see that this argument readily generalizes to all religion, and this coming from someone who did, for a rather long time, espouse an atheist position. Anyway, you might want to consider harm reduction instead.

In any case, this is getting to be a hijack; care to move it to CMail?

Health,
al-Aswad.




Aswad -> RE: Christianity and BDSM (12/31/2007 3:35:10 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Rule

And it is well known that Mary had premarital intercourse with the Roman soldier Panthera, who was the father of Jesus. So in its very roots Christianity permits premarital sexual relations.


Interesting. I have not encountered documentation to substantiate this. Care to expand my reading?

Health,
al-Aswad.




Aswad -> RE: Christianity and BDSM (12/31/2007 3:36:27 AM)

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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

Wow..my compliments on an incredible post!  *standing ovation*


Thank you.

Health,
al-Aswad.




MissSCD -> RE: Christianity and BDSM (12/31/2007 3:40:26 AM)

Curious Lord:
 
I will say that you have a flare for debate just as your profile indicates; however, I also see that I am nearly thirty years older than you are.
Right now, you are in the prime of your life.  Later in life you will face life challenges.
I am not judging you for how you think, but I can almost promise that one day you will need some type of faith to fall back on.   It will be a tragedy, job loss, or some other tragic episode that is part of life.
I had a minister of music that is very dear to my heart that said, don't knock it until you try it.
We are not all that bad.
The OP had a very sincere question one that is very difficult to come forward on a forum such as this one.
He got about ten correct answers.
 
Best of luck.
 
Regards, MissSCD




eyesopened -> RE: Christianity and BDSM (12/31/2007 3:48:28 AM)

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ORIGINAL: DollMaster72

I am a Christian dominant man and have a wonderful relationship with a submissive woman.  I hapve been walkin though the issues around BDSM and relationship reguards sex before marriage.  I was wondering if other Christian doms have faced this.  Where to draw the lines in what is appropriate outside of marriage.  We have a D/s Daddy/girl oriented relationship and though I am being let by the spirit to curtail the more obvious physical sexual parts of our relationship, I would still like to continue working on the D/s part of the relationship and deepening our connection there.  I am would greatly appreciate advice from others who may have tread a similar path. 

I posted in this section so as not to offend those who might bristle at a "religious" thread in the regular bdsm section of  CollarMe.

Thank You,

Tim


If one reads the Bible completely and with an open mind, the re-occurring thread is this....God is a Parent who wants us to be happy and healthy and fulfilled.  The Laws concerning diet, social behavior, etc, were designed at the time to avoid long-term health problems like STDs and E colli.  Based on the social norms of the times, creating a way for a female to be taken care of was a good thing.  By making laws against fornication and adultery, and the establishing of divorce laws in ancient Judaism, ensured as much as possible the survival of women in that culture at that time in history.  i don't see any of those laws being set forth by a Cosmic Sadist who wants to set us up to fail but rather a Parent who knows how self-desctructive we can be and who wants to help us avoid things that will harm us.

Fast-forward to today.... We can eat pork without risking death or disease and we can eat rare meat and we have condoms.  If amazes me how many people don't feel the need to obey dietary laws in the Bible but still harp on the sexual laws.  In for a penny in for a pound in my opinion.  The same logic that allows a person to eat non-kosher hot dogs without guilt is the same logic that applies to sexual "laws".   Sin (the hebrew word for sin "chata" can be translated to mean "missing the mark" or going in the wrong direction)  is really in the motives, not in the acts themselves.  

Of course i have to add that all this is my opinion, disclaimer disclaimer disclaimer your mileage may vary, yada yada....




eyesopened -> RE: Christianity and BDSM (12/31/2007 4:03:09 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Aswad

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ORIGINAL: Rule

And it is well known that Mary had premarital intercourse with the Roman soldier Panthera, who was the father of Jesus. So in its very roots Christianity permits premarital sexual relations.


Interesting. I have not encountered documentation to substantiate this. Care to expand my reading?

Health,
al-Aswad.



An obscure writing by a sect that had obvious motives for making this claim but cannot be substantiated in the least.  The name was as common as saying i got knocked up by John Smith.  There is a grave in England, i believe with the name Panthera, so by all means this must be actual proof!!  Pfftttt!

The idea of a 'virgin' birth was added after the fact not unlike the miraculous birth of Buddah.  The early Christians didn't need Jesus to be God in order to believe or to see value in his teachings.  Jesus didn't even become Divine until Constantine figured it was the only way to unify his empire.  i don't need Jesus to be divine as i personally believe that my God uses ordinary people to do extraordinary things.  i don't need a Jesus who was born in miraculous circumstances or a Jesus who was bodily lifted into heaven.  my faith is mine and does not depend on these things.





Rule -> RE: Christianity and BDSM (12/31/2007 4:19:24 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Aswad
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ORIGINAL: Rule
And it is well known that Mary had premarital intercourse with the Roman soldier Panthera, who was the father of Jesus. So in its very roots Christianity permits premarital sexual relations.

Interesting. I have not encountered documentation to substantiate this. Care to expand my reading?

As I recall it, some second century jew investigated the parentage of Jesus, to prove to the christians that he was not divine and that their religion was false because he was fathered by a Roman soldier and thus Mary could not have been a virgin.  (These arguments are are invalid for various reasons.)
 
That story seemed plausible to me.
 
I quote James Tabor (http://jesusdynasty.com/blog/2006/07/13/the-jesus-son-of-panthera-traditions/):
The earliest textual evidence comes from three sources:
1) We have two stories preserved in supplements to the Mishnah called the Tosefta (as well as in other parallel rabbinic texts but primarily see Tosefta Chullin 2:22-24) that refer to “Yeshu ben Pantera” (with alternate spelling variations). The first involves the famous Rabbi Eliezer ben Hyrcanus who lived in the late 1st and early 2nd century AD. Rabbi Eliezer relates a teaching in the “name of Yeshu ben Pantera” that he heard on the streets of Sepphoris from one Jacob of Kefar Sikhnin. Eliezer himself had been arrested for “heresy” and some have suspected he might have been sympathetic to the Nazarenes. The second story also involves Jacob of Kefar Sikhnin who attempts to heal a certain Rabbi Eleazar ben Dama of a snakebite in the name of “Yeshu ben Pantera.”
Although Maier and a few others have doubted these references are to Jesus of Nazareth, most experts are convinced that they are. Since both of these texts appear to use the designation “Yeshu ben Pantera” in a descriptive rather than a slanderous or polemical way they offer us evidence that Jesus was remembered as “son of Panthera” in the region of Galilee, and even on the streets of Sepphoris, in the early 2nd century. Indeed, Richard Bauckham argues quite persuasively that this Jacob of Kefar Sikhnin might well be James, son (or grandson?) of Jude the brother of Jesus, otherwise known to us as a prominent leader in the Galilean churches (Jude and the Relatives of Jesus, pp. 114-119).
2. The Greek philosopher Celsus relates in polemical work against the Christians preserved by the Christian theologian Origen that he had found it “written” that Jesus was the son of a Roman soldier named Pantera (Contra Celsum 1. 69). This text dates to the late 2nd century. Origen replies that the story was concocted by those who refused to believe that Jesus had no human father and was conceived by the Holy Spirit.
3. The 4th century Christian apologist Epiphanius seems to take the designation “Jesus son of Panthera” seriously in that he argues the name is actually a nickname for Jacob, the father of Joseph, husband of Mary. So rather than denying it is part of the family tradition he tries to explain it within that context.
 
There is more in Tabor's blog, but those are the sources.




eyesopened -> RE: Christianity and BDSM (12/31/2007 5:01:38 AM)

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ORIGINAL: CuriousLord

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ORIGINAL: OrionTheWolf
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ORIGINAL: CuriousLord

(Yes, while I am an athiest now, I've also been knighted in the Catholic Church and studied religion formally for four years. While I consider it to be an utter waste of time that could've been spent studying other things, it can be entertaining to discuss. :P)


I have studied religion for quite some time and I have found that when someone needs to verify their authority of the knowledge, that they are likely on uncertain ground. Supposedly being Knighted and what have you, gives you no more insight into the beliefs, than anyone else. You may know more about the religion, but not necessarily about the beliefs.


Actually, I was pointing out how an athiest knew so much about Christianity, but however you want to take it out of context, I guess.


Edit: When you opened up this post by saying you're studied for a long time, and then knock people who mention things to verify the authority of their knowledge.. well, you kinda just called yourself into question right away. So I'm a bit confused.. you sound serious, but was it a joke, or..?


Still want to know which Order of Catholic Knights run around and indiscriminately "knight" people in absentia and if knighted in absentia how that provides anyone with authority to know much about the institution offering the knighthood.  *shrug*




Aswad -> RE: Christianity and BDSM (12/31/2007 8:22:38 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Rule

In fact the Divine is outside our universe, which precludes a causal physical interaction. [/quite]

Being external does not preclude causal interaction per se (the word physical is redundant).

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The Divine by its nature is impartial, neutral, submissive.


I think you will need a dictionary worth of definitions before I'll touch this statement. [;)]

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It simply responds to our desires, granting them if physically possible, by the non-causal mechanism of synchronicity.


Again, a lot of defining to do, and I don't think this is the place to debate synchronicity.

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So there is a two-way communication consisting of request and response.


In other words, both are part of the same causal chain.

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The incarnations of various aspects of the Divine by contrast are not impartial, not neutral, and often also not entirely submissive.


Personalities, whether projected or intrinsic, are never impartial or neutral.

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The Divine is aware of every tiniest particle in our universe.


Then it is causally connected. Perception is equivalent to being a causal consequent.

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The universe is a part of the Divine, but separate from the Divine. The Divine is 'outside' our universe.


Sounds like Lovecraft. Again, not getting into it here; would be a huge hijack.

Perhaps we could move this discussion elsewhere?

Health,
al-Aswad.




Aswad -> RE: Christianity and BDSM (12/31/2007 8:25:52 AM)

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ORIGINAL: CuriousLord

How might something exist outside of being scientifically verifiable?


Simple enough. If it's not observable, it's not scientifically falsifiable. And nothing is scientifically verifiable.
That said, such a thing implies a disconnect which also makes it irrelevant.

Health,
al-Aswad.




Aswad -> RE: Christianity and BDSM (12/31/2007 8:29:36 AM)

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ORIGINAL: CuriousLord

Point being, if there's a God, we should, at some point, be able to experimentally demonstrate it.


Quite so. And in the meantime, we lack the data to assert "yea" or "nay."

Health,
al-Aswad.




CuriousLord -> RE: Christianity and BDSM (12/31/2007 8:43:09 AM)

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ORIGINAL: eyesopened

Still want to know which Order of Catholic Knights run around and indiscriminately "knight" people in absentia and if knighted in absentia how that provides anyone with authority to know much about the institution offering the knighthood. *shrug*


While a valid concern, it's little more than another post being used as nothing more than a personal attack.

I am a tad confused, though.. I was told the Bishop held the service; unless he also happened to be a "knight", I am unsure if such individuals were actually involved. Even if they were, I'm sure they're too busy slaying dragons at the moment to help out here, or perhaps some of them are leading the war against the demons of hell and their encampments on the far corners of the world.




Aswad -> RE: Christianity and BDSM (12/31/2007 8:44:18 AM)

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ORIGINAL: FullCircle

My morality is based on empathy. I don't want to hurt people because I understand what it is like to be hurt. I don't need religious doctrines for that.[8|]


I want to hurt people because knowing what it's like to be hurt lets me enjoy hurting them more.
Why am I holding off on torturing them to a pulp?
Back to the drawing board.

I'm not saying that religion is necessary to have morals; but empathy doesn't do the trick either.
Like it or not, your brain is incapable of operating on evidence; it needs axioms.
Whether those come from religion is another matter.

Health,
al-Aswad.




CuriousLord -> RE: Christianity and BDSM (12/31/2007 8:52:51 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Aswad
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ORIGINAL: CuriousLord

Point being, if there's a God, we should, at some point, be able to experimentally demonstrate it.


Quite so. And in the meantime, we lack the data to assert "yea" or "nay."


If we look at it for the purely empiracle prospective. Yet the claims of God, as many religions put them out to be, are self-contradicting and, well.. nothing else about it makes sense.

Really, what other rational view is there behind religion than a bunch of loonies making it up? I mean, seriously, start putting a couple of sckitzo's in a room, and you have yourself the starts to a whole new mythology, complete with dieties, demons, moral codes, rituals, chanting, etc.

In my view, there's a phenominia- religion- which needs to be explained. Craziness or based in reality? All the evidence I've seen- from the lack of reason to believe in a God to the propencity of depraved individuals to make up such things- overwhelmingly points to it being made up in peoples' heads. For me, this evidence mounts up to an experiment which is scientific in nature.




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