slaveluci
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Joined: 3/2/2007 From: Little Rock, AR Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania I posted some ridiculing things about CR on another thread, and then felt sort of regretful for having done so when I realized that some people DO live that way. I suppose I thought it was sort of a fantasy based website, that it held unreasonable expectations that people hopelessly tried to live up to... but then I realized that if people want that sort of relationship, can find it, and it fulfills them, then my assumptions about it just could be wrong To me, that's one of the hallmarks of being openminded. Realizing that if something fulfills someone else - even if I can't stomach it - that it's fine for them. I've never thought of you as a closeminded poster, julia. Opinionated and determined - yes. Closeminded - not at all . quote:
Sometimes it isn't that we want to ridicule people, we just do not realize that our opinions are insulting someone. My bad! I didn't realize how many people actually identified with that sort of relationship.... I think we've all been guilty of unintentionally insulting others' preferences. Doing it because you didn't realize, as you said, is one thing. Intentionally mocking someone else's preferences just seems a bit childish and, of course, closeminded to me. quote:
I will say though, people often post how they are squicked about how my relationship functions because I have a "Daddy", I do not see many people up in arms over that, or getting all bent out of shape over it Well, I'm not bent out of shape. I was just agreeing with ownedgirlie that I see the irony. Especially when the insulting comments come from some people who propose that they are the epitome of free thinking, open minded, and/or "do your own thing," that's all . I personally haven't noted too much "Daddy" bashing here but, throw out the words "Castle Realm," and they line up to boo and hiss. I don't think it's any better to insult what you and your partner have. quote:
.. mind you, I do not give a shit, but it is sort of amusing that people treat CR like it is some Sacred Cow... it might be a Sacred Cow to some of us, but not all of us Agreed. It's certainly not to me, nor was it ever. I don't think there are any sacred cows as far as the "lifestyle." I totally understand why many don't care for it. As I said, I can take or leave it. Some of the writings are fine, some silly to me. But if others like it and the philosophies work for them, I don't feel some overwhelming urge to cut them down as BDSM "lite" and mock it. That's my whole point. Well, that and the unbelivable irony of such mockery coming from some folks who think most anything else is A-OK and shouldn't be judged. quote:
It really is ok that some people are grossed out by Daddy Doms, just like it is ok that some people are grossed out by scat or by golden showers or gang bangs It's A-OK. It's fine. quote:
The world will not come to an end because some of us do not like CR Boy, I hope not . quote:
It doesn't work for us, it doesn't have to, and it does not mean we are "closed minded" that it doesn't work for us Amen to that. I couldn't agree more. But if people came out in throngs to mock and put down golden showers, gang bangs, etc. any time they are mentioned, that would be just as silly. It's fine to be grossed out by any little thing one wants to be. No, the world won't end. But it does kind of bring intelligent discourse to a grinding halt when that dislike becomes juvenile mockery instead of a differing taste. That's all I'm sayin'.....................luci
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