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RE: OK, Here it is- How to find... - 12/21/2007 8:52:57 PM

RumpusParable

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ORIGINAL: MsCfromMelbourne
If a sub looks like Brad Pitt or George Clooney (not mashed together, aidan - you are funny!) or Robert Redford (in his younger days) or Orlando Bloom (for the younger Mistress) or Kurt Cobain (while still alive) or Will Smith or Cary Grant....

I'm not much for the rest of them, but I admit you got me with Will Smith and Cary Grant... mmmmmmmmm.

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RE: OK, Here it is- How to find... - 12/21/2007 8:56:52 PM

eevin

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ORIGINAL: RumpusParable

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ORIGINAL: LotusSong

... A Mistress!

Get out from behind the computer and into a munch..

Heck, for that matter, get out from behind the computer and into a supermarket, bookstore, comedy or music show, walk in a popular park, etc.

I've met the vast majority of my partners just in talking to people in everyday life!

Oh, you'd have to know the people around here. i joined the book club at the library to meet people, and its all older people. i tried the local bar, but its full of red-neck, white-trash drunk braggarts. If it hadn't been for my ex, i wouldn't be here, and probably a thousand times happier. But it seems like all the ones who are interesting to actually talk to are either married, retired, or (most likly) both.

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RE: OK, Here it is- How to find... - 12/22/2007 4:16:39 AM

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ORIGINAL: LotusSong

Did you do CM frist or the local scene first? Which one do you feel helped with the other?

I did the local scene first and this was the second local scene I had gotten involved in. Even though I met Mistress here on CM and many people here helped me mentally I would have to say the local scene helped the most. The actual experience of dealing with the lifestyle in the flesh was a better experience and more enrichning.

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RE: OK, Here it is- How to find... - 12/22/2007 8:49:19 AM

undergroundsea

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1. Put two cups of water in a pot.
2. Place pot on stove.
3. Wait a couple of minutes until water is boiling.
4. And voila! There you have boiling water!

Sea, any chance of breaking this down for me please ?... I`m dying for more coffee.

I took a class for this! But instead of the regular textbook I used the cliff notes. So the details are beyond me.

I do, however, have two points to add.

It is important to read step one carefully and note that I reference a pot and not pot--this recipe is to boil water, not to make marijuana tea.

Also, it is never good to microwave water to boil it. I remember from college that a microwave imparts rotational energy versus kinetic energy, which means the water molecules acquire greater spin rather than vibration. And it is my suspicion that drinking water with spinning molecules can make you dizzy.

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ORIGINAL: prettyropelady
You forgot one very very important step.

2.5: Turn stove burner ON.

Yeah well when you are a pro like me, you simply leave your burner on all the time because it is in use constantly ;-)

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I have guy friends that would come back 10 minutes later...and not be able to figure out why the water was still cold.

I can imagine their thoughts: "Man, I've heard that watching a pot keeps water from boiling but I am not even watching it. Well, I looked at it for about 10 seconds. Is that what did it?"

Cheers,

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RE: OK, Here it is- How to find... - 12/22/2007 11:56:43 AM

YesMistressIrish

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ORIGINAL: MsCfromMelbourne

When you find the local scene, make friends of all persuasions: Doms, other subs (especially femsubs....they are great little match makers!), fetishists, crossies etc etc Discreetly let people know you are single and sub. If they like you, eventually someone will tell a Mistress about you and fix you up.
snip.. You usually need allies, connections and friends in the scene to land a Mistress......

........unless you look like Brad Pitt. Then the Mistresses will probably fight eachother to grab you first and pop that BDSM cherry!

Ms C:Thanks for the great laugh! It is so true: I love to pop a newbie's cherry, especially if they look like Brad Pitt.
I have had some interesting interactions with dommes here on cm. One sub who was flying to meet me flew to another domme first. She collared him the minute he walked in the door. She knew he was coming to me the next week!
Another domme pretended to be my friend, found out who I was interested in, then attempted to sabotage me and *other dommes and subs* and snag some of the subs whom I was interested in. She got the boot of course.
Wild and wooley ride here, no doubt.
To all the subs who are genuine: Be communicative when you connect. Read her profile, do what she asks ie: sending a pic, and some information vanilla and otherwise.
I think the real dommes and subs are pretty obvious. Don't be sucked in by a pretty sexy pic: Go for dommes who sound genuine and down to earth.
If they post here: Read their posts before you write as that will give you a good idea of who they really are.
Many great dommes do not post here. They are too busy with rt fun. Many are pros and lifestyle, so they are busy and overloaded with emails.
Be yourself. Don't give up on a good domme if you really think you would be a good match for her. Of course: If she rejects you outright I think it is ok to ask why. We all learn from our mistakes and grow along the way.

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RE: OK, Here it is- How to find... - 12/22/2007 1:18:39 PM

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I went to one munch.It was two hours away and so the cost in time and petrol and parking was not worth it.
Also the behaviour of one of the Doms there towards me put me off for life.
If I ever go on the scene again it will be with a very big beefy male sub.
And from the comfort of my own home I can talk to loads more subs to find out if we could possibly be compatable before we meet.
I've been looking for over four years.
Done some playing.
Met some nice people and some not so nice.
Talked to hundreds.
Got the sack from my job.
I've been propositioned four times in r/t by men I know already or had just met who knew or guessed that I was a Domme. All of who were married and obviously willing to 'cheat' on their wives. I still consider it to be cheating even if there is no sex involved.
I talked to one sub who had been looking for a Mistress for 20 years.One who had been paying a pro Domme for five years while still looking for what he needed.
It's all a bit depressing really.

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RE: OK, Here it is- How to find... - 12/23/2007 3:59:24 AM

MsCfromMelbourne

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I went to one munch.It was two hours away and so the cost in time and petrol and parking was not worth it.

Yes I agree with you. Munches can be very contrived, clique-y, polite and/or pointless. I find them daggy (that's Australian for dorky or nerdy)

But you are so lucky to live in England!! You can grab a nice sub and go down to London to Torture Garden and any number of other exceptionally cool BDSM clubs and see the best outfits/play/performers in the world - any time you like!

You can shop in Soho any time you like (isn't the femdom gear at Paradiso to die for???)

You don't have to pay $2000 in airfares to go the annual Rubber Ball!

I am green with envy!

Skip the daggy munches: you have the real thing all around you in England!

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RE: OK, Here it is- How to find... - 12/23/2007 6:33:49 AM

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Maybe I have been extraordinarily lucky in this realm, but I have never found it all that difficult. I'm not saying that I never had a dry spell. I have. But I have met many women who were either already dominant and in this life, or who had interest and/or potential. Of course, I have not been dead on compatible with all of them, but I have had, ( and I am in one now) some great relationships with some intelligent, very attractive lifestyle dominant women. You have to really try. Parties, personals, bars, internet, etc. You have to make it a mission. It can be done, though.

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