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dominating tall mens - 12/20/2007 11:59:47 PM   
AMADF


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Recently a vanilla friend ask me how if i was sutch a small girl was able to controll tall mens :) -wich by the way I ADORE :P- So i have been thinking and actually considder this question interesting. So i decide to publish some of my tricks for dominating taller mens:

- Hard face slapping (no matter the size, I always get their attention with big slap)
- Genital control (leash around the cock, ball slapping, etc) no matter that im smaller, i always have access to his balls
- Use of cane (since is long i can beat him from far distance and several hights)
- Use of whips above my head (i like to use 2 whips at same time -one on each hand- cause then i can cover larger areas, wich is important when talking about big mans)

Might not be the best ones, but they work for me :P

Do you have any trick to share?
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RE: dominating tall mens - 12/21/2007 1:39:06 AM   
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They should kneel when you are standing and sit at your feet when you are sitting (unless they are doing chores for you). 

Leading them around on collar and leash is fun.  So is riding on their backs.  And using them as chairs.

Standing bondage can be tricky when tying their hands up over their heads so you need a box or step to stand on.   Suspension bondage is no problem as long as you know how to use leverage and /or have an electric winch.

Standing kissing can be tricky too (if you are a couple), so its better to tie them down to a bed or table (actually, flat on their backs is a good place for all men no matter what their size.....)

I really like doing BDSM with big men, especially football and rugby union players.  Sometimes they are twice my weight.  The contrast makes it a bigger power rush for me. 

Only size issue I have had is a big man that nearly fainted during CBT.  They can fall and squash you.  I therefore always think about ways to secure men so they don't fall.  But that's the only hassle I have had playing with people much bigger than me.




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RE: dominating tall mens - 12/21/2007 4:24:41 AM   
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Easy: they're not 6' 4" on their knees.

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RE: dominating tall mens - 12/21/2007 4:32:17 AM   
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While in the past I have enjoyed the sometimes-painful ministrations of both tall and short ladies, there is a special eroticism to being dommed by one much shorter than I am.  No special tactics should be required, but it seems to me that the larger the male being dommed, the greater the power surge a lady might feel.

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RE: dominating tall mens - 12/21/2007 5:24:07 AM   
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Easy: they're not 6' 4" on their knees.


That's exactly where I was going to go with my reply. Put them on their knees or flat on their face.




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RE: dominating tall mens - 12/21/2007 6:14:56 AM   
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Fox is taller than me.

On average the average male will be taller than the average female but DS isn't about physical control, it's about authority in my opinion so physical differences need play a small role.

It can feel good though for one or both partners to do something to change the differences. As others have said kneeling is good so is using steps -- I often hold or kiss Fox while I'm standing one step up from him because he likes that feeling.

Personally I like a guy my height or taller -- in fact the same would be true for a female slave I think -- because knowing I have authority over someone bigger feels like a greater authority to me.

Plus they can get things from high shelves for me or lift me up to get things!

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RE: dominating tall mens - 12/21/2007 6:46:30 AM   
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Stand on a step stool?

Honestly I just don’t ever think about my height (normally) in relation to other people. For me (5’3”) basically everyone is taller then me so I just go about my business. I do take in consideration that I can’t reach curtain heights and well that just means that if he’s tied up he has to be lower then me. I will say the positive about having a tall guy around is he can reach things that I can’t.

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RE: dominating tall mens - 12/21/2007 6:57:46 AM   
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I have to mainly agree with what TammyJo said.

The leash, the bondage, the face-slapping... to me, if these are needed to dominate someone then I really have zero control of them.  Having to physically punish and guide someone at every turn to get them to submit to me indicates an ongoing power struggle, not a free exchange of power/authority.  Some enjoy that, but me, I enjoy a sub/slave that gives themselves over to me, trusts me, actively wants to submit and where disobedience is rare and mainly accidental, and physical methods such as those mentioned above (which I, too, enjoy!) are just ways of having fun and expressing our dynamic... not actually trying to dominate by physical force.

I very much enjoy dominating taller males... most are taller than me, but due to being 6ft tall in my head I prefer them over 6ft or else I feel like I'm bigger than them.  I like being the shorty in control of the tally.  I tried to write about the why's here but it became too muddled.  I just woke up, lol, and it's involved anyhow.

Plus, as TammyJo said, they're handy for getting things off high shelves. :)

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Random moment of off-topic related to the high-shelf thing:  I just returned from a visit with family up north and at one point my mother, sister and I were out grocery shopping together.   We needed a few of the large containers of ginger ale for a punch my mother was making for her party and they were on the top shelf and way back, all the front ones having been bought...

I'm the tallest at 5'3".  My fingers couldn't even graze the bottles. 

So I tried stepping up on the lowest part of the shelves (big heavy kind they're using now that there's no risk of falling over or collapsing) and still could reach it... I start looking around for a tall person or a store employee...

... I turn back to see my 5' mother climbing the shelves to that ginger ale the way a 4 year old climbs cupboard drawers.  To reach the ginger ale at the very top she needed a little... support from her eldest, me.

Final scene is a chain of short females... the shortest completely off the ground clinging to the side of a set of shelves, reaching for and handing down ginger ale bottles.   The tallest, me,  standing directly below her and supporting her from falling with my hands above my head bracing them against her butt.  The middle-height, my sister, taking the product and placing it in the cart.

It worked dammit.  And I was laughing my head off the whole time.
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Back to the thread:

As I said, my interest is in the mental and emotional will to submit and the control/authority that gives me, so I don't have any physical tricks to try and make a tall male submit (though I've lots of fun physical things I like to do with them and methods to highlight or express our dynamic!) so my response on "tricks" will be mentally-focused:

-Be low-to-no drama by nature and practice.  Life gives you all sorts of things, how you handle them is key.

-Don't be constantly or by nature a negative person.  We all, definitely me included!, have our funks and crabby days but there's a difference between that and being someone who focuses on the negative in life.

-Be comfortable in your dominant nature and just who you are in general.  "Being who you are and being it in style!", to paraphrase, goes a long way in most any control or authority matter.

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RE: dominating tall mens - 12/21/2007 8:54:26 AM   
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That was a funny reallife moment, RumpusParable.

For me, I'm 5'6.5" so slightly taller than the average white woman yet not tall enough for "tall sizes". My biggest pains come when I look for pants cause it's either too long or too short. Fox is no help at all here, he can't sew, but my husband can so that helps. I could sew but that's a patience thing and I can have surprisingly little patience when it comes to domestic matters.

I can use Fox though to me something avoid temptation. "Oh, I really want those chocolates! Boy, put those up on the top shelf way in the back." Then I have to work for it, getting out the little step ladder, and digging around and reaching.

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RE: dominating tall mens - 12/21/2007 9:34:40 AM   
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I have to agree with most of what has been said here.  I love tormenting tall men.  All of my sons are 6'4" to 6'5" (three of them), so a man has to be REALLY tall for me to even notice his height.  I am 5'6".  I don't think domination has anything to do with the physical strength or actions.  Domination, IMO, is mental.  There is just something delicious about a tall strong man kneeling at my feet wanting to please and serve me.  <sigh>  But then, any height can bring out those same feelings... as long as the chemistry and connection is there. <smile>

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RE: dominating tall mens - 12/21/2007 11:15:16 AM   
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TammyJo, I can certainly appreciate where you're coming from with pants!  I'm too short for the petite sizes to fit, they're still a few inches too long.  It's a mix of the occasional-breaking-down-and-hemming, rolling the cuffs up, and using thick-soled "cheater shoes"!

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RE: dominating tall mens - 12/21/2007 11:47:43 AM   
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My sub is 6 foot 4 and 250lbs and I am 5 ft 8. I put a leash on him or just reach up and grab his collar and bring him down to my level.  He spends a lot of time with bent knees, on his knees or sitting which works for him because he loves looking up at me.

You do have to work around the height difference, I'm thinking of buying a stool to stand on lol. But its not a huge problem you get used to it.

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RE: dominating tall mens - 12/21/2007 11:51:48 AM   
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I have to agree with most of what has been said here.  I love tormenting tall men.  All of my sons are 6'4" to 6'5" (three of them), so a man has to be REALLY tall for me to even notice his height.  I am 5'6".  I don't think domination has anything to do with the physical strength or actions.  Domination, IMO, is mental.  There is just something delicious about a tall strong man kneeling at my feet wanting to please and serve me.  <sigh>  But then, any height can bring out those same feelings... as long as the chemistry and connection is there. <smile>


I agree.  I'm over 6'2" and a woman's height has never been something I've given any thought to when it comes to my giving her my submission (I've never met a woman taller than me anyway).  From my view, her domination comes from within and isn't at all a physical thing.  She has to connect with my mind.  Once she does and gets deeper inside of it, I'll want to submit and will eventually have an increasing need to give my submission to her.  Under the right circumstance, I suppose I'd beg her to accept it from me.  LOL! 
 
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RE: dominating tall mens - 12/21/2007 10:47:10 PM   
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I agree with Nonsenseman.  While being dommed by a woman who is taller or the same height is nice there is something extra about being dommed by someone shorter.  It challenges expectations and shows that the control and/or submission comes from something other than just physical stature or fear.  And, no, they don't even need to know or make me think they know martial arts for this to work. 



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RE: dominating tall mens - 12/21/2007 11:19:57 PM   
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i know that this is the very worst place to say such a thing, except maybe in person; and i don't mean any disrespect to anyone (and i no doubt will catch some hell about this from Ma'am)... but doesn't it say something about someone's self-esteem if they get an extra rush from dominating someone who is significantly taller than them?

i'm 6'1", which is tall but not exceedingly tall; and i have been with women who range in height from 4'8" to 6'6" (and have been iopped by a similar range)... while i prefer women who are either significantly taller or shorter than me, i find it's more aesteticly pleasing to me than about any power exchange

i'm not saying i don't have my own self-esteem issues or preconceptions, they just don't have to do with relative height... with a father and brothers ranging from 6'6" and 7'6", i never really equated height with power; because i may have been the runt at home, i was still head and shoulders taller than most when i left the house... this may have given me a particular perspective, so i just don't quite get it

i believe a dominant woman, nomatter her size, should have found inner strength is heedless of physical aspects; and that is what she dominates with, her mind, determination, spirit and heart; not with physical power... so for her to feel a special kick from dominating a man taller or larger than her; for me this speaks of something of a sense of inferiority, a napolean complex if you will

i repeat that this is not said with disrespectful intent, and i do apologize if i step on any toes here


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RE: dominating tall mens - 12/22/2007 1:37:34 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: darchChylde

i know that this is the very worst place to say such a thing, except maybe in person; and i don't mean any disrespect to anyone (and i no doubt will catch some hell about this from Ma'am)... but doesn't it say something about someone's self-esteem if they get an extra rush from dominating someone who is significantly taller than them?

You're male, so I can't say that you entirely grasp the psychological complexities of being female, regarded as the weaker sex by society, and being in full consensual control of a male. 

Naturally, there can be deranged individuals for whom this is a pathology, but we're not talking about the psychologically infirmed.  We're speaking generally about sane, healthy people doing consensual BDSM.  It says nothing about the self-esteem if she has high regard for herself already and is further empowered and stimulated by controlling someone who towers over her like a sequoia.  I find it highly thrilling to have the proverbial "tiger by the tail" -- the strong, masculine male who surrenders himself solely to me -- and I don't hate myself, hate men or hate the world.

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RE: dominating tall mens - 12/22/2007 3:50:17 AM   
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well this is a frist for me. I have been wondering if any one would ever bring this up about height . as a sub male whos well over 6 tall  ive found many are so intemdated by my height   of    6' 8    Ive   never found a Mistress / Dommes whos was willing and feel a male at my height could be a submissive but  i  am  i stand 6' 8   225 lbs tall and thin but meat on the bones . for the Mistress' es / Dommes any favorties you like other then what a few have posted here on bringing down a big man / boi ?

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RE: dominating tall mens - 12/22/2007 5:16:44 AM   
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It isn't that height is the only rush but it can be a nice addition.

The heavy masochist I owned for 18 months was about 2 inches shorter than me. Height there didn't matter at all -- his ability to push my own SM limits by being so wonderful heavy as a bottom was a big rush for me.

I think we could turn the question around here, darchChylde, and ask if folks who get off on dominating someone smaller than them (that might me most het dom men) are dealing with self-esteem issues.

I don't think so. I think all of us to some degree are dealing with socially influenced ideas of appropriate objects of desire and biological averages.

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RE: dominating tall mens - 12/22/2007 5:23:11 AM   
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quote:

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well this is a frist for me. I have been wondering if any one would ever bring this up about height . as a sub male whos well over 6 tall ive found many are so intemdated by my height of 6' 8 Ive never found a Mistress / Dommes whos was willing and feel a male at my height could be a submissive but i am i stand 6' 8 225 lbs tall and thin but meat on the bones . for the Mistress' es / Dommes any favorties you like other then what a few have posted here on bringing down a big man / boi ?


See, the first thing I'd think wouldn't be "scared of this guy" but "dude eat something" -- skinny is a turn off for me and at 6'8" and only 225 you must be very skinny.

I used to be worried about harming Fox when he was under 170 at 5'11".

But yes, it can be an awful feeling to have people react negatively because of your physical body. Until Tom (husband) put on weight, he claims he often caught people staring at him with fear and distrust in his eyes and he's only 6' but he weighed around 140! To be honest when I first met him I thought he looked a little like death warmed over and I was pretty sure that if I touched him he'd turn to ashes. And this was when I was underweight myself!

I'll tell you, underweight isn't the issue any more.

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RE: dominating tall mens - 12/22/2007 7:07:41 AM   
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darchChylde wrote: doesn't it say something about someone's self-esteem if they get an extra rush from dominating someone who is significantly taller than them?

Er, no?  It's just a preference for a particular body shape.

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