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collared - 8/19/2005 6:10:15 PM

PAVANE

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practicaly all the sub/slaves on this site use the term collared. is this a amercanism in general use in the sm scene in the states? or just used here becuase of the site name?
ideas and comments please.

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RE: collared - 8/19/2005 6:31:06 PM

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You might want to read these.

http://www.steel-door.com/Consideration_Collar.html
http://www.steel-door.com/Training_Collar.html
http://www.steel-door.com/Formal_Collar.html

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RE: collared - 8/19/2005 6:41:06 PM

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Wow, I had no idea it was just Americans who use the term collared. I must remember to share that with all the others I chat with from other countries who are collared as well

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Collared simply means you are owned.

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RE: collared - 8/19/2005 7:20:55 PM

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I always thought a collar had more to do with the D/s aspect of the "scene/lifestyle" whatever you want to call it.

Pretty sure it's not just an American thing though.

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RE: collared - 8/19/2005 7:26:07 PM

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i do not, have not, hopefully never will use the term collared.
merely because it means nothing to me as a slave.
being Owned means something to me.
perhaps being collared means being Owned in bdsm speak and i missed that class.
personally i always felt being Owned? was what i as a slave/submissive desired. So i always called it that. but thats just me.

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RE: collared - 8/19/2005 8:49:28 PM

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Being Collared means to me, that I belong to my Dom. It has a lot of meaning to me, as much meaning as being married to him, if not more.

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RE: collared - 8/19/2005 9:09:42 PM

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using the term collared(wheather you truely wear one or not) simply means that you have been claimed by a particular Dom/Domme for their own...same since as saying you are Owned or (as i've heard elsewhere)Locked....from what i know it is used in many areas not just America but basically it is you are taken....hope you understand...i know i tend to ramble

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RE: collared - 8/19/2005 9:26:26 PM

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thanks i will

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RE: collared - 8/19/2005 9:27:52 PM

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i see thanks. what does that say on your forehead?

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RE: collared - 8/19/2005 9:33:33 PM

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The term 'collared' always reminds me of those nasty overboiled and bitter greens my grandma tried to get me to eat...with vinegar and onions...Collard greens, ewwww.

I am owned. I wear his collar.

(nice shirt..but would look ever hotter is you had a leather lace threaded thru some of the grommets)

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RE: collared - 8/19/2005 9:45:10 PM

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my gran, god rest her soul, never forced me to eat anything. she did make some fantastically strong pickled onions though. used to blow your head off.
glad you like the shirt, i took the laces out as i dont like them. too fiddly.

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RE: collared - 8/19/2005 11:26:27 PM

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For me, being collared means ALOT to me.

Its the same as wearing an engagement ring and then a wedding ring.

Doenst mean that its for everone, but for me, it means alot.

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RE: collared - 8/20/2005 12:04:05 AM

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I don't use it, because it doesn't really express my relationship.

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RE: collared - 8/20/2005 1:03:11 AM

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RE: collared - 8/20/2005 1:05:18 AM

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I don't use it, because it doesn't really express my relationship.

There's my prime example.

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RE: collared - 8/20/2005 1:17:09 AM

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I don't use it, because it doesn't really express my relationship.

There's my prime example.

:) Yup. I admire peopel for whom it works, because collars are a big fetish for me. But, I can't in good conscience use it, y'know?

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RE: collared - 8/20/2005 1:49:16 AM

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I don't use it, because it doesn't really express my relationship.

There's my prime example.

:) Yup. I admire peopel for whom it works, because collars are a big fetish for me. But, I can't in good conscience use it, y'know?

How come? if you dont mind me asking. I'm just curious as to why the collaring tradition cant work in your relationship.

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RE: collared - 8/20/2005 11:56:04 AM

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How come? if you dont mind me asking. I'm just curious as to why the collaring tradition cant work in your relationship.

Because collars really aren't that important to him. I wear a collar because it is something that makes me feel -really- good, and that's something he likes me to feel. It seem, to him, that the phrase "collared" is unnecessary. Owned works for us, because that's what I -am-.

I wear his collar, mostly because I derive pleasure from it, and he likes to allow me that pleasure. I am owned by him, because he wants to own me.

To, I find that 'collared' implies a kind of interaction that we don't have. That is, if I say "I am collared to him" people expect a dynamic that doesn't exist between us. I'm probably deluding myself to think that "owned" doesn't, but at least what is convayed is closer.

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RE: collared - 8/20/2005 2:17:57 PM

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i think, like everything else in the lifestyle collared means many things to many people. Generally, it is regarded as a term to illustrate being owned by a Dominant. i view collared as actually being owned, and then going through a ceremony in which an actual collar is given as a symbol of the relationship (much like wedding rings are symbolic to a marriage in the vanilla realm).

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RE: collared - 8/20/2005 2:27:46 PM

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How come? if you dont mind me asking. I'm just curious as to why the collaring tradition cant work in your relationship.

Because collars really aren't that important to him. I wear a collar because it is something that makes me feel -really- good, and that's something he likes me to feel. It seem, to him, that the phrase "collared" is unnecessary. Owned works for us, because that's what I -am-.

I wear his collar, mostly because I derive pleasure from it, and he likes to allow me that pleasure. I am owned by him, because he wants to own me.

To, I find that 'collared' implies a kind of interaction that we don't have. That is, if I say "I am collared to him" people expect a dynamic that doesn't exist between us. I'm probably deluding myself to think that "owned" doesn't, but at least what is convayed is closer.

Thats fair enough. Does your Dom have no desire to mark you with anything? like a Vanilla man would put an engagment/wedding ring?

But yes, Collaring is something that has to be important to the people involved, doesnt mean that the community shuns not following these rites. Its purely a choice for you to make.

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